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Morning tantrums help (4 year old)

  1. Mrs. Carrot

    blogger / persimmon / 1491 posts

    Thank you all so much for the suggestions! Lots of great stuff for us to try, for sure.

  2. dolphin

    pomegranate / 3754 posts

    @Mrs. Carrot: I don't have any new suggestions but just want to say I feel for you! We get our fair share of morning tantrums and it's the worse. Luckily it's not every morning otherwise I'd cry and hit my head against the wall but we've had to fight her to get her changed for school and out the door in time. She doesn't have any problems getting out of bed but she just moves really slow in the morning. Anyway, just want to say good luck and I hope it improves for you! I know it can be so frustrating and it makes mornings stressful on everyone.

  3. mediagirl

    hostess / wonderful persimmon / 25463 posts

    @Mrs. Carrot: have you tried some of these suggestions? How are things going now?

  4. sarac

    pomelo / 5093 posts

    This was my with my oldest and going to bed super late. As you would suspect, it got far better when she got a little older and finally stopped napping. But we still dress the night before, and she gets to watch 1 or 2 short episodes of a tv show in the mornings to motivate her to wake up. We've also used a sticker chart when it's been bad.

  5. Mrs. Carrot

    blogger / persimmon / 1491 posts

    @mediagirl: Thanks for asking! We actually haven't had to try much, weirdly. She's been going to sleep much more easily than usual the last 2 weeks - still late, but going to bed mostly on her own, versus us having to hang out in the room with her, which she always insisted on. I had to go to the bathroom one evening and told her I'll be right back and then got distracted and didn't come back and before I knew it she was asleep, so we did it again the next night and except for one day, she hasn't asked us to come back. So that might be helping some. Then in the mornings, I admit I did resort to a bit of competitive bribery - I told her she could have an "extra" dessert if she gets dressed and brushes her teeth before her dad does, and if he beats her, he has her dessert. That seemed to work really well the first day I tried it - she sprung up, got ready, no fuss, no muss, and I let her pick out a small piece of dessert (an M&M or a small chocolate ball, which is what she usually gets in the evening) after breakfast. Not the healthiest approach, but I've now done it for two weeks running and it works every time, and half the time she doesn't even remember that I offered the dessert option or she picks watermelon as her dessert. So we'll see how it goes. We're changing out her bed this weekend (moving her from the crib minus rail that she's been in and into a full size bed), and her 4th birthday is next week and lots of excitement with family in town so there might be other ups and downs to manage but the last two weeks haven't been bad at all.

  6. travellingbee

    hostess / papaya / 10218 posts

    She sounds EXACTLY like my son. We wake him up and get dressed and in car right away. He eats at school. But it's still a battle sometimes. We used to have to occasionally dress him at school because it was too hard to fight him at home.

  7. swan_and_cygnets

    apple seed / 1 posts

    I see this post is 9 months old - but Mrs. Carrot I could have written every single word you have written - so I hope you see this. Would love to chat and trade ideas with you, since we clearly have the same kiddo! LOL.

  8. Mrs. Carrot

    blogger / persimmon / 1491 posts

    @swan_and_cygnets: Happy to chat! Feel free to PM. Unfortunately I probably don't have a lot to offer, because most of these issues resolved on their own. Kiddo mostly stopped napping at school, which made bedtime easier and seemed to make wakeup time easier as well. We also started engaging a bit less with the crankiness, and started lifting her up and just talking to her about the day and weather, while getting her dressed and ready, so there aws usually a kernel of something she would hang on to and snap out of being grumpy. And toward the end of the year we shifted our schedules to let her sleep later, which synced up with her rhythm a bit better as well.


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