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@Hazel27: Thanks for the commiseration. So annoying. I mean how am I supposed to hit my o date when you don't give it to me until it's past?? LOL

I did the math and there is still a slight chance... I mean the slightest of slight. We dtd on cd16. I had spotting on cd20,21 and 22. I'm not sure how ovulation spotting works though. But I'd think maybe I o'd on cd20 or cd21, then there is a small chance some little swimmers were still alive. (oh my the crazy things you'll tell yourself while ttc)

@Ajsmommy: swimmers can survive up to 5 days! keep your chin up!

Ugh sounds crazy but I think I am out. I tested this am and BFN. I tested at 9dpo with both of my previous pregnancies and they were both clear positives - there was NOTHING there, not even a squinter. So upset. I'm just so bitter still about my m/c, it makes these passing months a million times worse.

@jojogirl nooooooo still holding a little hope for you though--don't people say it's different with every pregnancy etc blah blah? will you test again in a couple of days?

@marley not to encourage total insanity, but you could get some drug store cheapos this afternoon--those work best in the late afternoon, or so I've heard.

@LCTBQE: I'm sure I will, even though I don't think I can deal with anymore false hope

@JoJoGirl: Hugs!!! Hoping for the best for you. 9 dpo is really early. Good luck!

@marley every on-week since we've started TTC I've been carrying mine in a leather pouch that's big enough to fit one of the plastic dixie cups from the office kitchen there are so many chicks with their periods "discreetly" transporting tampons that no one gives me a second glance. kind of lame, but I've been glad just to know what the hell's going on. and it did work!

@jojogirl I hear you

@marley: thanks! I guess only time will tell!

@JoJoGirl: I'm so sorry. I'm right there with you on the bitterness after a miscarriage. My good friend at work is having her baby 10/29 and I was supposed to be 20 weeks and finding out baby's gender by then. My other good work friend also just told me she is 8 weeks pregnant too. We all had baby's at the same time 2 years ago. It's so hard because I wanted that last baby so much. We had 2 miscarriages before my son and they were hard, but not this hard. I think knowing how great it is to have my son makes me it even harder.

I tested this morning 9DPO and it was negative. I'm going to try to hold off tomorrow and test Wednesday because I have a gut feeling I'm not pregnant. For all 4 pregnancies to date I have tested positive on 9 or 10 DPO. No symptoms at all either.

@Dr. Pepper: @Nutella: Oh dear - I'm so sorry to you both. And thanks for the good wishes. I have a friend who got pregnant with her second the same time as I did, and I've been horrible dealing since the m/c I just keep lashing out. It's not her fault! AF is probably coming today or tomorrow. I'm just having so much of a harder time dealing with this than when we TTC the first time around.

@tiramisu: @LCTBQE: I got my flashing smiley face this morning! hopefully it will stop flashing in a couple of days.

@jojogirl @Nutella I'm sorry this month is a bust, but you're tried and true it's going to happen, soon! Agreed that everyone else on earth is pregnant right now. I just got home from getting my friend's dog because she went into early labor, this right after throwing her baby shower 2 weeks post d&c (not recommended). It's nice to hear from other people who understand that we can be happy for them even though it compounds our troubles, but yes deep down we're happy for them. Woof.

@marley that's great!!!

@tiramisu joining you in total what-is-going-on confusion. I don't have a cbefm so not sure whether that trumps wondfos, but my OPKs are also throwing me for a loop.

If anyone wants to weigh in I would so appreciate it-- Typical cycles (pre-m/c) are always 26-28 days and I usually O at CD 13-15 with a big buildup of color on my OPKs--pretty standard. I'm now at CD17, got a little EWCM last night and today, absolutely no CM of any kind before that this cycle, and my OPK's are hopelessly, totally blank. Temps are pre-ovulation and steady. If it wasn't for the OPK's, I'd just assume that my O is a few days late and that I'm fertile from the egg white, but the wondfos are making me think I'm stuck in anovulatory limbo. WTF?

@winterbee ooof, sorry guess I'm not making much of a case for OPK's, but I'm still excited for you to try them this month and maybe get a leg up. xx

@WinterBee: Oh no, sorry about AF. Hope the opks next month can help. My OB recommended I use them after I told her I had long cycles.

@LCTBQE: hehe welcome to the wtf is going on with my cycle club. Somehow it's like your body knows when you're trying to track it and just goes wonky. I have the wondfos too! Hmm maybe you haven't ovulated yet if it's still negative? O could just be really late maybe. Do you usually have more ewcm? I just started using wondfos so I haven't figured out how well it corresponds to CM and I don't temp. Sorry I'm not much help, but I can commiserate with you!

@LCTBQE: I can't really speak to the OPK strips as have never used them, but EWCM is definitely a good sign (which can go on for a number of days) so you should hopefully be able to get busy on those days to be safe...does that help at all?! Sorry you're in unknown wtf land!!

PS:you are a true champ doing that for your friend so soon after d&c!

Lost in the land of WTF over here too.... on cd30, no aunt flow yet.... But I refuse to test bc fertility friend shows that I'm supposed to have a 33 day cycle (mind you I haven't had one that long ever). But since it says cd1 is sunday that's when i'll test or maybe wait til Monday if there is no af.

I have my yearly tomorrow... oh joy! but maybe i'll get some direction/help

Ok everyone! I'm not sure what to think. I took a test this morning (a FRER), waited my 3 minutes, nothing. I was in a hurry. I put it in the drawer. I got my son ready and then myself ready for the day. 45 minutes later I looked at the test again as I was leaving the house. What do you think?

@Dr. Pepper: It looks positive to me! Congrats!! I'd just retest tomorrow, should be darker by then.

@BandDmommy: @JoJoGirl: but I didn't see this until 45 minutes after I took the test. Can I still believe it? Blah! I want to call my doctor and have a hCG and progesterone today so I can have another hCG on Friday and start my progesterone if needed, but I don't want to be the crazy person who isn't actually pregnant! Ok, I will try to remain calm.

@Dr. Pepper: I'd test tonight with a hold if you want. I actually get stronger positives at night.