I've read SO many posts recently about postpartum care (which, honestly, have now left me a bit scarred and terrified of what's to come!) with huge shopping lists of all the things you need, but I still find I'm not sure what to get/what I'll really need. Would love to hear from experienced moms about what was your lifesaver, or what's unnecessary, or what you wish you'd stocked up on ahead of time.

Specifically:
-Pads vs Depends (I already have a bunch of Kotex overnights but am wondering if people preferred having Depends?)
-Tucks pads... did you use them? How did you use them?
-Ice packs for your lady bits... what did you use/how did you make them? I've seen a million ideas/"recipes" online and frankly I just want whatever is the easiest solution because I'm feeling pretty lazy right now
-Earth Mama bottom spray/other similar products... yea or nay?

Anything else?
Thanks!