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  1. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    @MaryM: thanks! I'm still pretty torn about whether I should get one at all . . . hoping by the end of this month I can feel more confident. I think your experience is right on with what I am thinking . . . right now will involve too much freaking out. that is exactly the input I need!

  2. ChiCalGoBee

    GOLD / pear / 1842 posts

    @bhbee: I went back and forth on this. A friend of mine who has had multiple losses and is due a week before me got one for Christmas. I am really happy for her but, for myself, am concerned it would just freak me out too much if I couldn't find the heartbeat on my own. I think it totally depends on personality-my anxiety probably couldn't handle the "I can't find it, what if something is wrong, etc." so I'm just hopeful that things are going well and that I'll feel movement sometime in the next 4+ weeks. How are things going?

  3. ChiCalGoBee

    GOLD / pear / 1842 posts

    I have my NT scan tomorrow at 13 weeks on the nose. Symptoms have changed in the last few weeks (way less nausea, but more heartburn, same amount of exhaustion). I felt okay the first two weeks after my last appointment but have been nervous over the last few days, and I am so anxious for tomorrow. If it goes well I'm planning to tell close friends and extended family about the baby. I also need to tell my clients sooner rather than later (I have my own business), since I showed really early this pregnancy and am having a hard time hiding it. Fingers and toes crossed all is well in there.

  4. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    @ChiCalGoBee: so many good thoughts for tomorrow! I think I’m also in the camp where i couldn’t handle the anxiety. I felt movement around 13 weeks with my second so hoping it will also be early this time. I’m pretty sick so that helps me freak out less but i know it’s no guarantee.

  5. ChiCalGoBee

    GOLD / pear / 1842 posts

    @bhbee: Thank you so much. Trying to remain calm. When is your next appointment? I want to be sending good vibes your way!

  6. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    @ChiCalGoBee: thank you two weeks from today! We’re planning the nipt draw that day and hopefully it comes back with no issues.

    Keep us posted on tomorrow! I always get nervous as appts come up too.

  7. ChiCalGoBee

    GOLD / pear / 1842 posts

    @bhbee: Thanks for your support! It went really well. Baby was measuring over a week ahead, so they're going to look at whether or not they want to adjust my due date. I am very relieved to have it behind me! Thinking of you, and hoping your two weeks until the appointment passes quickly!

  8. periwinklebee

    GOLD / nectarine / 2340 posts

    @bhbee: I bought one early in my pregnancy because I got a good price used, and first tried it at 8.5 weeks. I was expecting it to be too early and not to find anything, but I found the heart beat quickly. I did not have anything between a very early scan to make sure it was a pregnancy and not abnormal tissue from my partial molar pregnancy, and the NT scan at 12 weeks, and I liked knowing at least that the baby was alive for the moment. I limited myself to using it twice a week and never had too much difficulty finding the heart beat, despite an anterior placenta. It needs to be precisely located, but the youtube videos demonstrating are pretty helpful. I continued to use it until I felt regular movement, which was pretty late due to the anterior placenta.

    I hope the next couple of weeks fly by!

  9. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    @ChiCalGoBee: that’s great! Measurements are so unreliable in my opinion ... my daughter first measured way behind so they moved my due date ... then she measured 10 days ahead of the new due date two weeks later! But i always liked measuring ahead

  10. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    @periwinklebee: thank you! We have a lot of fun stuff going on so that should help - my son is 3 today and my daughter is 6 in 11 days!

    How are things going for you as you get so close??

  11. periwinklebee

    GOLD / nectarine / 2340 posts

    @bhbee: Happy birthday to your son! I hope you have a wonderful day celebrating! And that the next couple of weeks fly by.

    Only a few more days until the due date... I finished a work project and handed in my promotion packet yesterday, so that's a big relief! In some ways it's been good that things have been so busy, as I haven't had much time to worry or wallow in the discomfort

  12. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    Ugh ladies, had a horrible moment this morning and just had to tell someone who understands. Went to undress this morning and saw a little dried blood in just the right spot. I just couldn’t believe it and both started thinking “I can’t do this again” and planning about when i could go into the ob to check it out. Totally freaking out as this was the same time i saw blood last time.

    After a few minutes of freaking out i had time to check it out and didn’t find any more blood ... and then remembered that i trimmed down there last night and must have knicked myself. Huge relief but omg. This whole thing is still so scary

  13. periwinklebee

    GOLD / nectarine / 2340 posts

    @bhbee: I'm so sorry First tri really, really sucks. You are so close to having your NIPT done, and results will come back quickly with that. I know it doesn't take away the worry - or definitely didn't for me - but I hope it at least helps to breath easier for a bit. Thinking of you and sending so many good wishes

  14. ChiCalGoBee

    GOLD / pear / 1842 posts

    @bhbee: I'm so, so sorry. Glad it was a false alarm!

    To make you feel better I'll share my TMI moment: I ran a half marathon Sunday and stopped in a porta potty at about the 9 mile mark. I noticed some brown on a panty liner and freaked out.....and realized it was not, in fact, blood, but....uhm....probably something else. . There's a lot that goes on down there. Your appointment a week from tomorrow cannot come soon enough!

  15. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    @periwinklebee: @ChiCalGoBee: thank you ladies!

    And @ChiCalGoBee: you are right about a lot going on! Good thing with pregnancy and parenting you stop caring about things that used to seem gross

  16. bhbee

    pomegranate / 3180 posts

    @periwinklebee: also sending you good thoughts for your last week (or days!) of pregnancy! Definitely update here when he comes

  17. periwinklebee

    GOLD / nectarine / 2340 posts

    @bhbee: Thank you!


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