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Sounds like couples therapy may be in order.

So tough.
I would talk to him again. If you haven't before, write out a list of your specific expectations of him and the consequences if they aren't met - for me, in that scenario, I might say something like, if you come home drunk more than once a (week/month/year), I am contacting a marriage counsellor and setting up an appointment. If you avoid spending time with your daughter more than (1/2/3/4/5) days a week, I want you to seek therapy (and follow up to ensure he does) to see what is driving you away. Basically, hopefully this would show that you want to fight for the relationship, but that you aren't going to put up with the way things are going. Maybe have an ultimate consequence in mind as well, like you will take kids and go live somewhere else for 2 weeks if he doesn't change anything and doesn't adhere to the consequences.
It seems very cold as I'm writing it out, but I know for my husband and I and are relationship this would be the only way that it would work. Please feel free to disregard what I'm saying if it wouldn't fit at all for your family.
I hope things get better. I would be extremely frustrated in your shoes.

I'd want to know why he is more interested in drinking than being a father, or if there's some kind of alcoholism or depression going on. I would not beat around the bush or be wishy washy at all. This isn't a new problem. Your husband just doesn't seem interested in being a good husband or father.

If he couldn't long term fix his shit, I'd leave him (and give him full warning of why i was) because, well....that isn't how *I* operate. I wouldn't want my children to grow up seeing that example of a relationship and thinking it is acceptable (and therefore, the cycle repeating).

I would definitely try counseling. It's tough, no joke, but can be really helpful to a marriage. Another do to is to suggest date nights or specific nights out with the guys instead of all of the time.

I don't know your history but this is how I'd approach it with my husband:

Sit down with a calendar and make a schedule. When he gets boys night out, when you get girls nights, when you have date nights, planned family time. And plan actual events for these times ( even if it's father daughter ice cream and park evening) it's harder to skipout on pre planned and recorded events.

But my husband reacts well to structure and if he was going out all the time it would be more from not realizing then not wanting to be around.

My experience is that you can't control whether or not other people change, what you can control is your reaction to their behaviour.

I'd think long and hard about my feelings toward the situation, how does it impact me, how does it impact my child?