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DH told MIL at around 12 weeks. I told my mom around 14 weeks.
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8 wks w ds
Rt away w cp
Will wait to later first us for future -
DH insisted on telling MIL right away the first time (i didn't want to). I didn't tell my parents until about 9 weeks because even though I was already living with DH, we weren't married or engaged yet & I was scared they would be upset (they werent). We told both our families (parents & siblings) at the same time (around 4 weeks) this time. I would want my family there for support if something happened. My best friend knew right away both times.
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I'm debating!
First pregnancy (with DS), we told them at about 6 weeks. Second pregnancy (a loss) we told them about 5.
I'm now about 3 weeks pregnant, but I work for/with my mom, and could really use her help with DS when I'm exhausted (my first trimesters are always really exhausting.) I'm thinking I may just tell my mom (and not my dad) soon. I also need to avoid lifting heavy things at work. We're heading out of town this weekend, so I may at least wait until we get back. Then at least it couldn't be a CP.
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With this pregnancy we waited untill 9weeks....our first two eneded quickly with CP after IUIs sooo when we got PG on our own, we waited until we saw baby and HB!
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We told them at 8 weeks the first time. This time we are telling them at our Thanksgiving dinner this weekend. I will be almost 12 weeks. I would have told earlier but I thought it'd be fun to announce when the whole family is together. Unfortunately my NT scan isn't scheduled til after thanksgiving but everything looked great at 8w.
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We told my family @ 6w with the 1st pregnancy b/c we were visiting from out of state & I just couldn't not, but then we m/c'd 2 days later. I was sad to have gotten their hopes up, but I sooo needed their comfort, so was (selfishly) glad I had told them. We told dh's parents when we returned from that trip, & they were also very comforting. This time around, I told my mom @ 5w b/c she knew we were getting ready to start fertility treatments. I then caved & told my dad soon after that & my mom told my sister. We still haven't told dh's parents yet (7 wks tomorrow), but I kind of hope we can soon. We see them every weekend & they are watching me like a hawk & are going to guess sooner than later, anyway!
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We told them after my first doctor appointment and ultrasound (about 6 weeks). I wanted confirmation of a heartbeat before anyone else knew!
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Told around 12 weeks with the first, maybe 10 with second? I was very visibly showing with both earlier. They don't live here, but others could totally tell.
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I told my mom pretty much right after testing and telling my husband. We actually weren't speaking at the time because our relationship is... Well just kind of awful, but I wanted to keep the promise I made that she would be the first to know aside from DH. His parents/brothers/sisters all got phone calls or Skyped that same day. Even if something had happened, that's something we would have wanted people in the loop on.
Both sets of parents would be so so pissed if we waited until 20 weeks!
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Right away with both sets of parents. We found out the week before Christmas so we told my parents when we saw them in person for Christmas (we only see them once every year or 2). We also told our siblings since we didn't want to keep it a secret (and my brother likes to pretend punch me/spar and I didn't want to worry about him punching my stomach!!!!).
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We told my parents and ILs within minutes the first pregnancy. the second, I think we waited a few hours before we told them all, lol.
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We told our parents as soon as we knew! So, 4 weeks.
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When the stick turned positive!
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With my miscarriage and first pregnancy, right away. With this pregnancy around 7 wks because we were living cross country and I wanted to tell them in person (and wanted to wait til after my first ultrasound).
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I really want to tell my parents early on. 1st pregnancy I told them at 11 weeks. I will probably hold back until 10-12 weeks though, because my mom is traditional in that she thinks you can't eat this or that. The Chinese cool and hot logic- e.g. need to avoid watermelon (cool). I know the main ones but I'm afraid there aren't ones I don't know, and I'm eating it that day and she's yelling at me for eating it. I will avoid what I can, but the truth is it's much harder when someone is watching your every move. While I don't believe in all the concepts, once she tells me something it's kind of hard to disregard and not feel guilty about. so near the end of the first trimester it is...
and if something happens, i don't want a "I told you so". My mom doesn't understand that a miscarriage can be natural (e.g. chromosomal). -
Immediately
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I didn't say anything to my parents either time until after I was in the second trimester. We don't talk a lot, so it worked for us.
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We told them both sets right away, my mom and dad work closer to me than DH, so if there was an emergency I would be calling one of them to take me to hospital while DH drove the time back. For me, my mom would be the first person I would call if I needed anything (still a momma's girl at almost 30) so I wanted to share right away. Same with DH's parents, they helped a lot when I was feeling sick the first trimester.
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3w5d. Thanks IVF! Killer of privacy haha. They knew I was going through that so they found out right away. Let me tell you, next time around I am keeping my lips sealed. All my family is so excited I am pregnant but were also way too eager at wanting to tell other family/friends which I don't want.
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I told my mom just a few days after I found out, so at about 4 weeks! And we told my MIL on her birthday at 7 weeks right after my first ultrasound so we could give her a US photo of our little grain of rice haha.
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With our first and second, we told them pretty much at around 8-10 weeks (after the first doctor's appts). With our third, we waited til around 16 weeks, after an early u/s to determine the sex and to tell them at Thanksgiving!
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We told DH's parents at 8 weeks (only because we were going on vacation with them and I was super sick and didn't want them finding out by default since it was their first grandchild and that would just be boring!)
We told mine around 11 weeks (because we were visiting them and wanted to tell them in person).
Ideally, I would have waited until after our NT results came back before telling anyone. I specifically told my mother not to tell anyone that didn't know (also had told grandparents and siblings) until we said it was okay, and about 5 minutes later she put it on facebook (we had no intentions of ever making a facebook post about it). Luckily, I saw it almost immediately and demanded that she take it down, so no one really even saw it. I was pretty pissed though. Nothing bothers me more than other people sharing my news via facebook before I have (or at all if I have chosen not to!)
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We wanted to tell them all in person on thanksgiving day when I'm 12 weeks. I told my mom 72hrs after finding out, and telling my dad and brother at our family beach trip this weekend at 6weeks. Mom is going to pretend not to know! DH is adamant we tell his parents in person, and won't see them until thanksgiving.
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First pregnancy we told them at 10 weeks after we heard the heartbeat (lost that baby at 21 weeks) and second pregnancy (with LO) I told them the day I found out since I knew I would be stressed and paranoid through most of the pregnancy and needed their support. I actually told them in the hospital waiting room while we waited to meet my brand new niece
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The day after my second beta. We hadn't told anyone we were doing another IVF round, and I was about to explode with the news. I figured I'd want their support if I miscarried.
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I told my parents right away. They were there for me all through the IVF process, so I couldn't just stop giving them information. I also know I want their support if I have a miscarriage.
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the day we found out. both times.
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@autumnlove: We told them early. After our first pregnancy ended in loss, it was really isolating to go through it alone. After getting pregnant with our daughter, we told our parents and best friends that week.
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I had to have surgery when I was 6 weeks, both my parents came into town for it so I told them a couple days beforehand.
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We told both sets of parents at 8 weeks, after our 8 week scan. My DH wanted to wait until 12 weeks, I wanted to tell right away, so 8 weeks seemed like a good compromise. I told most of my friends and co-workers at 12 weeks, and told my students (I'm a high school teacher) at 13 weeks. I think we'll go public on Facebook at 16 weeks (in just a couple of days) after my next scan.
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@catomd00: oh my gosh, that would have made me so mad, too!! I have worried my mom will tell more people, and since she told my sister when I told her not to tell anyone, I have reason to worry.
Fortunately, we plan to tell dh's parents tomorrow (@ 7.5w), so our fear of them finding out through someone else will be relieved.
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I told my mom immediately. She's my rock and can always talk me off the ledge. We told my in-laws around 14 weeks, that was DH's idea.
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Right away...like, two days after I found out. But, we were temporarily living in their basement, so it was kind of hard to hide.
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