Duh! Sounds like it should be one of the top things on this list to do? Right?!?

Or am I wrong in assuming this?

Why wouldn't you want to, at least, talk to someone in the family about your plans? Be it to plan two separate showers or one together?

I just don't understand.

Also, this doesn't seem to be a work friend. It seems like a friend friend. I understand a work baby shower is different and family doesn't need to be involved.

Vent over. Thanks for listening...

ETA: BTW, the date is tentatively set... without letting us know.
Whatever, we were thinking of having our own family baby shower but I would have liked to be included. Or have the option of working together to plan one together.