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Sleep with her. My son joins us in bed around 11 pm and goes back to his bed around 4 am after feeding twice. No pumping and I typically get a lot more sleep. He's 1 year old tomorrow. We are breastfeeding till he is 2 because of allergies.

Even if you stopped right now, she will have gotten most of theBFing benefits! You've done a great job... And yes sometimes it's very hard and very lonely. I wonder if you'd find right now that you'd have a rough go of it anyway because she's just been sick. So quitting right now might not even get you the rest you desperately need. Can your SO do a pumped bottle for one of the night feeds? Also think how good you'll feel if you do meet that year goal!

I agree! If you can supplement with formula, your baby will still be getting the nutrients from breastmilk. Don't beat yourself up mama! You made it to 8.5 months and that's AWESOME!

I think cutting out the night feeds was critical for us in helping LO sleep through the night, and one of the things we did to help cut down on night feeds and eventually eliminate them was that when LO woke up at night, we'd send DH in there to comfort him instead of me. I'd found that when I was doing night feeds, LO was nursing for comfort, not hunger- he'd nurse for like a minute or two and then go back to sleep. If DH went in, LO didn't have the option to nurse, and got used to not having those feedings. Our comfort strategies varied- early on DH would try picking him up and rocking him and we progressed to really trying to comfort him without picking him up. We also used the pacifier a fair bit to get through the wakings.
The other thing I'd say is that, depending on your kid (I know this does not work for every kid), you may be able to find a happy medium between CIO and immediate comforting. I was really adamant about not doing CIO but we were getting no sleep (DS was still waking up every three hours until he was like 7 months old) and so we worked on giving him more time to self-soothe before getting them. I don't think we ever let him cry for more than 5 minutes at a time or so (we never had one of those "cried for two hours" kind of CIO nights), but I really found that a ton of the time if I let him cry for literally a minute or two, he'd go to sleep and be fine.

Wow! I think you're doing pretty awesome to have been BF for that long! I've only been at it for 11 days and I find it extremely trying and discouraging at times. I don't have any advice for you, but just wanted to say that I think you are doing amazing for have kept up as long as you have!

Add in the formula during the day, or maybe try to increase the amount of calories LO is getting from solids during the day? Several of the books I have recommend feeding plenty during the day in order to gradually phase out the night feeds. There's no point wearing yourself out. Could you try cooled boiled water then in a bottle for one of the night wakes, once you increase the day feeds so that you're sure the night waking is for comfort and not true hunger?
Fair play to you for getting as far as you have. You don't need to suffer with it! Do what you can, not what you feel you ought to.