-
@looch: @winniebee: that's the expectation here in NC, too. Actually, my lo's daycare works on it in the 3's class because they want them to be able to write their names when they get to the pre-K (4's) class!!
-
DD1 could write her name at 3, but it took a few additional months to really perfect it. DD2 looks to be on track for similar results and I've been a SAHM with her. I don't think it has to do with your working status. There's a huge range in when kids write largely due to their own interest in it!
-
@Andrea: oh my point is he stayed home with me for 1 year. I'm kinda annoyed I pulled him out because I certainly didn't work with him on any of this.
-
she turned 3 in Oct and can write her name (she does have a short name)
I did make up a song (to the tune of Bingo) to help her memorize her name. She's been singing that song since before two. I didn't really work on writing it with her but she does have the wipe able tracing letter thing she likes to play with so maybe that helped?
http://www.usborne.com/catalogue/book/1~EY~WC~5182/wipe-clean-alphabet.aspx
-
@BandDmommy: don't worry. DD1 just started K and trust me, there are still kids who are working on writing their names!
-
LO can. But I should say that one of her major interests is writing (I think because I'm a writer). She's been interested in it, asking us to spell and show her how to write certain things, starting with her name. In her 3s class not everyone knows how to spell their name but the teachers do work on it with them--usually writing it in highlighter and the kids have to trace it.
-
What, they have to sign in??
DD is 3.5 and she can write her name. I never taught her at home because I didn't want to teach her incorrectly and have it be hard to undo. Her preschool does workbooks. I never felt the need to teach her beforehand because she didn't show any interest. Now that she is interested (bc of school) we practice at home.
I would feel stressed out if it was my responsibility to ensure she knew how to write her name before preschool! Did they tell you this before he started?
-
My three year old did not. He never showed any interest and I didn't want to push him. He's four now and a couple months into pre k and can write it pretty well already. I would definitely not worry about it!
-
@Freckles: It's a skill they are working on, but there are kids in his class that can sign in. We toured other preschools and they did not mention it being necessary. That's why I honestly never thought to work on it.
-
@BandDmommy: reading and math at 3?!
Char can't write her name, can pick her name tag out of the line up about half the time, doesn't know how to read, and can't do any math. She turned 3 in July. She can draw a crooked circle and knows the letter C, but that's about it. I'm not worried in the slightest.
-
@HabesBabe: Reading simple words and math Montessori style.
-
Not at 3. We did some sand "writing" at that age, but it was mostly me writing letters in the sand and him observing and doodling. I've only started really teaching him to print this year. We started just before he turned 5. It has gone very smoothly. I don't consider myself (or anyone else) a "bad mom" because I didn't insist that he learn to write at 3.
@BandDmommy: I don't think there's a fine line between pushing and being neglectful of academics at all. There is definitely a happy middle ground. I would classify a "curriculum" that insists on 3 year-olds writing their names as pointless (and thoughtless) pushing. It's not an academic exercise to be able to write one's name. Printing is a mechanical skill, and mechanics are generally very easy to teach.
-
@BandDmommy: too early!!
-
@BandDmommy: I wonder if these kids are older and have already been there for a year? when I asked the teachers at orientation if I should go over writing with her, they said not to bother because she would learn when she started the program. She is also at a Montessori school.
-
@honeybear: I was joking when I called myself a "bad mom." But I don't think teaching a child to write their name is pointless, pushing and thoughtless. This was more a question on whether your child can write than questioning my sons schooling. But I appreciate your comments/concerns/etc.
-
@BandDmommy: my son's school has started teaching them and my son loves it but it's a little above his level right now (also 3)
-
Kind of. Her name is W!lla but when she writes it it looks like WIIIH.
-
Nope, I do the dots but she has no interest and I don't want to push it, she just turned 3.
-
@BandDmommy: I was responding to your statement that you were worried, which was followed up with a characterization that not having pressured a 3 year-old to learn to write their name was somehow being a "bad mom." I took that at face value.
You did, however, misread what I said. I didn't say "teaching a child to write their name is pointless..." I'm not an anarchist. I said a curriculum that insists on teaching a 3 year-old to write is pushing. Because in a school-like setting for 3 year-olds, it is.
-
DS will be 3 next month and just started preschool in September. He has never been into drawing so he can't write letters or draw shapes and I haven't even thought to work on it with him. He can identify his name on a tag when he walks into his classroom but they haven't said anything to me about working on writing, and we are at an NAEYC accredited school. I think they work on tracing/writing names in the 4YO class.
I wouldn't sweat it, friend!
-
@honeybear: I never said I would have pressured my son into writing, I was more saying it was not something I thought to work on.
-
At that age LO could write his name but not well. He did not like drawing, coloring or writing, and it was a struggle to get out of his comfort zone. These are all things that preschool worked on with him, and he overcame a lot in the past year. He signs in every morning as well, and he is one of the few kids who can write his name. They trace the letters to their name and most kids just scribble. It's more about recognizing the letters in their name and attempting to trace at least the first letter.
-
Also I never worked on writing with him until after he started preschool. I wanted to reinforce what he learned, but I wasn't great at initiating it beforehand. I also stay at home, and I let him take the lead on how he learns. It's mostly play based.
-
Mine will be 3 in a few weeks. She writes the first letter and can recognize and spell her name. I didn't push it - she just did it one day with bath crayons.
ETA: don't be hard on yourself! You spent a year loving him and caring for him so he'd be a well-adjusted, awesome kid. He's got years and lots of help to learn the other stuff!
-
@BandDmommy: Yeah, I know what you mean. I wouldn’t worry though about writing your name at 3 – our preschool program director was really emphatic that it is *not* expected at this age at all, and that what is most important is building a positive relationship with letters (and numbers) and a positive relationship with learning and making real-world connections with letters, rather than just rote writing/copying of something a child doesn’t understand.
-
Yeah, he's been able to for a while, and can write letters (in order). BUT he's been obsessed with the alphabet since he was about 16 months old. Like seriously obsessed. Any time we take out paper for him to color (at home or at school) he just wants to write letters.
They have started practicing recognizing and writing their names in his preschool class, but in a very casual way.
-
Yeah, this is more like a 5 year milestone. No way should a 3 year old be expected to do it. If so, great, but no one is behind if they can't. My 4 year old is just starting to make letters, and still only the easy ones.
-
My girl has just turned three and can't write any letters but can recognise her name. She does like to practice "writing" but it's generally tiny, tiny wee squiggles that she tells me are the shopping list
-
Yes, she started showing interest in writing her name before she turned 3 and would draw sticks and circles to represent her name. At 3.5 now, she writes it very well and legibly. She has been obsessed with the alphabet since she was around 20 months old. We definitely did not push her but she always wanted to practice tracing and writing, so we created a little "work space" with paper and crayons, markers, pencils readily accessible at all times.
Someone mentioned that kids don't have the fine motor skills at 3 and I disagree. I think it really depends on your kid.
-
@BandDmommy: And I think that's fine (i.e., not to have thought to work on it). I don't think that not having thought to work on it at this stage is a problem at all. I sense from your post that someone was attempting to making you feel as if it is a problem, and I think that's a crappy thing for them to do. As I indicated above, I think there is nothing inherently incompatible with being an excellent parent and putting off teaching writing (even deliberately) when we're talking about 3 year-olds.
-
Around three and a half I downloaded a letter tracing app and she got really into writing her name then. I had tried getting her interested before but tracing with her finger for some reason made it all click.
-
My mom taught preschool for years, and they did work with the kids on writing their names. But no means did every 3 year old manage it. It was a learning process and they all got there eventually.
-
Nope. It's not even something that's really expected at 3. C works on it at preschool, and can trace her name, but can't do it on her own yet.
-
I can't even begin to tell you how many prek and kinder kids I have that can't write their name. Definitely do not worry about it. They should be able to write their name as they are beginning kinder (age 5), but some just aren't developmentally ready to write yet.
-
Yes, by 3.5 and it shocked the hell out of me- his teacher told me he wrote it. I fully blame the Letter School app, it's amazing, but I had nothing to do with it other than buying the app.
I really never had it on my radar, I figured it was a 5 year old thing, so we hadn't worked on it much. He is obsessed with letters and spelling though, not too much into coloring except for some brief scribbles.
-
she can write a few letters of her name and can spell her name, but can't write her full name. she'll be 3 in a couple weeks. her preschool works on writing names alot. they have them trace their name on every piece of art work so they get alot of practice.
-
She can write 3 out of the 5 letters of her name and it's never in the right order. Her E's look more like a centipede
But it was daycare that taught her. I never thought to try at this age until she initiated.
-
Yes. And the names of all her friends, our cat, "mom," "dad," and her sister's name, as well as random words she sounds out. We do not work on nor stress this at home, I do not think it's a necessary skill for a 3 year old-- she does it because she loves it.
-
My son learned to write his name sometime when he was 3. We worked on it a bit at home, but mostly just through tracing, and mostly for fun when he expressed interest. He can do it no problem now, but still writes the "S" in his name backwards half of the time.
-
no chance of writing her name - but she can do an awesome smiley face with googly eyes
- Google Plus
- Stumbleupon
- Twitter
- Facebook
- Pinterest
- Favorite0
90 comments