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I did. The nurse on my 2nd night kind of gave me some grief about it, but I had to get sleep.
I hate how many of you are saying it wasn't an option at your hospital. I understand how important baby/mother bonding is, and I'm all for it. But I was literally hallucinating from sleep deprivation. It would not have been safe for me to have the baby with me. The needs of the mother really should be considered, too. I don't understand why there can't be a balance.
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Yep! We got no sleep the night before, so had been up for over 36 hours. They brought her back every 3 hours to eat. I would feed her and call the nurse to come get her. You were only able to do it one night.
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I tried to send DD because she screamed for hours and hours on end, but they brought her back about 15 minutes later because they couldn't calm her down. (She wanted to eat but there wasn't anything flowing yet!) DS stayed with us the whole time except when he went for his car seat test. He was away from us for about two hours then.
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No such thing at my hospital. But he slept pretty much the whole time we were at the hospital anyway, it wasn't til we got home that the screaming started!
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DS - there was no nursery, so no
DD - I didn't want to but the nurses urged me to do it overnight - they promised to bring her to me if she woke and was hungry - so yes, she went!
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I don't know if it was an option at my hospital. But I wouldn't have used it even if offered. I didn't want them to take her anywhere without me. First time mama paranoia.
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Nope.
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It wasn't an option at either of our hospitals. I would have definitely used it if available with LO1. I had been awake for over 60 hours by the time she arrived. LO was a very awake and fussy baby. It was a rough introduction to parenthood. A nurse did hold her for us for 10 minutes one night so we could eat dinner in peace.
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Yes, I did and I did not think I would. I had been at the hospital for two sleepless nights before he was born and then was recovering from surgery so when they suggested it I said ok. I felt rough, I did need the help. I was up most of the night anyway because he wanted to nurse all night and they kept bringing him to me. Hard work but I loved being with him.
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Yes, on our second night the nurses insisted we send for a few hours due to me not sleeping and having a lot of visitors, they said they could tell I was exhausted. It was the best thing I did, I got 2 3-hour stretches (they always brought her in for feedings.)
DD1 was in the NICU so she wasn't with us.
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Yes and I will do it again. I have no problem accepting help from medical professionals if it's an option. It helped a lot.
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No with #1 because I wanted her in the room because that is what everyone says is best. Absolutely yes with #2, I knew that sleep deprivation was my enemy and wanted to maximize the amount of sleep I got right away.
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Nope she was with me the whole time! But I def had time without her b/c they keep taking her out to do this and do that. And I was so tired at one point I totally passed out regardless of what was happening lol
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These isn't a nursery at our hospital, so nope. Both girls were pretty sleepy so the deprivation wasn't all that bad.
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Nope. I don't think it was an option but The idea never crossed my mind. I didn't let him out of my sight the entire time we were in the hospital. I followed the nurse and watched through the window of the room while they gave him a bath and did a few tests...
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Well, not by choice. LO had jaundice, so they took her from me the second night we were in the hospital. I actually got far less sleep than when she was in my room, because they insisted they had to give formula to make her poop more/faster to get the jaundice out of her system--and I was so paranoid about that, I woke up every 2 hours overnight to pump for 20 minutes, then take it down to her and spoon feed her, then breast feed her, then go back to my room for 1.5 hours before starting it all over again. I basically didn't sleep at all for that 24 hours.
It sucked. This time, I'm going to fight it more if they say they have to take the baby--After I got home from the hospital, I googled LOs bili numbers and they were only borderline high--but they really made me go through hell all that time anyway. Not very "baby friendly" for a so-called baby friendly hospital.
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They took her for a few hours the first night because she needed to have her stomach lavaged.
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Hell to the yes. She spent both nights in the nursery. I was so paranoid that I couldn't sleep a wink unless she was in the nursery and I knew the nurses were watching her. They brought her in to eat every three hours and then brought her back to the nursery. When we got home I didn't sleep for basically four days straight because I was petrified she would stop breathing if I wasn't watching her.
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No, I didn't want to be away from him. I slept like crap anyways - I'd had a c-section and I had those bootie things on that keep you from getting blood clots. Every 15 minutes they'd make really loud noise and inflate and wake me up. That was way more torture than having a baby that wanted to eat every couple hours.
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No. And we freaked out and followed him when he had to be taken for tests, etc. I really didn't want him out of my sight!
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With my first, I rarely sent him. I felt guilty and bad and we had a million visitors. I think the second night we sent him and they brought him back every 2 hours to nurse.
With my second, every chance we got. I had complications afterwards so she was in the nursery a lot. Again, they brought her back every 2 hours.
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@Mrs. Bee: When the time comes the hospital I'll be giving birth at doesn't have a nursery. The baby stays in the room with the mother's the whole time.
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Yup! She went at night and they brought her in to nurse every 2-3 hours. By day 3 she screaming bloody murder so they brought her back to me but I was glad I at least got a little rest.
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No nursery at my hospital for well babies. I probably wouldn't have with baby #1. With baby #2, because he was born so quickly (?) the nurse said it'd be best if one of us stayed awake to make sure he didn't aspirate or something, so I probably would have chosen to send him to the nursery (I'd been up 24 hours after only 3 hours of sleep before that).
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Yes!! A few hours both nights. My hospital was "baby friendly" and no one offered to take her, but I asked. They didn't seem excited about it, but I didn't care at all. I felt no guilt. I was exhausted. I had plenty of time to "room in" with her at home
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No. Our hospital is "baby-friendly" and promotes breastfeeding and rooming in. There are essentially no babies in the nursery (second nursery is actually a storage room now. There is a separate level III NICU on site).
The baby friendly initiative actually has to do with promoting breastfeeding and is a very prestigious award that few hospitals have obtained. There are certain levels and steps that have to be met to become baby friendly.
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I didn't with DD but should have-- by the time she was born I had gone several days with very little sleep and she wasn't as sleepy as I was told brand new babies usually were. So I was already a zombie by the time we got home with her. I think a few hours of solid sleep in the hospital would have helped a lot. I plan to take advantage of it next time around. Our hospital is also "baby friendly" and the nursery is usually pretty empty but the nurses are also more than willing to take the baby to the nursery for a few hours at a time if requested.
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@anbanan15: my hospital was Baby-friendly (eta- I just looked it up to confirm, it is) had lactation consultants and the OPTION to keep your baby with you for everything. But there was still a nursery if you opted to send them out. I don't get what's not OK for breastfeeding about them spending 2 hours in a nursery so mom can sleep and them bring the baby back as soon as it fusses. Well anyway it worked for us and I was so grateful for the rest.
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@travellingbee: I'm not saying one is right and one is wrong
, just for a hospital to call themselves baby friendly and to have the actual award they must meet specific criteria that is geared to promote breastfeeding.
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@anbanan15: I get that (mine is officially a "baby-friendly designated facility") but I dont get why not hAving a nursery promotes breaatfeeding if they bring the baby to you to breastfeed? I'm just curious about the rationale. And you may not know but I keep seeing this babyfriendly= no nursery so I was wondering...
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@travellingbee: Oh gotcha! It is because they want to promote BFing on demand. Not every baby will nurse on a 2-3 hrs schedule. It also helps with bonding and milk production, which can help establish a good supply early in the relationship. They also want to promote as much skin to skin time as possible for the same reasons.
This is just from Wilkipedia but it outlines some of the criteria pretty well. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Baby_Friendly_Hospital_Initiative
I know when I had clinical at our hospital and went through the baby friendly training maintaining those criteria as much as possible was encouraged. Obviously exceptions were made when necessary.
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The first night the nurse talked me into it and I so needed it. The second night we kept him but the following two nights we sent him. It probably helped that I formula fed and he needed antibiotics every couple of hours.
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Nope. Ours was a "baby friendly" hospital as well, and I just couldn't have imagined sending her away even if they had the option for me to. My mom suggested it several times, though, and I was getting a little annoyed with her. At some point the nurses did say they didn't really have the set-up for us to do so, so that at least quieted my mom down. I didn't end up sleeping for two and a half days while in the hospital between my nearly 24 hours of labor, and all the disruptions once we were in our postpartum room. I was so amped up, and somehow I just didn't even feel that sleepy, just tired & irritable with my mom & dh at times. Once we were discharged and went home I was able to take naps here and there which was nice to start catching up on sleep lost
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No. That is actually really discouraged at my hospital. They don't really do that/ have it as an option even.
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Yes. And I didn't have any particular reason - no super long labor, they weren't screamy babies - but I wanted to get a decent chunk of sleep. No regrets, I will do it again. I wouldn't deliver at a hospital that refused to do this. Both my hospitals were certified baby friendly, and they still did it. Choosing to do this doesn't make you baby- unfriendly, so no one feel guilty!
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yes, i needed some sleep and couldn't get any when he was in the room, even if he was sleeping. i would get anxious/excited over any made up reason and was not able to calm down and rest.
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@travellingbee: I know at ours they encourage skin to skin as much as possible in the early hours/ days of babies life. The understanding is that having the baby with you encourages breastfeeding success. I guess anbanan covered it!
@anbanan15: My hospital is the same!
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No, I didn't want to or feel comfortable about it. But the nurses pressured me to do so.
I figured I had a newborn, so I didn't really expect to get any sleep for a long time
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Yeah they came and saw me still up rocking her after hours of soothing and asked to take her. Loved my nurses. After days of labor I needed that!
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@keepcalmcarrie: agreed! I'm going to a different hospital this time that is about to be certified baby friendly and basically keeps babies with mom all the time.. I don't see how a break after labor is considered baby unfriendly!
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