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My Dad has a saying that you need to "do what you can afford" to live with. I'm not sure if I would continue with the IVF myself but perhaps look into surrogacy if I was in her situation since money doesn't seem to be too much of an issue.

I can appreciate wanting to carry the baby myself but I want to be a mother regardless of how my child ends up in my arms. I do wish her the best though. To be diagnosed so young and to continue with potentially risky treatments is a testament to how badly she wants to be pregnant.

I will turn 37 next summer, so I can relate on a lot of levels. First, I waited for a long time to start the TTC process. We were lucky and got pregnant during our first try but my doctor warned me at my annual at age 34 that I shouldn't wait much longer. I was convinced we were going to have issues, but we didn't. If we were not successful, we probably wouldn't have tried much more than a few rounds of Clomid.
If I were faced with something like cancer, I'd probably look into adoption or we would remain childless. It's so hard, though, to say without having experienced it.

I feel like she shouldn't be endangering her own health in order to try and conceive but having seen her show ... I know how much she wants to have her own biological children. I have been hoping to hear good news that she is pregnant ... only to find out about this news instead. I have faith that she will beat the cancer and we will have some good news about it soon.

Absolutely. She really is dedicated to becoming a biological mother. As she said on TV this morning, there was a reason for the previous miscarriages and this child, whom she hopes to conceive after treatment, will have saved her life. It's quite touching. At the very least she is lucky enough to have the financial means to have great medical care.

Are there links between fertility drugs and breast cancer? From the risks I've researched, it's typically ovarian cancer that is tied to fertility drugs. But even so, it's hard to distinguish whether the link is due to the cause of infertility or becoming pregnant later in life, or if it's really due to the drugs. With that said, part of the reason we've chosen to do IVF sooner rather than later is to limit my time on fertility drugs. So I will be doing one intense stint of drugs with much better odds, rather than more month after month after month of drugs with less of a chance.

And as others have said, until you're going through infertility, I fully believe impossible to say what you will and won't do, for certain. Our opinions have changed so much over the last 2 years, and while going through the process you inevitably learn new facts about your situation, or your life situation changes. And part of it, is that the more you're immersed in infertility as part of your life, the more you (hopefully) learn about the medication and procedures, and the more comfortable you may feel with them.

However, I will say that it's easy to get tunnel vision in (in)fertility land. It's hard not to let ttc take over your life, and imagine having the unlimited financial resources of a celebrity to pursue treatments!

I wish her all the best.