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I think the option to cover up completely should be up to the mom.

DH I think would prefer me to cover up probably more/better then I do. He is always very quick to offer to go get the cover out of the bag and help me put it on. But he has never said anything about it.

My mom made a good point when I was PP that even though I was comfortable with my boobs out everywhere, DH might be uncomfortable with other people seeing them.

I get embarrassed easily. If that happened to me, I'd be pretty upset too.

@pelikila: Yup. DH doesn't really have a say in whether or not I use a cover. Although he doesn't care what I do (he's seen me breastfeed in public without a cover and knows there's nothing to see).

I would use a cover if he asked, as long as he got it out for me and helped me with it. If he was flipping through a magazine, telling me to use a cover while LO was struggling to latch... I'd tell him where he could stick the cover

Breastfeeding was definitely 100% my decision but DH has been supportive. I think initially DH preferred me to cover up too but after awhile I simply didn't even care. So it's meh to me and if he has a problem with it, I can respect that but ultimately I believe it's my decision.
@septemberlove: lol I chuckled.

I take his feelings into consideration but at the same time I know how there have been periods where it's really hard to cover up with baby just ripping everything off and it ending up making more of a scene or I just don't feel like it.

So I do try to explain my thinking to him since sometimes his opinion just comes from not understanding all the logistics and I will give things he suggests a try sometimes but in the end it's my decision of course.

I know for sure my DH is going to be forcing the cover on me. He is super sensitive about my privacy in general so I can't imagine him just sitting back being okay with me nursing out in the open.

DH's stance on breastfeeding was basically "That seems hard. Thank you for doing it. Let me know what I can do to help." He has pretty much zero modesty concerns about either of us (I would be much more likely to cover up, whereas he thinks women should feel free to feed coverless when/wherever they want).

Your boobs, your decision. DH was always supportive of me if I was trying to use a cover and needed help adjusting, but he would never ask me to use one if I didn't want it.

That's kind of strange....he wanted your baby to have her privacy?! That's a bizarre reasoning...I would guess he just didn't want your boobies on display, which is more understandable. Anyway, DH is supportive of however and whenever I want to BF.

I think after four kids my husband didn't care any more. He would offer the cover as a help to me when we were in public. If I didn't want it he said fine. I was very good at being discrete so he didn't care. He was ready for me to wean our last at a year but eventually we did it at 15

My husband and I have discussed our expectations for breastfeeding. Right now, it's a fluid discussion where I still go in between wanting to do it for 6 months only or as long as I can. He originally envisioned a year. In the end, it's my body. I have the final say on when we stop breastfeeding and start weaning.

ETA: He could care less about the cover up thing or not.

My DH has a problem with me breastfeeding in public. He embarrasses easily, so I take that into consideration. His hang up is definitely people seeing my boob though, not people watching E eat. Honestly I'm more comfortable sitting in the car or a quiet room than being out in the open, I embarrass easily too, and I've never felt it was my mission to help make other people comfortable with breastfeeding.

@travelgirl1: worried about passersby? but you were in a treatment room waiting for a doctor and an ultrasound tech to come in?

I think in your case not using a cover in a pretty private, medical setting is understandable. What other people need to take into acct too is that oftentimes using a cover attracts more attention. There are ways of discreetly bf'ing without a cover... It just looks like you are holding a baby. Also, having a cover over a baby while they are eating isn't the most comfortable thing for the baby... My baby would often swipe at or kick the cover off...

DH understood how I felt about BF. He would not be embarrassed if I did it anywhere with no cover and would probably tell those who said anything where to go. However, i'm too shy myself and would cover up around most people.

Dh has said he finds it funny how much the babe actually covers my boobs. It doesn't bother him at all if I bf in public w/o a cover (and even if it did, tough cookies, tbh. He's not the one trying to fiddle with squirmy baby+cover+whatever else might be going on).

@Lozza: yup, that was my DH's stance as well.

Fortunately, DH is totally on board with 'my body, my choices' when it comes to just about everything - labour and delivery choices, breastfeeding, etc, but if he had an issue with me feeding in public, that would be his problem not mine. He does not own my body and therefore cannot 'hide' me away so others can't see what are 'his' (my boobs). I understand compromise but for some reason this issue rubs me the wrong way and I don't think a husband should have say in what level of exposure a nursing mother is comfortable with.

I must be old-fashioned;). While I totally think that all BF decisions are 100% up to me, if my DH wanted me to cover up or if there was a situation that made him uncomfortable, I would cover up as a courtesy/out of respect to him...

@PrincessBaby: @Weagle: agree with y'all's.

I get to make decisions about whether I choose to BF or not, but I would totally respect his feelings about covering up. I'd also think that he would grant me the same courtesy and consideration if something he did made me uncomfortable.