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@ms.line @libbylou @crystal @lovehope: You guys are seriously the best. Said it before and I’ll say it again, having a group of ladies who have been there and “get it” is incredibly valuable when going through this. So thankful for you all.

@lovehope: So sorry you had one of those bad days sneak up on you. I totally get it, seeing babies can be a kick in the gut. Compartmentalizing feelings is easier said than done, so let those tears out when you need to. Hang in there friend. Also, another vote for rescheduling the SA. Good luck!!

@delight: Hope you get that temp rise/positive OPK soon! Do you have any other symptoms like cramping or EWCM?

@mrskrb: OMG. HA! You have to laugh or you WILL cry I once got, “have you heard of these things called OPKs? I didn’t know about them when we were first trying and was so confused why we didn’t get pregnant the first two months! But then by the 3rd month we were like duh, we should try these and, well, now we’re pregnant! Yaaaay!” …Cue me chugging my mimosa.

AFM, IUI was this morning, went well. DH’s #s are better than last time, from what I can tell. And funniest thing, the side that had no mature follicles (like in the 10-12 range) was cramping up a storm yesterday and today. Maaaaybe the follies caught up!?

@YogiRunner: completely agree! You ladies are so awesome and thank you for all the advice and support. Hugs!

I am more confused than ever. I called to get DH's numbers, which were very similar to the last SA- great total, motility went from 55 to 78% (fine to better), but the morphology went from 4% to 5% (strict krueger). I said that I was told it was fine, and that's not normal. The RE got on the phone (we have our first appt Friday) and said that the 14% minimum was outdated, and 5-10% is fine, and "there's plenty of sperm to make a pregnancy possible." He said it sounds more like we're unexplained. Our appointment is next week, but I feel so discouraged. It's been a rough week on multiple other fronts and I'm feeling defeated.

@YogiRunner: omg, that must be what I'm doing wrong! I just need opks! yay for cramping!

@AmeliaBedilia: my RE also said over 5% was good. I hope that the improvements your DH has made is enough to make a difference!

@YogiRunner: ughhhhh to useless advice. It's all I can do not to roll my eyes at those people.

@AmeliaBedilia: So sorry it's been a rough week for you. Lots of hugs.

@AmeliaBedilia: I'm so sorry. Hopefully the RE can find you some answers and help you get to that BFP.

@Crystal: congratulations I wish you all the best!

@AmeliaBedilia: I'm so sorry, I know how you feel, I feel like this will never happen for me either. Just know there are still a lot of options/interventions out there for you! Good luck at the RE!

@AmeliaBedilia: it's so frustrating. Hopefully seeing an RE will bring you some answers. Sometimes a little extra help goes a long way. Hang in there...

@AmeliaBedilia: So sorry lady. When other things in your life don't go your way, it can make fertility issues seem even worse sometimes, I totally get it. The good news: your new house is going to be GORGEOUS because it's going to be all your own! And this appointment with the RE means you have a plan. Like others have said, a plan is a wonderful, wonderful thing. Good luck

@2farmmoms: Ugggh I'm sorry! FWIW, I freakin love being on Clomid and being monitored. Even with the headaches, blood draws, and being probed (ha!), it is wicked cool to know how many follies you have and what size and how close to O you are. Clomid also made me O earlier which was huge for me. Go for it if you can!

@2farmmoms: I'm sorry I hate when doctors aren't clear, either, I'm pretty frustrated with my RE as well.

I just triggered and go for my iui late tomorrow morning- not close to ovulation again. I'm really frustrated, my RE says anything within 12-39 hours of the trigger had the same success rate, but that doesn't make any sense to me. Wouldn't I have a higher chance if all the sperm were inseminatef as close to O as possible? Clearly it didn't work last month. Truthfully, I feel like they don't want to come in on a Saturday. Dreading another tww and not hopeful in the slightest. Really upset that I'm looking towards ivf.

@2farmmoms: are you serious? The midwifes won't work with you anymore?! I am so flabbergasted how clinics can just do this when all you want is to have a baby. I'm so sorry

@MrsKRB: Do you have an idea of when you will probably ovulate? What do you think of just BD when you expect to ovulate in order to ensure that you are hitting that timing? I realize DH isn't supposed to prior to the IUI, but maybe in this case, it might be worth the gamble for you? I don't remember, how were DH's number? If they were normal, maybe just go for it?

@2farmmoms: that's ridiculous!! Didn't they do this to you last time? I'm so sorry you're going through this!

@NorthStar: I'm expecting to ovulate about 39 hours after my trigger, so Saturday morning. The iui is tomorrow, so I am definitely hoping to bd on Saturday, the 'problem' is dh has borderline low morphology and viscous sperm, so I'm relying mostly on the iui to help with those issues. Oh well! I guess everything's out of my control now!

@auggiefrog: Just curious, did you also have bad luck with wondfo opks? I've always had really good luck with them, so I was aiming the hpts would be similar. Maybe not?

@MrsKRB: Yeah, last time they told me all was well, we were good to go with clomid + IUI. Then we did the cycle day 3 bloodwork and ultrasound, and it get a call back saying don't take clomid (no explanation, and when I pressed they just said I had low estradiol but didn't explain why I shouldn't take clomid because of that) and oh by the way we can't do the IUI unless you purchase frozen donor sperm or use your partners sperm. Right. My partner doesn't have any sperm, otherwise we'd probably be pregnant by now! But I talked to them and they agreed to do the HSG and continue any testing, they just couldn't do the IUI. Ok, fine. So I got the midwives to do the IUI which was great and much more personal anyway. I thought I'd call them to let them know I'll probably be trying again next month, and ask what steps they'd like to try next. Clomid? More monitoring? Or if not, at least tell me why? All I get in response is the message this afternoon saying I wasn't a patient anymore and I should talk to the people who did the IUI. The midwives don't do fertility stuff, and this is the only clinic in the area who does. So that leaves me with nothing! Awesome and they won't have anyone in the office who can even answer my questions until Monday. SO FRUSTRATING. I'm getting close to writing a formal complaint letter, but I hate to burn bridges because this is the only clinic within 3 hours.

@2farmmoms: as far as the clomid goes, your estradiol being too low should be the reason they give it too! That doesn't make any sense. I know it's the only clinic near you, but maybe it's a good thing this happened? It doesn't seem like they're very good, when they say you have to purchase donor sperm, is it anonymous? Like you would never know anything about the man you donated it? That seems so, so strange to me!