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@Adira: @dojo: @Smurfette: Yep. I would only have to provide them if LO needed a special kind of diaper due to an allergy/ skin issue.
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@MsLipGloss: That's so cool they provide diapers and wipes.
I suspect our daycare's food is processed-ish stuff too, but oh well. One less thing I have to deal with in the morning!
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Woo!! That's awesome!!
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@MsLipGloss: I remember the uniforms thing when we looked at the school by us. So nice about the diapers though. What kind are they?
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@Smurfette: I don't know . . . it's a "national" brand, but I don't recognize it (we only use Pampers at home).
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Sounds like the talk went really well. Hopefully this will encourage you not to be afraid to speak up in the future. You know your LO best
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OMG you guys, I'm going to cry.
When I picked up Xander today, ALL the babies were sitting at the big table getting puffs together like always EXCEPT Xander! Xander was sitting by himself on the floor away from the group and placed with his back to everyone!!! I almost burst into tears when I saw him so alone. He didn't even have any toys to play with!! He was just on the floor with NOTHING and NO ONE near him!
And the teacher was really terse to me. So I know the director spoke to her and she knows it was me that complained. FML.
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@Adira: WTF!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! poor Xander!!!!! seriously singling otu a child like that?! that was SO intentional. just to make you feel like $#it. SERIOuSLY!?!!?!?!?!? i'd be fuminnggg
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@mrsjyw: Right??? I don't understand why she couldn't still have him in the group just NOT feed him the puffs? Give him a toy to play with instead or something! Or AT LEAST put him in the exersaucer or jumperoo so he has something to DO that he enjoys! And I don't understand why the other teacher there didn't do something about it. Or at least play with him! I'm so mad!
I'm going to try to give her the benefit of the doubt and maybe someone WAS just playing with him and happen to have gotten up right before I arrived and see what tomorrow looks like. But if he's by himself again, I'm complaining. He just looked soooooooo miserable and sad.
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@Adira: Oh hell no. Not acceptable. I'm so sorry that happened. I'm sorry, but his teacher stinks.
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@Bookish: Yes, she sucks. I miss the old teacher soooooooooo much now. The new teacher seems decent and like she REALLY loves Xander, but she's not in charge of him 100% like the old teacher seemed to be. It seems her and the crappy teacher just share all the kids, so crappy teacher affects Xander.
Although it's probably good too because the good teacher will still take care of Xander when he's an "Infant 2" instead of just crappy teacher 100% of the time.
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@Adira: Wow, way to be passive aggressive at Xander's expense! What a biatch.
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@lawbee11: Yeah, that's how I feel too! But I'm really hoping maybe I'm mistaken and that I won't show up to these circumstances tomorrow!
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@Adira: It's horrible how they are treating Xander. If there is a repeat for tomorrow, I would be all over the director!
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Ugh that's awful! That teacher needs to go away and be a miserable b*tch somewhere else.
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@Adira: I would be calling the director first thing in the morning! That is so wrong.
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Great progress on the food front but so disappointing to hear that he was left alone while the other kids ate.
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@Smurfette: I'm really hoping that I'm mistaken and that maybe the other teacher had JUST been playing with him right before I arrived! But if tomorrow's more of the same, you can be damn sure I'll be bringing it up to the director! Ain't no way someone's going to single out MY kid and isolate him!
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@Adira: Was he crying? Or just sitting there by himself? Poor thing.
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@Smurfette: He wasn't crying - just sitting there alone, looking pathetic.
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@Adira: poor Xander! What a jerk this teacher is. Maybe she can be switched to another classroom?
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@swedishfish: Yeah, I have no idea. I'll have to see what's going on tomorrow. Hopefully this was just a fluke or I'm mistaken or something! But if tomorrow is more of the same, there's going to be hell to pay!
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@Adira: Un-freakin-acceptable. I wish there were somewhere else you could go
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That's weird. He's only 7 months, right? It's not like he's even old enough to ask for puffs so it wouldn't have been a problem for him to sit there, even if he wasn't eating... There was an empty seat, right?
When M moved to the 1's room, I noticed she sat by herself in a little high chair while the rest of the kids sat at the big table. I asked about it once and was told they rotate the kids through that chair... Till I saw it many more times. I was getting angry and finally came at lunch one day and said something. Apparently they were sitting her there because she likes to get up while eating and wouldn't stay seated at the big table. Ooops. Once they got another, younger child in the room, she was moved to the big table and now the youngest in the room sits off on her own. She looked pitiful, too and I was sad but I got the point after asking.
I hope this is something like that....
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@mediagirl: Right, he's only 7 months and there were empty seats at the table. When I was there the other day, I did see that he was reaching for puffs that were placed in front of the kid next to him, but he could have easily just be seated one seat away from the kids eating puffs or something. There's no reason to isolate him like this!
I think if I arrive today and he's isolated, I'll speak up to the teacher first and ask why he's being singled out like this and then express my wishes for him to be kept in the group even though he's not eating with them. And if that doesn't work, THEN I'll talk to the director about it.
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@Adira: I'm so sorry you're dealing with this. I just want to give you a great big hug. It's hard enough leaving our babies with someone who isn't US, but then to worry about them all day.
I'll be thinking about you and hope this is resolved soon. Hugs.
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@mediagirl: Thank you!! I'm hoping that maybe yesterday was a fluke. Xander's a hard baby to treat badly because he's sooooooooo sweet and I know one of the teachers seems to really love him, so it's hard for me to believe that he was just left on the floor by himself all alone for any long period of time! At least, that's my hope!!
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I would suggest your idea about having him seated at the table, but one seat apart from other kids.
I wouldn't go to the director over this, as I think it's important to give teachers a chance to deal with feedback directly But if the teacher continued to do strange things, I would consider just changing daycares.
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@mrbee: Yeah, I was originally thinking of speaking to the director, but that was in the middle of me raging, haha. Now that I've cooled down, I definitely agree that talking to the teacher directly will probably yield better results! At least, I hope so! If not, I'm not sure what I'll do... I really like this daycare and the director - it's just this one teacher that I have issues with.
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@Adira: It will be tricky to rebuild the relationship after talking to her director, but I definitely think it's possible!
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@mrbee: Well, we didn't get along anyway, so... hahaha. We have very different views about things (she was pushing me to start solids at 3 months and told me breast milk wasn't enough and also insists that the very breathable A&A blanket I brought in for Xander isn't good to use just because it's so big and she'd rather use the smaller but NOT breathable blanket I provided, even though Xander likes to put the blankets over his face). So I doubt we'll ever really get along, but I just want her to treat Xander well - I don't care if she hates me!
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@Adira: Will she always be Xander's primary caregiver at that daycare?
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@mrbee: Just while he's in the Infant room. When he moves to the Toddler 1 room, he'll have a different teacher and won't have any interaction with this person. But I'm guessing he'll probably be in this room at least until he's ~15 months.
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@Adira: Ugh, that's frustrating. Are you happy with the center in general? Is it just this teacher?
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@littlek: Yes, I'm very happy with the center in general! It's JUST this one teacher. And until recently, she had very little interaction with Xander anyway because he's an Infant 1 and she's in charge of the Infant 2s. But since they let go the main Infant 1 teacher, now all the teachers in the room deal with all the kids together.
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@Adira: It sounds like, unfortunately, it might be a rough go until Xander moves to the next classroom. I'm sorry friend.
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@littlek: Yeah, I'm worried about that too. But I'm hoping that once he's actually eating regularly at daycare like all the other babies, this issue might go away. My main issues with this teacher all deal with food, so I think once Xander's caught up to the others, hopefully I'll have less issues with her!
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@Adira: I agree, if they realized you were doing something "against the norm" I would think they would let you know as a heads up and let you decide from there! I would just tell them in your meeting that if they have any comments or concerns you hope they let you know so you can make an informed decision! We are first time moms, we don't always know
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Hazzah!!! Today was MUCH better!!! When I arrived, ALL the babies were on the floor playing!!! And the teacher that I've had problems with was even on the floor holding Xander in her lap!! She even said "I'm down here to protect him from all the bigger kids!" because a majority of the babies are actually crawling or walking and Xander's still not mobile. And then she chatted with me about his day and was really pleasant, so I'm soooooo relieved!!! Maybe yesterday was just a fluke!!
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@Adira: That's great!
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