We have a friend watch our 2 year old, I knew this was a mistake using a friend
She's great with her, but her daughter will always get the "best attention".
Lately I've gotten a text in the morning saying I need M's carseat today, we're going to x,y, and z today. So when it's a lunch date or something like that not only do I feel instrudive I also feel the need to give her money to pay for M's lunch or tickets or ... We're paying her all of our extra cash to watch M, now it's costing us more! I slso don't like the idea of her taking her out while she's trying to watch her overactive daughter in public, M is FAST!

So my husband wants to find a new sitter, I don't want to ruin our friendship. What would you do?