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@anonysquire: my answer to your question was
, the rest was tmi to leave up.
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@anonysquire: that's such a nice sentiment about your mom!
I never thought a mother's day thread would get so intense! Honestly, I think how you feel about this question and everyone's responses depends completely on what type of relationship you have with your family or IL's. I'm not super duper close with my mom - I'll call her and send flowers because that's what you do - but because I don't have the same level of appreciation for my parents that others do, I'm not really going out of my way to make it a special day. I have no negative feelings about it, just eh.
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@Madison43: my mom is the bomb
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That's a hard situation. I think that it's totally OK to want a calm and intimate Mother's Day/Birthday weekend. It's nice to spend time with extended family, but sometimes it's nice to spend time with your little family.
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I understand not feeling like a priority on Mothers day. Sometimes you just want people to say to you 'it's your day too what would you like to do?' I'm glad your DH is on your side and hope you get to enjoy your weekend.
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@AprilFool: thank you for finding the words I couldn't. I don't think that it's Mother's Day that is bothering me but my actual birthday.
I hope I get to enjoy it too
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I PERSONALLY think your response was a bit much. I would be happy that family thought of me and wanted to include me in their day. I don't know, although I'm a mom and appreciate the sentiment, I also really enjoy honoring the moms who came before me and all they've done, so I would be willing to drive a bit in order to spend the day with family.
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@Rainbow Sprinkles: would your answer be different if you spent every weekend driving to see them and spending time with them?
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@Madison43: I didn't think it was going go cause such a stir. I wanted to just be talked off the ledge
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It's okay to want to celebrate you
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Well here's an update. MIL bailed last minute (told dh)She said FIL is coming home late yesterday from a drum core performance so they will not make it. She texts me wishing a happy Mother's Day and says its a good thing we canceled because FIL is very sick.
SIL said she wasn't coming on Friday.
so now I get to spend the day with my family
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Chiming in late to say that (1) I generally dislike Hallmark holidays (2) we never saw my grandparents on Mother's Day when I was growing up, so I never thought of it as a holiday for extended family and (3) I usually feel a bit stifled around my parents and it feels like things are always on their terms.
Last year my mom invited us over to celebrate my first Mother's Day, so I had to deal with getting out the door with my 2mo. And then she invited her friend -- who I don't really like -- over to meet the baby.
This year we had a family wedding on Friday and had brunch with my parents and my MIL on Saturday morning. So we stayed home on Mother's Day. I slept in and went to yoga, and I am going to spend a lazy afternoon with my husband and my son which is exactly how I want to spend the day.
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I think that how you spend Mother's Day and your birthday is a personal choice. If you want to give away roses to every mom you know, then that's cool. If you want to cocoon yourself inside your home, then that's cool too! If you normally cocoon yourself, but decide to be social this year, then it's your prerogative and no one should make you feel bad for 1) changing your normal routine or 2) cocooning yourself all those years.
@bunnylove08: To answer your question: not the slightest!
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@ElbieKay: now that you've mentioned it, we never spent Mother's Day with grandparents when I was growing up, either. Probably because we lived far away, but I also know my mom didn't send elaborate gifts---maybe a card, if that.
I'm just glad my family is not into these things, because reading these posts always stress me out, haha. I'd hate to spend an entire day trying to fit in time with each side if the family, arranged around my LOs schedule.
As it was, I had a perfect Mother's Day--biking to brunch with DH and LO, then a nap, then another long family bike ride along the river, and some TV time after LO went to bed--bliss!!
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Not crazy.
I sense that there are some previous "condition" with you and your in-laws. Not crazy because I can see that happening with me and my FIL. Haha.
Hugs to you!!! Happymothers day and happy birthday~
, the rest was tmi to leave up.
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