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This was me. We tried for #2 and did do some fertility treatments (medicated cycles, TI, IUI's) but it was so draining that we decided to stop. I was over it and I had a heart to heart with a dear friend who made me realize I was perfectly happy with my family of 3. So we stopped.

The very next month... my period didn't come. I'm now 35wks pregnant.

But I had completely realized I was content with just my DD and our family of 3!

I dealt with secondary infertility and I just wanted to say I'm so sorry you are having to deal with it. I also had back to back losses and it really took a toll on me both mentally and physically. We had planned on trying IVF once and if it didn't work, we'd accept that we were just going to have one. But I ended up finally getting pregnant with my 2nd (on a medicated cycle) right before starting IVF.

@mrskansas: Im so sorry. When my daughter was about that age, we struggled for a year with two miscarriages. After the first one my cycles were way out of control.

We often started questioning giving up trying and being happy with one. I think we really could have been happy with just one. To relieve stress we stopped OPK and tracking and thankfully we managed to somehow get pregnant.

We wanted a big family but after the struggles and losses trying for baby #2, I really wasn't sure I was up for that heartache again. We ended up with a surprise for #3.

Me. I have a 4 year old son and just had my 3rd loss in 14 months a few days before Christmas. As much as I would love another my heart and emotions just can't take any more. My body feels so out of whack and I'm just not up for fertility treatments or invasive testing/procedures. My husband is so done, he feels so helpless and doesn't want to see me go through any of that pain again. Plus the age difference is starting to be an issue. I mean, my sister is 10 yrs older than me and we are best friends so it's not a valid argument but part of me just feels like what's the point? We're starting to look forward to traveling and doing some renovations we might not have done had we had another child. I don't know what's going to happen, I certainly never imagined being 1 and done and I'm having a hard time accepting it but I'm so happy with my little boy I feel like I should just count my blessings.

It's so hard. I'm so sorry you're going through this as well!

This is pretty much why we stopped at 1. DS was an IVF baby after 2 years of IF and then he was born at 25 weeks. All of that in combo (plus a husband who always wanted one), made me feel ok with not trying for another. DS is 4 now.

I had pretty much decided on this path. I miscarried over the summer, got pregnant again a few months later and when we went in at 6 weeks we were told it was likely I'd miscarry again. We went home and after talking about it and grieving we, well especially me but dh was on board, decided this was it and we were done. I went back in the next week though and everything was perfect. I actually have really struggled with this pregnancy because I had come to terms with losing it and being done. I still maintain that if something happens during this pregnancy I'm definitely still done.

I'm so sorry for your losses. I wish you peace.

Hugs. I'm sorry you're going through this. I was in a similar place a year ago after multiple losses and we ended up taking a break to re-assess. I was hesitant to lose time but it ended up being great. It was so nice to not worry about opks or two week wait and my anxiety levels really improved. DH and I were both finally able to step back a bit and really think about what we wanted for our family. We intended to do a 3 month break to start, and by 2 months into it, I think both of us were about 90% of the way towards being ok with being just one and done. Then somehow we had an oops and I ended up pregnant. LO2 is now 8 weeks old. I'll be honest, I love my son so much and while I can't imagine life without him, I do still believe that if things had worked out differently, we would have been at peace with one child. I wasn't fully there when I got pregnant again but I think with time, I would have gotten there. Best of luck to you.