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No advice, I can only share in what you're feeling. We will have 3 under 3.5 and I always thought we would stop at 3 max, but for some reason it's hard to think/say I'm done! And DH isn't on board w getting a vasectomy so that complicates my feelings even more lol

I completely understand your feeling, I've got two which was always our original plan, I was so set on 2 and DH would have preferred 3. After #2 was born, I suddenly had a change of heart and want 3, while DH decided he feels 2 completes our family. So, we made the decision this week to sell all our baby stuff and to me that is the way we decided we were done. I'm still secretly holding out hope that we decide for a 3rd in a few years when #1 starts school and we will just buy used stuff to replace what we sell, but I don't want to store all this stuff (limited space in our house) without being certain we are going to have another.

My original plan was also 4, but pregnancy was really hard on me with the two I have, and we decided to be done after the second. My heart is still open to fostering or possibly adopting later down the road, but I know that biologically we are done. I think you have to just determine the best thing for your family and trust that it will all be okay. If you don't really trust that, maybe you aren't really done yet?

@skipper2010: I am in the same boat. Pregnant with our second and it is HARD- I really cannot imagine doing this again, so that helps me feel at peace. But I can't say how I will feel after she is born and I get to see my girls together. Our plan is for me to get a mirena after this one is born, and reevaluate when it's time for a new one- at which point I'll be almost 40 anyway.

While I feel 98% sure this is it, I am 100% not ready for any permanent measures.

Also, dh has mentioned the possibility of a 3rd to try for a boy, but right now I'm not on board.

@LuLu Mom: good for you for taking the steps to move the baby stuff out! I'm in a similar boat, always wanted 3 kids (DH wanted 4!), but findin my two really difficult right now (at 3 yrs and 16 months), so it's hard to imagine adding a third anytine soon...though in my heart looking down the road to when they're older, two seems too few...). So I'm still hoarding the majority of the clothes/toys/gear, wondering if it's a colossal waste of time and space (esp. Since it's all very pink, so we could still have one more and not use it!!!)

DS is 28 months, DD is 3 months and I honestly don't think I'll ever feel "done". I think because if we stop at 2 it will be primarily for financial reasons, so it is sad to me that it is because of external circumstances. I feel like it's possible we may have a third in a few more years, but that just might be wishful thinking.