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Hang in there, I wish I could say it goes away or gets better, but people seem to lose any sort of a filter when it comes to a pregnant woman. I actually had a stranger make a comment to someone else when I was getting tea saying "can you believe she's feeding her baby that poison" I about lost it but just gave a look and walked away. Sometimes it's just not worth it, we know what we are doing and what is allowed and not allowed, people need to learn to zip it.

Yep, I've received a ton of un-solicited comments and judgement from people throughout this pregnancy as well! I might have even cried about it once. Just get if off your chest, then move on!

I was criticized for getting my nails done like, twice during this whole pregnancy, but someone younger that didn't even have kids!

People are absolutely awful. I had someone ask me if this was my second child when I was 25 weeks pregnant because my belly was so large. I have a short torso, so there was nowhere to go but up and out and it made me cry. Another person asked me not to go into labor in the show house when I was 29 weeks, and then at 35 weeks a co-worker asked if I was tired of being fat.

People suck. I'm sorry.

If it's any consolation I really haven't had any peanut gallery input since becoming pregnant with baby #2. Maybe it's because I'm a SAHM now so no coworkers to bother me, or maybe since I'm toting a toddler around people figure that i already know things, or maybe it's the exasperated look on my face I probably have carting around my toddler trying to do things that makes me generally unapproachable. Either way I've been enjoying my personal space (no hands on the bump so far at 29 weeks!) and not having to fake a smile with unwanted advice so maybe if you have a #2 it will get better

@loki: I am so sorry, and I feel your pain. @LuLu Mom: is right - there is something about pregnancy that makes the general public feel that it is ok to say and touch things they would NEVER do to a non-pregnant person.

My midwife gave me the following advice when I was pregnant with C - if someone makes inappropriate comments to you, make them back. If someone touches your belly, touch theirs in return.

Offer the people who say things like that to you some inappropriate advice / comments of your own. "you know, you really don't need that donut"; "you really should dye your hair to cover up that grey / comb it differently to hide where it's thinning". "Wow, your butt has really grown! I hadn't noticed before, but at that angle, it's really obvious!"

Even if they're not true. It just points out how rude their comments are.

I have resorted to things like that with certain repeat or really obnoxious offenders. Some people mean well, and you can just thank them and roll your eyes after you walk away. Others need to be put in their place!

There's a woman I work with who keeps asking if I'm pregnant (I have a big belly now because I've gained weight and I'm a different shape after having C), and after the 3rd time I said "nope, still just fat!" The look on her face was priceless.

@Anya: i love Pregnant Chicken!

@Freckles: I love that retort! I'm filing it away for (hopefully) future use!

@loki: I know how you feel! I had no fuse when I was pregnant (or when C was a baby). And I have that late comeback problem too. Do you watch TBBT? I love when Sheldon says to Leslie Winkle something along the lines of "expect a text from me in approximately 30 minutes with a blistering retort".

@loki: That is terrible! I am one that can never keep my mouth shut when people make rude comments. I just announced my pregnancy to a co-worker (literally the equivalent to a Sheldon Cooper), and said "yeah! more married people getting bored and lacking meaning in their life so they reproduce!". I responded with "yeah! more loners who are unhappy with their life and feel they have a right to comment on others." Then he proceeded to talk about overpopulation, but how I am ok right now because I am just replacing myself. smh.

@loki: It sometimes can be stunning. My co-worker has a history of saying fairly ignorant and disrespectful things. He has an opinion about parents who work full-time (no sahm) and teaches religion to their children, so I was sort of expecting something rude.

If you find that there are some repeat people being obnoxious I bet if you say just one thing, they'll stop saying something all together. Sorry though for all the comments, it definitely is really annoying.

@ballerinabee: I LOVE this advice!!! I think it'll be hard to say those great comebacks to coworkers since you have to see them again, but I will definitely use them with strangers when the time comes. I love it.

The worst, most moronic comment I ever recieved in my last pregnancy was when I had gone to a wood fire heater store to purchase a flue for a heater we were installing outdoors. We only wanted to purchase the flue, but the salesperson was trying to sell an installation service. He stands infront of me, touches my stomach and says, you wouldn't want your baby to die because you didn't install your flue properly?? I lost my frikkin mind at this guy. Firstly - violate my private space, touch my body, and a thought that nobody in their right mind would put into a sentence! psycopath!

@MrsLilybugg: This same person thinks having two working parents makes them bad parents, ugh