Hellobee Boards

Ewwww. I just make a face at those people. I had someone tell me I "looked ripe" the other day. I just looked at him like, 'WTF".

So not okay to comment on someone's body unless it's to say, "you look fabulous!" Ugh, a coworker. Grosses me out. You're not my friend, you're not my family, you don't get to say things to me my husband won't even say. And talking about your breasts? Extra yetch.

I blamed it on the hormones during pregnancy (but truth is, i'm just blunt, perhaps to a fault?) but I called people out on it ALL THE TIME. unless it was like, my grandmother. then i just let sleeping dogs lie.

but really - if someone said something i felt was rude, I'd say "well that's not very nice!" or, "geez, rude!" in a somewhat nice manner, and they'd always be startled that I said something. To those co-workers, I'd probably say "hey now! I didn't start talking about your body, did I?" and let them be ashamed. If they didn't catch on..I'd probably just ask why it was okay to talk about my body now that I was pregnant, lol.

I didn't really get comments from women, but that might be down to living in NYC and people generally keeping to themselves. I'm sure if I were living in the Midwest, where I grew up, people would be more open with the comments.

However, once when I was like, 7 months pregnant, I was leaving the office and one of the security guys yelled across the lobby, "WHOA! Is it twins?!" Nope, not twins. I completely ignored him and then I had to leave before I started crying right then and there. Damn hormones.

I just started getting my first comments this week (I'm 21 weeks today and I have definitely "popped"), but so far I haven't been offended. Although one lady made me laugh a lot (in my head).

There's a chinese (as in, from China) Math teacher at my school who in a 2 minute conversation managed to point out that my body has "changed a lot" (yeah. I think that's supposed to happen), that although my due date is after the other teacher who is pregnant I am bigger (yup. she was thinner than me before pregnancy, too, so it makes sense) and she "complimented" me that AT LEAST I had the good sense to wear flats (she'd come over behind my desk to inspect my shoes), unlike the other pregnant lady, who was wearing heels that day. So she managed to judge both of us in 30 seconds. Quite a feat!

It was actually really hilarious.

I also had the 23 year old Tech guy exclaim, "Wow, you're really poppin' out now". But I don't mind him, because he always offers to bring me snacks when he has to go buy tech equipment, which is awesome because I always take him up on it, and now I get to blame him for my fatness.

@MsLipGloss: hahaha! babylicious!

Hugs. I've been struggling big time with this too. I tend to be a self conscious person anyway, so it didn't help that the week I announced my pregnancy, a coworker yelled across the room at the Christmas potluck (with about 200 people present) "Dang, being pregnant has made your boobs HUGE!!!" That's just one of the many, many comments I've gotten. The only two where I've actually responded have been when someone grabbed a can of soup out of my hand, telling me if I ate it I'd blow up even more...and the other time being when someone told me I was really starting to waddle. I straight up called them out on being rude.

99% of the time, I just awkwardly smile and go the other direction. Sigh. I need to get some gumption and say something to these people!

@Bookworm: I can't recall having mean comments about my body while I was pregnant and sorry you had to go through that! Maybe I just had a bad memory but people were very nice. My face broke out like a cheese pizza back then and I was so glad no one made a comment about that except me.

Actually my very good girl friends did say, wow your belly is so big (corresponding to how many weeks I was at that time), but that didn't really bother me. It was OK because they were good friends.

Next time when that person say you are carrying your baby in your hips, you should tell her, "yeah that's my excuse, what's yours?"

@irene: Ahh, I forgot one! I had cheese pizza face for a few weeks at the beginning of my second trimester. I went to buy my usual makeup at the makeup counter where I've shopped forever. The lady who waited on me INSISTED I switch to the acne coverage formula, and when I told her I couldn't use it because I was pregnant, she said "Seriously?! Most women have beautiful glowing skin during pregnancy! You must've gotten just very unlucky because you're broken out everywhere." I didn't say anything, but when we were leaving she followed it up with "Make sure you come in for a complete makeover after the baby is born! We'll get that skin fixed!"

Yep. I bawled in the parking lot while my angry husband talked to the manager...I never would have said anything! They were so shocked she said that to me they gave me a $50 giftcard to the department store I bought my makeup at, so I guess that helped. lol.

@grizz: OMG. I would have punched her in the face !!!!!! hahahahaha!! Yeah, I wouldn't need a makeover with you after my baby is born because my skin will be cleared because of that.

Well, she is probably one of the "very unlucky" ones that got herself fired. I am glad the manager gave you guys a gift card!!

@Happygal: Haha! No, I'm a lab tech. But maybe it helps, because I'm trained to look at things objectively?

Ugh, I'm sorry this happened to you

I had a few women at work make repeated comments to me (including one who made me cry in the middle of the office after making a "joke" about my pregnancy acne). I finally called them on their shit and have not heard a peep out of them since.

I think being direct with people is really helpful in these situations.

@grizz: Nooooo!!! How can people be so f'ing rude!!

@blackbird: Something about someone saying you "look ripe" gives me serious heebie jeebies. Eeew.

I hear ya! I have a lovely coworker who keeps asking me how the twins are... But she knows I'm just having one so is she just trying to be funny because its getting annoying!!! Don't they know not to mess with a pregnant lady!!!! Just let it slide, you've got bigger and better things to think about.

Ugh, I don't know why people think your body is off limits for discussion, but I would totally call them out on it with my sarcasm!!