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@HappyBluebird: The emotional roller coaster is the worst! You feel pretty good one day and then WHAM! I almost left work one day because I just couldn't hold it together, and I'd been fine the day before. Just let yourself feel what you feel, and know it gets better. I think getting AF really helped me have more good days than bad.
@2PeasinaPod: So glad you had a good birthday with LO. Sometimes my guy does the same, and will sleep through the diaper change and into the crib. But not at night, only for naps.
@ValentineMommy: It took me awhile to figure out the temping. I am not doing it now, because LO's sleep is so nutty. I wish I could, though.
@jaguar: @FliegepilzHut: The expense of IF is nuts! I'm sorry you ladies have to experience it.
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And...all of my antiphospholipid antibodies were negative. Which is good...just one more thing that points to the "just (multiple counts of) bad luck" diagnosis...
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@Jess1483: thank you, so glad someone understands. Almost makes me feel crazy. I also felt like going home but I'm trying to stick it out. 2 more hours!
@FliegepilzHut: glad they came back negative but sorry it points towards the "bad luck" diagnosis
hoping you get some answers or great luck soon!
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@HappyBluebird: Thanks! I'm hopeful for the latter. Just 2 more hours!
Maybe you can talk DH into take-out tonight? Always makes me feel better (not to have to worry about what to cook)! 
And...it's CD#1 here, too!
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@2PeasinaPod: I'm glad you're counting down! It'll be wonderful to get on with next steps!
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@FliegepilzHut: take out sounds wonderful! Yay for cd1!
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@HappyBluebird: You can do it! Those first few days/weeks are so hard...and I wish I can tell you when it started to get easier. The fact is, it takes a good amount of time. I didn't feel like myself until 3 months later after my first. Hang in there
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@HappyBluebird: I'm sorry you're having a rough day! Treat yourself to something...indulge in a little something and just be kind to yourself. You'll have good days and bad days. Even on this thread, I've posted about being okay with everything and not crying so much and then find and post later that I couldn't think about it without crying for a week straight....
@FliegepilzHut: oh that "bad luck" conclusion -- I hate it! Hoping nothing but good luck for you in your next steps!
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@HappyBluebird: I am sorry you are having a tough day.
I found the first few weeks after my D & C were the worst because it was officially "over." It's an absolutely heartbreaking and confusing time. There are so many feelings and relating to others can be tough. I was in a pretty dark place until about 5 weeks out and then, one day, it just wasn't so hard anymore and I started having more good days than bad. It's a slow process (obviously each person is different.) Remember that you can talk to us at any time any time you want about anything you want. I hope you have some peace and relaxation tonight. -
So many next steps coming up for all of us. You guys, I want us to be pregnant again SO SO BADLY. All of us! xx
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@jaguar: I completely agree!
It would be awesome to be on a due date thread with you again (with a happier outcome of course.) What would make it better is if all of us who are ready to ttc again were on a dd board together. Not super realistic, but a girl can dream. -
@simplyfelicity: Agreed. And I refuse to EVER make a due in board again, haha. I'm so glad that's changed now. Still a bitter reminder.
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@jaguar: I can imagine! I probably will hold off joining one for a long while when/if I get another :bfp:. I have joined twice and left early twice...don't really want to do that a third time.
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@Tidybee: Thank you.
I wish the same for you, too. Hopefully, all of our babies are right around the corner. Eta: Also, "yay!" that you can get back to TTC! Lots of "familiar faces" on the October POAS.
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@HappyBluebird: I think we all understand that emotional rollercoaster! I think I'm still on it (and have triggers) even now, 4 months later. Hugs!
@FliegepilzHut: Glad for the negative results! And YAY for af!
@jaguar: I feel exactly the same way. If I don't get pregnant soon, I may lose my mind entirely. It won't make up for what I/we lost, but it will certainly help move on.
@simplyfelicity: @jaguar: Same. I don't think I'll join a dd thread until I feel it's safe this time. It was an awful reminder to see that thread pop up. And also, I am weak and look at it every once in awhile then hate myself for getting upset when I see all the bumps and whatnot. Definitely not good.
So, I was on FB the other night reading from one of my cloth diaper groups. There was some big stupid argument on the page because a ton of people had been posting BFP pictures and others said it was insensitive and off-topic and they didn't want to see it because of m/c or infertility and they were only on that page for cloth diaper related talk. Anyway, as I was reading through the comments, one struck me as being painfully true and I saved it....thought you ladies would understand....it said,
"You know how much excitement a pregnant mama will get? A shit ton. Her belly will grow, people will ask questions, "when are you due?" "boy or girl?" the inevitable "how many are in there?!" They will get congratulations, sweet little baby gifts, hopefully adorable tiny baby fluff. And they will get a baby.
Guess how much respect, support, sympathy, kindness a woman who has suffered a loss or is struggling with infertility will receive? Maybe a little bit. Some "I'm so sorry" or some cards or flowers for a week or two. Then everyone else's lives go on. And she still suffers in silence. Sometimes no baby."
I can't believe the outpouring of love, support, and sympathy I received in the first few weeks following my m/c.....and then....nothing. Like it never happened. I know it's awkward to talk about, and other people's lives go on and whatnot....but it's SO TRUE that I had to repost it. Thought you all would get it
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@ValentineMommy: thanks for sharing that quote -- so true.
*I would LOVE if this board became the next due date board!
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@Tidybee: That would be the greatest. I literally pray at night that we are all preg together. Like....now.
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Thank you ladies for all of the good thoughts!
Hopefully our luck is about to change!@jaguar: I'm sending lots and lots of good thoughts for you and your little embryo... Wishing you and your family the absolute best of luck!
@jaguar: @simplyfelicity: @Tidybee: How do you all feel about a separate Pregnancy After Loss Support thread (or similar)? I feel like I'm going to need all the support I can get!
BTW-- if you all get pregnant *right now* hopefully I'll be right behind you!@ValentineMommy: Thank you!
What she said is so true...kind of heart-wrenching actually! And indeed, yay for AF!!!
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@FliegepilzHut: I totally think there should be a pregnancy after loss support thread! Hopefully we will all be on there soon!!
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@ValentineMommy: @FliegepilzHut:
There appears to be an old one here: http://boards.hellobee.com/board/pregnancy-after-lossBut perhaps it'd be better to start a new one. So that's whoever gets pregnant first's job
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Hey ladies!
I've been laying a little low while attempting to stay somewhat chill this month (hard to do when I'm not even sure if I've ovulated!!!), but I wanted to chime in to say I also hope we're all moving out of this thread soon. Not that this thread isn't awesome! But none of us deserve to be here
And to ask for some
My check up with my doctor is tomorrow. I'll be printing out nine months worth of charts so I can show them to her and say "WTF??"
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@MaryM:
I agree. I hope we're all out of here soon, but I hope we can all continue this support through our sticky babies, too!
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@MaryM: I hope you get good answers from your doctor's appt! I'm going to miss you all...but I'm afraid we are outgrowing this space (most of us are moving on to hopefully TTC). Wishing you lots and lots of luck!
@Jess1483: The only one I see is a Gold thread. I agree that the first one out gets to start the new thread!
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@FliegepilzHut: Good point on the gold. I definitely wouldn't want to leave anyone out!
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@Jess1483: @FliegepilzHut: @ValentineMommy: @Tidybee: Sounds like a great idea to me! It wouldn't matter if we were a few months off and didn't all have the same month. I agree that keeping the loss board as it is and moving over to pregnancy after loss is a great idea.
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Although I admitedly check the boards less often than I used to, I normally come right to this thread. Even though I'm rather removed from my MC, I think the struggle to TTC has left me jaded of the POAS boards. So as long as there are stragglers hanging out here I'll most likely stay put. I don't like the way I feel in the POAS threads when other people get BFPs and all I get is AF.
I think I'm sort of in a limbo between the regular POAS thread and the 6+ month ones. Maybe once I'm going through interventions and am looking for more input I'll return to the 6+ month one, but for now...eh. I think the TTC threads are fueling my insanity!
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@MaryM: That makes sense. I half-heartedly signed up for the POAS (more because I can) but I don't see myself spending much time there this month. This is my "home base", too.
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@simplyfelicity: Ha! I only signed up because you, @ValentineMommy: and @jaguar: did. I don't intend to spend much time there, because I know AF would really hurt this cycle, and it would be worse to see all the bfps. And I won't join a due date board until quite late (if I do at all).
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@Jess1483: That's why I joined, too!
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Yea, I didn't really consider seeing all the other bfp's until I MADE the board lol. Hopefully my prayers will be answered this month and I'll be one of them!
I will say, this is definitely my "home base" too
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@2PeasinaPod: @Tidybee: @simplyfelicity: @ValentineMommy: Thanks all for the encouraging words and support! Managed to make it to 5:00 and then had a small break down. Luckily only had to last 30 mins after that. I got to talk to a family friend who had a m/c as well and I felt better. Just like chatting with you ladies, I feel hopeful for the future and that's a good thing for me at the moment
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@MaryM: @simplyfelicity: @Jess1483: @ValentineMommy: Fingers crossed for all of you (and everyone else on this board that is waiting for a BFP!) You all deserve nothing but the best and I'm hoping you all get BFPs soon!!!
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@HappyBluebird: Seize onto that hopefulness!
It's definitely not easy at times...but hopefully that will be the point to which you always return. Sending love, hugs, and prayers for healing! ETA: I'm glad you have folks IRL who understand...
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@HappyBluebird: I'm also glad you found and IRL friend to lean on. My SIL was seriously a godsend to me when I first found out. I think she really "got" it and remembered how hurt she was when people stopped talking about her MC. She checked in on me a lot, even just to say "How are you doing?" and leave it up to me to decide if I felt like responding or not.
And even though I LOVE LOVE LOVE this board, sometimes you just feel like having a one on one with someone that you know "gets it," and I've loved having another friend who's like that too.
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@HappyBluebird: Aww thank you!!! You are too sweet! We are all rooting for you that you overcome this hurdle in your life and move on to bigger, better, happier things (and bfps)
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Does anyone know anything about molar pregnancies? The dr who did the surgery just called to say the pathology came back not decisive and suggested a molar pregnancy. I asked the dr if it was normal to see the heartbeat in a molar pregnancy and she seemed to imply that was abnormal. The pathology showed no fetal DNA which doesn't seem to go with seeing the heartbeat. I have to go in for a blood test tomorrow to test for HCG and there are more results to come back in a few weeks.
I've googled it but just checking if anyone here has any experience or information?
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@HappyBluebird: I am just as confused as you are. If you feel comfortable, you might want to make a thread. I know a few bees have experienced molar pregnancies.
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@HappyBluebird: that seems off to me. I always thought a molar pregnancy had no fetal tissue; which wouldn't show a heartbeat? Are they sure they tested "fetal" tissue and not uterine tissue?
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@simplyfelicity: Thank you! I just posted a thread
@mrs bunchy: Maybe the dr said the wrong thing but she definitely said that there was no fetal DNA which is when I brought up seeing the heartbeat. Seemed off to me too but I'm certainly not a Dr.
All of this certainly makes a stressful situation that much more stressful. Having a hard time answering DH's questions, he's a big worrier
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@HappyBluebird: That is strange. I'm so sorry. I hope you get some answers.
hoping you get some answers or great luck soon!
Maybe you can talk DH into take-out tonight? Always makes me feel better (not to have to worry about what to cook)! 
I wish the same for you, too. Hopefully, all of our babies are right around the corner. 
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