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@MaryM: I'm so glad you have an answer!!! I hope it makes all the difference for you and you have your BFP soon!
@jaguar: Extra hugs. I have seen so many bfp's recently, and I just want my own....it's getting harder, not easier, somehow.
I have two friends pregnant - one with her 5th and the other with her 4th. I just want a second!!! @Jess1483: Ahhh!!! I'm so, so happy for you!!! Yay!
CD15 for me, and still no confirmed O. I have no idea what's going on and it's majorly stressing me out. Wth....why can't this just be easy?!?
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@jaguar: Yes...they're everywhere. It's especially tough when you're waiting on something in order to TTC or go through with IVF.
@Jess1483: Congratulations! Keep us posted on how everything goes. Praying for a happy and healthy 9 months.
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@Jess1483: Congratulations!
Sorry I have been MIA the last few days, I went on a girls weekend out of town with my mom and decided to unplug for the weekend. On Thursday, the dr called to tell me my HCG level was at 573, which according to her is a good sign regarding the molar pregnancy. It's still a possibility but at least that is one positive step instead of the constant bad news. We will have to wait until the next pathology reports come back in a few weeks to confirm the molar pregnancy or not.
I'm sure I missed some other things going on in the thread but best wishes for everyone on the next steps everyone is taking!
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@HappyBluebird: Hooray for good news! I'm glad you had a nice weekend out of town...hopefully you'll get your results soon and be able to move on with next steps as well!
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@jaguar: I'm sorry. I saw yet another pregnancy announcement on Facebook... I don't even mean to be dramatic but this is the most I have seen in a short time...ever. Ugh...pretty sure I need to stay away from Facebook. Naturally, I am happy for these people. I just wish it wasn't such a painful reminder.
@ValentineMommy: Same here, not sure what's going on. Hopefully O is on its way for you.
@2PeasinaPod: I was just thinking about you. How have you been?
@HappyBluebird: I am glad you had a good weekend, hopefully you were surrounded by lots and lots of support. -
I think I am so used to the constant bfps and pregnancy announcements on Facebook that I'm just numb. Between a year of ttc and these 9 months of ttc/loss, it has just stopped taking a toll. It's like I'm just used to feeling like the one it doesn't work out for.
Today is my Edd with mc 1. I'm okay. Except DD and I keep sharing illnesses and I am laid up with a 102fever and aches, pains, and nausea. I did have a good cry fest about how tired I am of being sick and laid up (I have always been the healthiest person!). I'm sure the edd was also just the straw on the camels back. -
@ValentineMommy: Thanks chick. I had another one today, this time from an IVF buddy after a Frozen Transfer. Yet even though I'm happy, I'm also terrified. One more person pregnant... meaning my chances are way lower. I'm on the same path as you. IVF bloods today show no O at all.... more bloods for me on Friday. Sigh.
@2PeasinaPod: It's so true. If I could cycle normally and have a go each month, it wouldn't be so bad. But instead... I'm just sitting here on my thumbs.
@HappyBluebird: Fingers crossed you get your answer soon and aren't waiting around for too long.
@FliegepilzHut: So exciting that you have a cycle all set!
@simplyfelicity: *hugs* I've had to delete myself from a few groups. Georgia's DIG is like, 50% pregnant women right now. I can't deal with the comments about how 'we are all dropping like flies' and 'oh, something in the water'- no, lady, you're just all bloody lucky fertiles.
@Tidybee: Big love to you on this tough day. I hope you guys feel better soon too. I almost WISH I felt numb.
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@HappyBluebird: So glad you had a nice weekend!!! And that's great news - I hope the rest of the testing gives you good results as well!
@simplyfelicity: I've tried to stay away from FB for the same reason and it's impossible!!! I was able to do it on vacation and stay unplugged for my sanity, but during a normal workweek having no FB?!? I would lose my mind. Lol
@Tidybee:
I dread my edd. Many hugs. I hope you feel better asap!@jaguar: I always feel that way too!!! One more person I know being pregnant, somehow lessens my chances. It makes no sense, but I totally get like that too.
In other news, got my positive OPK this morning! CD16...that's not so bad, right?? Yayyyy!
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@ValentineMommy: That's fantastic!!!! I hope we're as lucky and get O soon. So frustrating. xxx
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@Tidybee: I'm sorry you aren't feeling well and many, many hugs for your EDD. That couldn't have been easy.
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@jaguar: Thank you!!! I got a second + today as well, so I get the BDing isn't over just yet. Ugh...so tired lol
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A friend posted this online and I thought it hit the nail on the head, at least, the first part.
http://www.calebwilde.com/2014/10/on-sharing-the-silent-grief-of-miscarriage/
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@Tidybee: All the hugs for your EDD.
@ValentineMommy: Good luck with the BDing!!
Thanks for the link.
A friend who has IF posted this one last night to facebook. It made me feel a little bit better (though if you're not in a great place, the site may suck you in a little deeper, so click with caution!)
but it was helpful to me to see so many people saying the things I've felt and thought.
http://stillstandingmag.com/2014/10/10-ways-honor-friends-child-died-october/
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Thanks guys! honestly, I was sad, but I was okay with it. We were NTNP when I got pregnant, and we would have been thrilled to have had a baby, but i woul dhave had 2 under 2, and I would have spent the majority of my first year as a SAHM with my daughter being pregnant and renovating rooms and such. Instead, we've gotten to go to the parks and take swim lessons and just enjoy being the 2 (and on the weekends 3) of us for a while.
I don't think in February I will feel as "okay". Seeing the baby on the u/s screen was probably too concrete of a thing for me to be okay about. -
@ValentineMommy: Thanks!
Has anyone else named theirs? Not knowing the sex we never did. It's simply "the first" and the "second"...and then just the "last time" referring to the CP. @jaguar: ha, I don;t know if being numb is the healthiest response to it all. It's just what I need to do to get by. -
@Tidybee: We didn't name ours. I brought it up with my mom because our church has a wall of plaques with the names of babies and young children that have died. I mentioned I might want to do that. My mom sort of talked me out of it and I never brought it back up with DH, but I still think I'd like to.
We simply call it "the baby"...because there's only been one, so there really isn't as much of a reason to name it.
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@Tidybee: We did, ok well, I did. DH just said "whatever you feel you need to do." Men. Lol. When we had DS, we discussed lots of names and how we didn't want a gender neutral name. There was ONE name that we both liked that was gender neutral and talked about...so, since we never knew the gender this time, that's the name I picked - Cameron Francis (my grandfathers middle name, so the male spelling). No one else really knows (cept you ladies now), but that's ok. It makes me feel better that the baby had a name.
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@ValentineMommy: I love that name!
I had thought if we do name the baby, that we'd use Frances or Francis. My middle name is Frances, and DH gets to name a boy if we have one (DH is a III), so I figure I can name kids after me too.
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@MaryM: Thanks!
It seemed like the obvious choice, since it was the only gender neutral name we had. DS has a super male name that I can't imagine being female lol
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@ValentineMommy: My MC was before I discovered hellobee so I did a poll on one of the other baby sites. I wasn't as much a fan of the names other people suggested. I wanted something gender neutral, but still religious/saints name (in case we do remember the baby at church).
Francis became my obvious favorite too.
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We named our little boy Noah.
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@jaguar: I love that name
I thought about naming the baby but decided against it. We always refer to the baby as "Little Foot," our "in-the-womb" name.
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@jaguar: @ValentineMommy: These are lovely names.
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If we hadn't found out more genetic information about the baby, we probably wouldn't have named him. But knowing he was a boy.. we just needed to call him something.
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@MaryM: It's a good favorite!!!
@jaguar:
@simplyfelicity: Thank you!
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Anyone in here chart? I had a positive opk on tuesday and wednesday (negative this morning), but my temp only rose from 97 to 97.27? I'm new to temping.....
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@ValentineMommy: I just went back and looked at my charts and my temp went up about .3-.4 degree. I did not use a BBT with the hundreth degree, just the tenth. Since .27 is very close to .3, I wouldn't count out O just comparing to mine. If it stays above the coverline for the next 3 days thats when its confirmed per fertility friend.
Do you temp around the same time and when you wake up? I was not super strict about temping and following the rules. I always tried to take it somewhere in the same 30 minute time frame but I'm a pretty crappy sleeper so there would be times when I was early or late or hadn't been asleep the suggested amount of time before taking my temp.
Sometimes I could see a different pattern if our room was really hot. I'd guess that if you were cold it could make a difference too. (We sleep with a 55lb dog who makes our room always hot!
)Not sure if any of that is helpful but thats what I've come across while charting
ETA: If you ever want to look at my charts, I think I can share them
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@ValentineMommy: I bet your temp will be higher tomorrow or Friday. Also, you may not have ovulated yet (ie, keep up the BD for a couple more days)!
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@ValentineMommy: I agree with @FliegepilzHut to definitely keep up the BD until you know for sure!
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@ValentineMommy: After I get two positive OPKs two days in a row, it usually takes another two days for my temp to spike. I bet you'll see it tomorrow!
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@HappyBluebird: Thank you! This is my first time charting, so I didn't know it was supposed to be at the same time. That being said, I get up at the same time during the week, so I omitted my weekend temps. My chart is attached. I really think/hope/pray that I O-ed, cause I'm really tired of BDing haha
@FliegepilzHut: so. tired. of. bding.
hehe
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@MaryM: Hope so!!
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@ValentineMommy: Your crosshairs are based on the current temp being higher than the previous 6 temps, so since you don't have that many recorded, it might not mark O as early as you expect it to.
Next month you might want to start temping earlier so you have more data for FF.
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@ValentineMommy: I hear you! Maybe just one more for good measure?
I'm banking on your FF determining that you ovulated yesterday....
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@MaryM: Ooh...that's a good point. Hopefully it will factor in the OPKs as well?
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@ValentineMommy: Also, if you know your weekend temps, it's sometimes accepted that your temp rises .2 degrees for every additional hour that you slept, so you might try to fudge them (based on that math) and input them anyway.
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@FliegepilzHut: Yes. It usually defaults to reading temps first, then OPKs and CM. But if my temps don't confirm the other signs, I end up with dotted crosshairs.
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@ValentineMommy: I think it looks like you might have O'd based on your chart but the next few days will tell. I understand about getting tired of BD. It was hard for us too! I think if you get up around the same time then your temps should be fine! Some people are much more precise, but I never was and I could always see the temp rise and got a clear coverline.
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@MaryM: I ended up with dotted crosshairs every month except the last one because I only temped until the month I got the BFP. That month I used OPKs. So I agree that without other signs entered maybe it automatically gives dotted crosshairs?
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@HappyBluebird: There's a way to go in and change your preffered method from "advanced" to relying mainly on OPKs. http://www.fertilityfriend.com/Faqs/Fertility-Friend-Interpretation-Methods.html
I have two friends pregnant - one with her 5th and the other with her 4th. I just want a second!!! 
It seemed like the obvious choice, since it was the only gender neutral name we had. DS has a super male name that I can't imagine being female lol
I'm banking on your FF determining that you ovulated yesterday....
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