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@Tidybee: Florida sounds awesome!
I often get jealous of DH. He's so positive about our future and that we will get pregnant. I wish I wasn't jaded...
I hope the sickness is out of our house by next weekend when BDing should begin. It will be easier if we're at least sleeping in the same bed! (DH had an awful cough so he's been in the guest room)
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@simplyfelicity: *hugs* I would have been 20 weeks this coming Wednesday, so I totally know how you feel. xx
@MaryM: Oh no! I am so sorry you're not well. Georgia & I have been passing a cold back and forth between us for the last few weeks. Urgh!
@Tidybee: The trip away sounds fantastic. TAKE ME WITH YOU! (Only not, because of all the BD-ing, hahaha!) I want to go to Florida. Or at least away SOMEWHERE. Maybe when hubby is back from his next USA work trip.
Still no positive OPK yet. I cried this morning in the bathroom. So ridiculous. I just want my body to work properly... for once. I'm so tired of not even having a shot.
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@jaguar: I didn't realize our EDD were one day a part. I am sorry you are having a rough time. It's so hard when you are just ready to move forward. Many, many hugs.
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Later this afternoon, I got a smily face positive!
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@jaguar: hooray for + opk!
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@jaguar: Yay!!!
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Ok. Looks like I have a transfer coming up on Saturday morning. Can't wait!!!!!!
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@jaguar: Wait, like the official FET? This is amazing news! So very many fingers and toes crossed!
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@simplyfelicity: Yep!!!! 10.45am Saturday morning, Aussie time!
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@jaguar: So exciting! Fingers crossed for you!!!
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@jaguar: Gah! Sooooo exciting! I am so happy for you that things are moving right along.
@HappyBluebird: How are you doing, lady? Any news?
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@jaguar: Holy cow! That's amazing! Sending lots of prayers and good luck your way!!
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@simplyfelicity: I'm doing ok, most days aren't bad. Sometimes I have an hour or two of feeling sad, especially when people are having babies and posting on facebook. I've been trying to avoid facebook for the most part. Going for bloodwork again on Wednesday so hopefully the HCG has gone down more, then its just waiting for the pathology report to come back.
How have you been?
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Anyone have any advice for getting through a baby shower?
I have one this weekend for SIL and I'm supposed to be co-hosting but thankfully my MIL knows all thats happened and has pretty much done all the planning. I'm hoping its a good day but its the first baby related thing I have to go to after the m/c so I'm just not sure how I will feel.
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@jaguar: yay!
@HappyBluebird: my advice would be to know how much you can handle. I had a slew of them scheduled this year, and went to 4-5 weeks after my mc. I carpooled with a friend and said in advance I wasn't sure how long I could stay (so I had an out). I have social anxiety anyway, so it was pretty hellish.
I ended up handling the shower itself ok, but was super sad after it. I was probably in a funk for a whole week before I finally lost it. You might want to warn your husband ahead of time. Mine was rather caught off guard!
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@MaryM: I have talked with DH about it since it's his sister and I wanted to make sure he understood how I was feeling. He understands and was supportive. I feel like I have to go and that I can probably make it through the few hours but I am expecting to not feel so great afterwards.
The positive is DH and I are going on a mini vacay the day after the shower to get away after all the stress and to celebrate my birthday. So I will try my hardest to just focus on that!
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@HappyBluebird: Your DH sounds like a peach!
I don't think I had any showers in the immediate aftermath...but the first couple after that were pretty hard. Expect to have some complicated emotions (simultaneously so happy for the parents to be...while feeling a bit sad and possibly envious -- especially if there are lots of pregnant ladies in attendance)...but I bet you'll make it through alright! ETA: FX that your beta is still decreasing nicely!
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@HappyBluebird: I am glad your "bad" days are starting to subside. I totally know what you mean about not knowing how things will be one hour to the next. I say, feel your feeling, allow yourself all the grace you can and be open to the possibility that a bad day might be followed by a peaceful, joy-filled day.
As for the shower, I would try to focus on the mom-to-be, the food (yum!) or conversation. I haven't been to one yet since but I was with a friend while we announced her pregnancy right after my D&C. It might be awful but just remind yourself that it will soon be over and you have an awesome vacation with your sweet husband.
I am doing alright. It helped to ovulate last week and to move forward a bit more. Didn't have the greatest timing but I am just glad to be out of limbo.
Fingers crossed that everything comes back well. Keep us updated.
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@HappyBluebird: I unfortunately don't have much advice. After my first miscarriage, I made up an excuse not to go to DH's cousin's baby shower. It was 3 weeks after my MC, and I just couldn't do it. I know my MIL was very disappointed, but I had to take care of myself.
Since it's your SIL, it's going to be really hard not to go. My SIL is also due within a few days of our most recent MC, so I know that will be a hard one. Just be prepared to be really down afterwards...and really try to enjoy your time away with DH! We went away about a month and a half after my first MC and I needed it desperately.
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@FliegepilzHut: @simplyfelicity: Thanks for the good luck! I'm hoping this week its even lower.
@simplyfelicity: Yay for O! Even with not so great timing, I'm sure its good to be back on the right track! Fingers crossed for you!
@2PeasinaPod: I agree you definitely have to take care of yourself, I have the ok to miss the shower from my MIL but it seems like I shouldn't. I'm not particularly close with my SIL, she doesn't live close, but again it seems like something that I just have to do.
Thanks everyone for the shower advice, you ladies are the best!
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@HappyBluebird: & @simplyfelicity: & @2PeasinaPod: & @MaryM: Thanks ladies. Bring on the weekend!!!!!!
Baby showers. Urgh. I avoided when I was TTC Georgia, it was too hard. Went to a few while pregnant which was fun. Have to help organise (!) my SIL's shower early next year, which will be super awkward, since she's due 2 days after I was.... so I honestly don't know how I'll have the strength to go/plan for that one. I love her, and I love their little baby on the way, but I'm so totally GUTTED that it should have been me too.
I'm glad you'll get to go away after it, just to have some time together.
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@2PeasinaPod: That sounds great about your work!!! I am having a horrible time trying to concentrate at work, so I'd imagine the fact that you can is a great distraction!
@HappyBluebird: Waiting is definitely the worst part. FX it's completely over soon. I too have had to stay away from FB a LOT more than usual. It's just so hard.
As for the shower, the other ladies gave great advice. I honestly don't think I'd be able to make it personally, so I think you are one strong woman to be able to be there for your SIL.@jaguar: Thank you! I've been getting to bed a lot earlier without all this BDing, which has definitely been good lol. I would be 27 weeks along now and I try SO hard not to think about it. I have a few friends who have DD around the same time, and it is really painful to look at them and their bumps. And a giant, GIANT YAY for the +OPK and FET!!!!! I'm so happy for you!!!! A thousand hugs and prayers for you guys!
@simplyfelicity: hugs! I have good days and bad still. It's very random, and I think, it's just however I'm feeling that day and what I'm thinking about. I'm very OCD (like, legit diagnosed) and have a hard time focusing on other things some days. Sigh. You know how it goes!
@MaryM: Oh, the SAME thing happens to me. Every single day off either I get sick, DS gets sick, or the DOG gets freaking sick. A day off doesn't really exist, does it?
My DH is the exact same way. He's got such faith that it will work out and meanwhile, I'm wondering how he will feel if he's completely wrong....I hate that feeling!@Tidybee: A florida vaca sounds awesome! I hope you can relax and keep the stress down!
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Totally left out my own update lol
As for me, the TWW is in full swing and I am SO anxious. I'm 6DPO, symptom spotting, feeling really positive about it, then telling myself I'm crazy for symptom spotting and it's all in my head, then feeling really crappy about it. I had some symptoms that I had with DS and mc that I don't have now, so I'm telling myself I'm obviously out this month. I really, really hate this rollercoaster of emotions. It sucks!
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@jaguar: Ugh, I can see that being very hard, much harder than just going to a shower. I think this would be even harder if we were due around the same time. I'll be thinking of you when the time comes
@ValentineMommy: Thanks for the good luck! Can't wait to be on with the next steps. TWW sucks and symptom spotting makes it harder! Hope your TWW goes quickly and ends with some great news!
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@HappyBluebird: Thank you!!! I hope your next chapter starts soon
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I'm assuming I'm not the only one struggling to get through the work day today...
Can we share some happy/positive thoughts for the week? Maybe focusing on the positive can help some of us dealing with other stresses?
One of my friends had sent me a willow tree figure, but it was one I already had. So mid-week last week I exchanged it. I chose slow shipping to get the $1 kindle credit.
Well, Sunday I realized I needed to order digital OPKs to confirm with (because I want to be more precise since we'll be paying for hormones this month). I chose quick shipping for them.
Today, I got a package from Amazon containing both my OPKs and a "Hope" angel.
I really hope that means something!
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@MaryM: That's one heckuva nice package! I love feeling hopeful about TTC...
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@ValentineMommy: Thanks, hon! I am doing much better. I have some so-so days but, on the whole, I am feeling more optimistic about the future. Timid but optimistic.
Fingers so very crossed for you!
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@MaryM: That's amazing!!
@simplyfelicity: Thank you! It's so very hard to stay optimistic. All the fun has been sucked right out of the whole process.
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@MaryM: Ps I struggle to get through every work day. lol
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@ValentineMommy: Me too. But especially on Tuesdays following holiday weekends
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@MaryM: I'm having a hard time today. Though I'm not glad that you're having a hard time, I'm glad I'm not alone. I started my second pack of birth control pills on Friday and got confirmation of my surgery from my RE. I know we're moving towards being able to TTC, but I'm certainly down today that I have to wait. I feel like I've been waiting since June of 2010 when we first started to TTC. I know we have LO and I'm eternally grateful for him, but we worked so hard for him, and I just wish something would come easy. I'm certainly having a pity party for myself.
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@MaryM: Absolutely! I normally work from home on Mondays and that transition day is great for me. This, however, is the pits!
@2PeasinaPod: Pity party away, you're entitled. The waiting is awful, I know. But at least you have a "next step", so to speak! It's something to move onto anyway. I know, I know....it all sucks anyway really. Until we have our bfps, it all just kinda sucks, doesn't it??
Hugs!
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@MaryM: I think that's an awesome sign!
@jaguar: um, that is amazing news! I can't wait!
@2PeasinaPod: I hear ya. I'm just so down that this has been difficult from day 1 (before DD) and so envious of those people that get pregnant (and stay pregnant) soooo easily.
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@Tidybee: AF isn't due until around next Tuesday (I'm 6DPO right now). I'm HOPING to hold off until at least Sunday, if not Monday. I don't want to see that stark white bfn. I just can't. It's SO hard to wait though!
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@ValentineMommy: Yes, exactly that. I feel like it doesn't matter where you are post-MC. The fact that you had to go through it absolutely sucks.
@Tidybee: And this too...I'm horribly envious of those who get pregnant and stay pregnant so easily. Or even those who never have to go through a first appointment expecting the worst.
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@MaryM: What a great package! Sounds like an awesome sign!
@2PeasinaPod: Being in the waiting stage is awful! I think having a pity party occasionally isn't a bad thing, I threw one for myself yesterday!
Hoping that your next steps come quickly and you are on your way to a BFP!
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My happy/positive thought for the week is turning 30 on Friday
and then going away with DH for a short getaway next week. Also I found mocha latte Kcups at the grocery store during lunch and they are amazing! It's the little things that make me smile! 
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@HappyBluebird: I completely agree! I will take the little joys where ever I can get them.
My 30th birthday is this month, too! Cheers for a happy birthday and a new decade full of hope and blessings. -
@simplyfelicity: a fellow libra? Same to you! Hope this year is full of wonderful things for you!
Hoping that your next steps come quickly and you are on your way to a BFP!
and then going away with DH for a short getaway next week. Also I found mocha latte Kcups at the grocery store during lunch and they are amazing! It's the little things that make me smile! 
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