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  1. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    @HappyBluebird: Oh no! I was hoping your levels dropping well was going to indicate it wasn't molar at all. I'm so sorry!

  2. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @Jess1483: @MaryM: Thank you ladies. A small part of me was also thinking that the levels being lower and dropping so fast indicated a mistake on the first report. But I knew realistically that there was more of a chance of the report being correct. I think that's making me feel more upset, that I let myself (even a small part) get my hopes up.

    I'm glad I have this thread to type all this out because right now I'm not ready to give my and DH's parents the news. I'm glad we got the news on the way home from vacation and after my SIL's baby shower. That would have made going 10x more difficult. DH and I are going to think of all the things we want to do in the next 6 months as something to look forward to. Things around the house, a trip to Disney world, losing some weight and getting healthier. Hopefully that helps the next 6 months go quickly. I'm also hoping for good news and BFPs for all of you ladies on this thread, that will certainly help make the next 6 months happier!

  3. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    I don't know if any of y'all are Catholic (I know some are religious though, and really...figure this quote can work for anyone)

    But it's the first feast day of St. John Paul II. A friend posted this to facebook and I thought several of us could relate.

    “I plead with you--never, ever give up on hope, never doubt, never tire, and never become discouraged. Be not afraid.” - Saint John Paul II

  4. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @MaryM: Thanks for that, I needed something like this today. Its helpful to have meaningful signs pop up like this I'm Catholic but not practicing, thinking of going back to church. Maybe it will be helpful.

  5. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    @HappyBluebird: It's something that I struggle with too. I go, but not every week and I have terrible guilt over it. But when I do go, I also struggle. It's hard to see all the babies in church and wonder where my baby is.

    I know I need to get over that, and I know I need to go more often, but it's hard.

  6. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @MaryM: that's understandable, it would be hard to see the babies and not wonder that. For me, I went to Catholic school and sort of "fell out of love" with the church. That's mostly because the church we attend now is on the super strict side of catholicism. Which is perfectly fine if thats what a person likes/needs. But I like the idea of going to church for the way it makes me feel when I'm there, not because I have to because the priest says so, etc.

  7. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @simplyfelicity: Congratulations chick. I'm glad you got your BFP nice and quickly!

    @FliegepilzHut: Nope, I asked. None of my locals carry that dose, and my script is only for 400mg, so I couldn't even get it special. The chemist rang last night and it should be here today. Nothing yet, am a bit anxious.

    @MaryM: I must have missed your question, I'll go hunting for it. I adore that quote. So much, I want to copy and paste it so I can see it and hold on to something.

    “I plead with you--never, ever give up on hope, never doubt, never tire, and never become discouraged. Be not afraid.” - Saint John Paul II

    @ValentineMommy: How are you doing, chick?

    @HappyBluebird: I hope your get away went okay. Sounds like it was lovely. Welcome home! x I'm so sorry to hear about the partial molar. Remind me again what the reason is for the waiting? I remember reading about it, but don't know a lot of the details.

  8. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    @jaguar: http://boards.hellobee.com/topic/progesterone-question-wwyd#post-1911040

    Thank you!!

    Tonight's opk was negative, but when I took the stick out the line was still rather dark so I'm not thinking this morning was a fluke. I think I'm leaning toward not taking progesterone just in case an BDing again tonight

  9. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @jaguar: I need to wait because molar pregnancies can become invasive and then can spread to other parts of your body becoming cancer, specifically choriocarcinoma. They can tell it had spread because your hcg levels would rise and you wouldn't be pregnant. My Dr says 6 months is the recommended time to have repeatedly negative blood work, therefore they don't want you to get pregnant in that time frame. It's a big let down and I'm nervous for problems with future pregnancies, but still trying to stay positive.

  10. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @MaryM: that sounds like a smart plan, I think I would do the same

  11. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @HappyBluebird: Ah, I understand. That REALLY sucks. As if a loss alone isn't enough to bear. Lots of love to you, chick. x

  12. Tidybee

    nectarine / 2834 posts

    @HappyBluebird: Wow - just caught up on everything. I'm so sorry. 6 months does seem like soooo long...especially now at the start of it. I hope you can find some ways to treat yourself and indulge the next few months. And i hope they go super quick!

  13. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    My pessaries just arrived. Huzzah! Just a few hours late. All good here.

    I think I just got a squinty line on a stick.

  14. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    @jaguar: ahhh! Keep us posted!

  15. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @jaguar: @Tidybee: thanks ladies so happy to have this thread for support!

    @jaguar: ooohh! Fingers crossed!

  16. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    It's faint, but it's there. I'll put a post up, so you can tell me what you think!

  17. Jess1483

    nectarine / 2641 posts

    @jaguar:

  18. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @MaryM: @ValentineMommy: Thank you, it's been pretty crazy day!

  19. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @HappyBluebird: Thanks again, hon! I am so sorry for the news today...that must have been so disheartening. I think planning exciting things for the next few months sounds like a great plan. We are here for you.

  20. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @simplyfelicity: How did hubby take the news?

  21. FliegepilzHut

    pomegranate / 3533 posts

    What a day!

    @jaguar: Congrats on getting your progesterone on time AND on a !!!! Fingers still crossed hard for you!

    @HappyBluebird: That's frustrating, but probably very necessary. I hope the time passes quickly and your levels arrive and stay at "0"!

    @MaryM: Not Catholic here...but I admire JPII and I REALLY like that quote! Thanks for sharing!

  22. ValentineMommy

    pomelo / 5791 posts

    @HappyBluebird: I'm so sorry to hear this news. I'm sure it doesn't help to hear, but 6 months will go by faster than you imagine. We are just about to hit 6 months soon and it still feels really fresh. I'm glad you guys have a "plan" of things to look forward to during that time - that will definitely help! hugs!

    @MaryM: Love the quote - I'll be adding it to my prayer book that I've been writing in.

    @jaguar: I'm....alive. Thanks for asking I'm dealing with a horrific af now, like out of this world bad. I have no idea what's going on there, but it's bad enough to freak me out lol. My acupuncturist is going to start fertility acupuncture next week, so I'm looking forward (sortof) to that. I'm praying so hard that it works. I can't take this much longer!!! Congrats on getting your progesterone and on a !!!! FX so hard for you and prayers too!

  23. ValentineMommy

    pomelo / 5791 posts

    On another note, I was thinking of all of you ladies this morning and wondering your thoughts on this subject.....

    So, when I had DS, I was an active member on weddingbee and joined a due date board. At some point, we took our discussions over to a FB group, so we could learn more about one another less publicly and with easier chatting accessibility. I can easily say that those 12 women are some of my dearest friends now, almost 3 years later.

    I was wondering (and hopefully this doesn't violate HB's terms somewhere, because that's definitely not my intention) if any of you would be interested in joining a fb group (of just us) so we can learn more about one another. I'm finding myself thinking about you ladies and wanting to know you on a more personal level.

    If not, and you think I'm a creeper, no worries! Lol

  24. simplyfelicity

    cantaloupe / 6634 posts

    @jaguar: He took it better than me, haha. He understands that, after the losses, it's really hard for me to be excited because I feel so guarded. It helps to have this community so I know I am not an awful person for feeling this way. Geez, talk about a ramble! How about your DH? I know I have told you a million times but I am SO SO SO happy for you.

  25. Jess1483

    nectarine / 2641 posts

    @ValentineMommy: I would love that!

    @simplyfelicity: @jaguar: Eek! Still so excited for you ladies!!I probably reacted better to both of your announcements than to my own.

  26. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @simplyfelicity: @FliegepilzHut: @ValentineMommy: Thank you so much for the support! I think keeping busy will help a little and hopefully 6 months goes quickly and we don't have any additional problems.

    @ValentineMommy: I'd be up for joining a private FB group. I'd love to learn more about you all!

  27. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    @ValentineMommy: Maybe your horrific AF is a sign your body is getting super ready for a sticky baby?? Maybe?

    I'd be in favor of a FB group (or even just friending you guys on FB).

    @simplyfelicity: My DH is the same way about all things TTC. He's SO SURE we'll get pregnant soon and was WAY more excited when I got KU (we weren't really trying, so I wasn't sure what he'd think! We weren't 100% on board with having a baby then).

    I'm so jealous of their ability to be excited and not worried!

  28. ValentineMommy

    pomelo / 5791 posts

    I'm creating the group now! Apparently I had to add one member in order to create it, so if you see a little boy member, don't be weirded out. It's DS. I'll delete him once I figure out how haha

    Here's the link:
    https://www.facebook.com/groups/1702192890005875/

  29. ValentineMommy

    pomelo / 5791 posts

    @MaryM: Honestly, I was thinking/hoping the same thing. Because I'm definitely starting with a clean slate/no lining after this psychotic AF. Lol

  30. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    @ValentineMommy: O.M.G. Your son is adorable!! I used to dream of having babies with blue eyes and dark hair

  31. ValentineMommy

    pomelo / 5791 posts

    @MaryM: Thank you! He's the only thing that gets me through some days

  32. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    I forgot to update on me.

    I got another smiley OPK this morning and seem more mucousy...so I think I made the right decision to hold off on the progesterone for now.

    But of course DH was passed out and would not wake up last night when I got into bed. Whomp whomp. Maybe tonight? (though he's working until like, 11, so *I* may be passed out)

  33. ValentineMommy

    pomelo / 5791 posts

    @MaryM: Take an early nap and set your alarm for when he gets home! Get it, girl!

  34. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    I'm definitely up for a Facebook group!

    Thanks for the well wishes. To be honest, we are both really up and down. Overjoyed of course but petrified. One day at a time. Blessed to have even gotten this far off the sad little emby we transferred. ❤

    Hubby is more positive than me. He's being relaxed for the both of us.. trying to!

  35. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    Can y'all cross your fingers for me? I've been BEGGING (seriously...to the point of tears sometimes) DH to talk to his doctor about his snoring ever since we got married 2.5 years ago.

    He has started the conversation with her a couple times, but it has gone no where. She'll say he needs to follow up and he'll never go back.

    Well, he called today to tell me he's going to the doctor tomorrow because he's feeling so exhausted lately. He slept more than 12 hours last night and was still tired.

    So I brought up the snoring again. I'm REALLY hoping he'll actually talk to her further about a sleep test or something...ANYthing!!

  36. jaguar

    pomegranate / 3764 posts

    @MaryM: Fingers crossed! My friend's hubby just did this, and the difference in just a couple of weeks is CRAZY.

  37. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    @jaguar: I know if I can hear him through foam ear plugs he can NOT be sleeping all that well!

  38. HappyBluebird

    clementine / 957 posts

    @MaryM: fingers crossed! Men are stubborn sometimes, at least DH is especially when it comes to drs

  39. Jess1483

    nectarine / 2641 posts

    DH and I made a rule that if the other asked us to go to the doctor and/or ask about a specific issue, we had to do it. It's good because it's so easy to blow something off for yourself. It's been really helpful!

    @MaryM: Fingers crossed! I hope things get better

  40. MaryM

    pomelo / 5129 posts

    So he did bring it up, and he has to pick up a machine for an at home test on his next day off.

    How much can I remind him of that without officially nagging? lol

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