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@FliegepilzHut: I can't remember where I found it, but it was in a spotify station in the last month. I'm so glad I happened to like it even though I wasn't familiar with it.

I wish I could find the story behind the song (why it was written).

So ladies, I just had to share my "good" news with you all since you've been so supportive and listened to me complain about all the bad news!

Through doing research on molar pregnancy, I came across some ladies in a group online who have all experienced MPs (Not nearly as great as all of you though I should add!) From the group, I learned of a Dr in Boston at Brigham and Women's who specializes in molar pregnancy and gestational trophoblastic tumors. He will answer emails and give recommendations/second opinions since most regular OB/GYN don't have alot of experience.

Well I got up the nerve to email him and he responded today and I fit into the category of only have to wait 3 months instead of 6! Evidently research is showing that in cases like mine 3 months will soon be the standard.

All that (sorry it's long!) to say that my 3 month wait started this past Wednesday so as long as my levels stay at zero, hopefully by Mid February/March of next year we'll be back to TTC!

@HappyBluebird: I love this news!!!

@FliegepilzHut: That's great!

@jaguar: thank you and I hope you do something nice for yourself during the wait

@HappyBluebird: That's incredible!! So glad you were able to get feedback and that it's good news!

@hilsy85: @Jess1483: @simplyfelicity: Thanks so much!!

@HappyBluebird: Wow that is great news! I'm so happy for you that you were able to get into contact with him, with good information

@BlueWolverine: I was in miscarriage limbo for about 3 weeks (6 appts + HCG draws, 1 ER visit, etc) It totally sucks. I hope you get some answers soon.

Kind of bummed out this weekend. I've already paid $1000 for all the HCG draws, ultrasounds, doctor's appointments, and part of the emergency room visit. They had me pay $600 up front when I was there, but warned me there would be more to pay, later. Now the $4430 claim for the emergency room visit is "processing." I didn't really want to go to the ER but my doctor and I both thought it could be ectopic, twice, so on the 2nd time she told me to go. I have a high deductible plan ($2500 in network, $4000 out) and so I am really nervous to see what the ER cost will be once the claim is processed I'm thinking / hoping no more than $2000; and I'm hoping everything is processed and figured out before my deductible re-starts Dec. 31. All that money was supposed to be used for a take-home baby.... Anyone have any experience with high deductible plans and ER visits?

On a good/bad note, I'm having fertile CM and an almost positive OPK yesterday, with possible O-pains today. I know we can't TTC right now so I'm frustrated about "letting" the "opportunity" pass us by but also thankful that my body is *hopefully* getting back on track.

On a total tangent, anyone have fun plans they are looking forward to for Thanksgiving?

@Simplyfelicity: How is your current pregnancy going? I am so hopeful for you You must be something like 8 or 9 weeks?

@simplyfelicity: Have a good u/s

So I guess I ought to join on here. I'm also waiting to miscarry. My HCG was 20 and then 22. I am frankly terrified that my doctor thinks it could be ectopic and that is my number 1 concern at this point. I am frustrated that this whole thing is setting back our TTC plans as we were supposed to be starting IUI with injectables this cycle. Frankly, I'm past feeling sad and I'm just mad. And really, really worried about it being ectopic. I was up half the night with anxiety. I go back for another blood draw tomorrow morning to see if it has dropped. I just found a tiny tiny bit of reddish spotting and I am so hopeful that this is the start of it.

ETA: Oh I have a weird question. If I do start to bleed, is it ok to use a tampon? Or should I use a pad instead? Anyone with experience know? I'm only 4 weeks 5 days so I don't expect it to be too bad....

@travellingbee: I'm so sorry you are joining us here and that your TTC plans are being messed up. I will pray and keep you in my thoughts that this is not an ectopic pregnancy. Hoping that the spotting is the start so that you can move forward to the next TTC steps

I had a D&C and wasn't allowed to use a tampon but I don't know if that would apply to a natural miscarriage. I'm sure the ladies here will have some advice.

@travellingbee: I'm so sorry you're joining us.

I would also suggest using a pad. I found super hefty Kotex overnights that I preferred because they were longer so I didn't have as many fears of leaks.

I hit a major slump this morning and I'm trying to convince myself it's hormonal and things really aren't that bad.

I'm 99% sure I Oed this morning. It seems my cycle has changed and I'm Oing much later. So even though DH and I DTD several times, it appears only one of them fell during peak time.

I'm just frustrated that it seems like it's all on me to make this happen. I completely understand he has a sucky ass schedule and both of us make the most of it, but I miss the days of being newly weds and DTD just because we felt like it (not because we felt like we had to).

I think it's just time for another "do you know I feel like this" talks. I know I can't expect him to feel the same way I do, but wouldn't it be nice if he had an inkling what it's like to be female??

I think it's mostly because I feel like the IF diagnosis is so quickly barreling down on us (only two more cycles after the one I'm currently in). And I want to feel like we've done everything we could on our own before we get to that and turn to more interventions. And DTD one day during fertile week doesn't feel like "doing all we could" to me.

@MaryM: I'm sorry you are having a rough day. All your points are valid IMO and I don't think having a talk is a bad idea. Praying that you will get that BFP within the next two cycles and won't have to get to the IF diagnosis. I'm here if you need to talk/vent

@Chaosmaven: I'm pretty sure he understands the window. We took an NFP class together before we got married, so I know he knows the science behind it and knows that it's a limited period of time when things can happen.

And he's indicated that he knows more than I give him credit because he is the one who empties the trash, so he can see when there are extra plastic cups and trash.

I think that's what's so frustrating to me. That he's indicated he knows what's going on...but it still seems to be on me to initiate (if he's even home! in the last week, there have been maybe 3 nights he's gotten home before 1 a.m. from work. The one day we hit was when I woke him up a little early Sunday before we met friends for brunch and went back to work).

So he's said he knows what's going on, but I might ask him what else I need to share with him. I pretty much haven't said too much because I was afraid it would lead to too much pressure, but in turn, I think I'm putting too much pressure on myself. I'm wondering if it would be too much for him if I let him know when the OPKs are positive or if I installed FF on his phone so he knows where we are.

Hi ladies, I'm joining here if that's ok.

We found out I was pregnant with baby #2 a couple weeks ago, but after low hcg draws and just a feeling that this pregnancy wasn't going well, I'm pretty sure I'm miscarrying today. Right red blood, cramping, and back pain.

This sucks.

@NurseDMB: I'm sorry you are joining us This group is a great support so feel free to vent/talk/cry with us when needed

@hilsy85: YES! I think that's part of it too. In his mind, it's going to happen. It's just a matter of when. I'm not sure I've heard him use the word "if" since we started trying.

@NurseDMB: I'm really sorry you're joining us