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Same last name. I really wanted to keep my maiden name and my husband really wanted me to change it (inexplicably, because it doesn't work like that in his culture), and we went round and round the first year of our marriage. Finally just a week before LO was born, I changed my last name. I spend a fair amount of time the first year regretting it. My maiden name is more common, easy to pronounce, classic...my married name is impossible to pronounce, not english, isn't spelled phonetically. But now I answer to it and identify with it so I couldn't even easily change it back at this point.
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One of the big reasons I changed my name was to have the same family name. I also have a very long hard to pronounce 11 letter maiden name that I was happy to make the switch to Jones. So, our kids will go by Jones, and I'm happy that we'll all have the same last name.
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yes. it was important to me that we all share a last name.
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Yep. We think it's important for us to all have the same last name.
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@Anagram: my married name is double the length of my maiden and harder to pronounce. I always wanted to take my husband's name when I got married, but I was sad to let my maiden name go. It feels a bit like a piece of you is erased somehow.
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I kept my name when I got married. I've always had an issue with the woman being expected to change her name to the mans and the exception for a baby to be given the mans name if they couple doesn't have the same last name. It seems so sexist. There's no logic to it. We hyphenated our daughter's last name with our names when she was born. It's my last name-husband's last name. We purposely chose a shorter first name to make up for the longer last name.
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DD has OH's last name. We joke that the next LO will have my last name
I am wondering if bees who don't have the same name as their LO were asked whose last name LO would have while they were pregnant. I had lots of people ask me and it seemed really rude to me.
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@Ms. RV: Why is that rude to ask? Seems like a fair question to me.
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@ShootingStar: Hm. Maybe rude wasn't the right word. Maybe awkward? It was mainly acquaintances that would ask, and I really don't understand why my LO's last name was small talk. There is a million other things in the world to talk about.
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I kept my name. My mother also kept hers and it was never any trouble growing up. I bought a plane ticket over the phone for lo1 and didn't notice they used my last name until we were at the airport. He's so little it wasn't an issue, but was funny.
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yes, I changed my name a few years after we married. I like my maiden name better because I have a "first" name as a last name now and people, like at the doctor or pharmacy, will always be like, no what's your last name. THAT is my last name..
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Nope, I kept my maiden and LO has DH's name. No big deal to us, but other people think it is.
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Yes, I changed my name. I don't think it's a big deal. My mom had a different last name from mine growing up and it seemed to cause no problems whatsoever. I think schools are very used to parents and kids having different last names due to having children outside of marriage, parents not changing last names, divorce, whatever.
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DD has my last name, and DH's last name as a second middle name. It was the subject of A LOT of conversation during my pregnancy.
@Ms. RV: Very few people asked what LO's last name would be, which occasionally felt rude to me (that they were assuming it would be DH's). I actually brought it up a lot to deflect from questions about what first names we were considering (which I preferred not to discuss very much). "Are you all talking about names?" "Well, it's hard to decide on first names until we figure out whose last name we're trying to match."
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