Someone told me today they do, and it just got me thinking about how some people probably feel this way, but we aren't "allowed" to say it. Anonymous poll, of course. 
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Absolutely not.
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definitely not. maybe we should have waited a little longer, but everything happened the way it's supposed to. and if we had waited, I wouldn't have my awesome daughter!
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No - he's the best (and sometimes hardest) thing that has ever happened to me. I tell people that you think everything people say about being a parent is a cliche until you are actually a parent.
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I can't (and don't want) to imagine my life without LO. She is my favorite person in this entire world.
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Nope, I would never give LO up. HOWEVER--I sometimes wish I could hit the pause button, go off for a long weekend and sleep 12 hours a night, do what I want when I want, and just be free again--and then come back and pick back up with LO. But I guess that's what baby free vacations are for
I just need to do them more often!
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I don't regret it, but there are definitely days when I wish I could go back to how things were.
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complete opposite - I was worried for so long that I wouldn't be a good mother/didn't have maternal instincts, now that I have J I wish I had had like, 4 kids in my 20s!
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If you had asked me when Xander was a newborn (under 6 weeks), I would've said that I regretted it. But now, definitely not! I love being a mom.
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No! But we waited a long time, did everything we wanted to do and felt really ready!
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It's definitely harder than I thought it would be, but I don't regret it.
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@hilsy85: that would be lovely!
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DS is only 8.5w old, so I'm not going to answer this yet
But a pause button sounds awesome!
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I feel like the poll needs an "other." Life isn't ruined, and I wouldn't hit undo on the whole thing, but it's also not the magical heart melting life-fulfilling experience I'd imagined. It's amazing, but nothing like I expected, if that makes sense? There are definitely moments I don't like it and feel a little trapped.
ETA: We were really really ready for LO and planned the pregnancy and felt his absence before we had him. There isn't anything like travel or whatever I feel we're missing, it's more just privacy and quiet and down time that I mourn. He's 4.5 months.
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I always knew I wanted to be a mother but I had no idea what that meant in concept until I became one. Is it a lot harder, tiresome, frustrating, and unpleasant than I imagined: yes a resounding yes. Are there days I want to run away as soon as DH walks through the door, of course. But I never regret this choice even though its definitely hard and not easy. I love being a mom I just dont love all aspects of being a mother I guess you could say.
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@anandam: yes, exactly.
I don't regret having kids, but I do often feel trapped.
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@Mrs. Chocolate: You said it better than I could! This! Yes!
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I don't regret it at all but most of the time I don't feel like I was cut out to be a mother
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@anandam: I intentionally didn't make an other
it would be the normal line of 'it's hard but worth it and some days I hate it'- and I'm forcing people to pick a side -
@JoJoGirl: Cruel woman! Lol
I'll try to decide.
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@anandam: hahaha
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@hilsy85: This exactly!
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Nope, there's no way I'd erase that smile and that giggle. But a pause button for a few hours sometimes would be nice :). And admittedly, I have a baby that gets easier and easier. He STTN, he plays independently, he generally eats well, etc.
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I have honestly never wished that I could co back to the way things were before my daughter - I feel like she completed me even more than my husband did when I met him. I fondly remember pre-baby days but I never yearn for them back lol. But I think that is uncommon - I think most people had much more "fun" lives before their kids but I feel more fulfilled now.
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There have been times when life with kids has been incredibly difficult. But I've always known I wanted to be a mom and raise kids so I've never regretted having kids. Sometimes I do look forward to when they're a little less work
but when it comes to lifestyle, I tend to be very satisfied wherever I am no matter how hard it is, because I set my sights on a goal and when I achieve it I'm happy.
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Nope, never ever. But we'll see what I say when she's 17!
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I don't regret it but I do wish we had more help with house stuff so I could spend my time with the kids instead of shopping, cooking, cleaning, etc.
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@Mamaof2: i'm pregnant now and this is my biggest fear
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Absolutely not. It's hard sometimes and I'm exhausted 90% of the time, but absolutely no regrets. I was just telling a friend this morning that if I had millions of dollars and a big house I'd just keep on having babies!
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Nope! Being a mama has been one of my most favorite adventures of life! I love my boys so much, even though they drive me crazy
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Way harder than I ever imagined and here are days I want to run away but I never imagined I could love someone so much and wouldn't change my life with our son and wouldn't change a thing about him.
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@sorrycharlie: these are my thoughts exactly!
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Absolutely not. I wish we had one more year to ourselves to travel, but i'm really happy being a mom.
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Don't regret it and if I could go back I would still want to have E; but I was also very happy being childless, and I do sometimes miss the way things were pre-baby. Even when it's hard, I would never trade her for anything in the world.
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No, I don't' regret having her, she's my greatest achievement, but I might have hit pause and waited a little longer to enjoy "us" and "me" time a little bit more. But my family is my family and I wouldn't' change it for the world.
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I have no regrets but I do have days where I mourn the loss of my life "pre-kids".
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I think you are going to get skewed results here.
I mean this is a parenting forum... Just saying.We suspect one of our friends regrets becoming a parent but everyone else we know loves it.
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@fairy: same! I have never felt this way, but I was also very ready for kids and had plenty of time for other life experiences. I am thankful for them, but I like my life a lot better now.
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I was never one of those people who always knew they wanted to be a mom. I really think I would have been ok if for some reason we couldn't have had any. That being said, I have never regretted having them. I love them more than I ever could have imagined. I never miss my old kid free life. But I also had them in my mid 30s so I had plenty of "me" time. I do sometimes wish I could sleep in on the weekends or miss how I used to look (thinner, less stretch marks, more put together). But oh well, that's part of me now as a mom.
@Mrs. Bee: I hear you - that's why my house is usually messy and cooking is generally quick and easy. Luckily, I have my mom who helps TONS. I remember being little and Saturdays were for cleaning. I don't remember doing anything fun. I want my boys to have better memories than that. I'm learning to let some stuff go.
@Mamaof2: sometimes I wonder the same thing. I don't think it came super naturally to me. But as time passes it does feel more comfortable. And then I see how my boys smile at me and I can comfort them the best. Then I realize they think I'm good enough.
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@anandam: this.
No, I dont regret her and I wouldn't go back and not have her. However... I definitely dont think being a mother is the shiny, life fulfilling thing that others seem to. Being a mom is not my life, my calling, or my identity. I feel very limited by it, to be honest. I do wish that we had gotten longer after we got married though.
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