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@SweetiePie: 11 weeks you're still in survival mode. It's hard when you're not sleeping and you feel like you have no clue what you're doing. For us things got so much better when he started STTN at 7m after sleep training. Oh and when the witching hour stopped that was great too. I don't even remember when it stopped happening, but I know that was one of the things that almost made me lose my mind when I was home on maternity leave.
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@SweetiePie: You are still very much in the trenches. It gets so much better as they get older! Once they start interacting with you and gain some independence, life improves drastically! I have a 28 mo old and an 8 mo old and I'm just getting over the hump with number 2. Give it some time, girl. There are still hard moments but life continues to get better and better. Hugs to you!
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@SweetiePie: at 11 weeks it is 100% normal to feel that way. Hugs!
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@SweetiePie: I can definitely sympathize with what you are saying. It is hard. So hard. And it is not something that anyone can prepare for. I truly believe things will get better for you Ashe gets older and you figure out your life with a baby now.
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No kids yet so I can't vote, but DH has a coworker who apparently does. He actually had the gall to tell DH that we "dodged a bullet" when we lost R.
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@Torchwood: he seems like the type of person who shouldn't be allowed to procreate. What an awful thing to say
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@Torchwood: WOW.
I have so many colleagues who had negative reactions when I told them I was pregnant. Most of them are 10-20 years older than me so have teenagers or early twenties children who seem to mostly be asshole freeloaders.
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@Torchwood: Oh my god. Why would anyone say that?!
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@Torchwood: Wow, I think that is the most horrendous thing I've ever heard! I'm sorry your husband had to listen to that and I commend him for not ripping his coworkers face off.
I've said above that I regret having kids and if I could go back in time I'd opt to be childless. But I know that's not reality, and if something happened to my son today I'd probably go insane with grief. It's such a strange combination of emotions, being a mom.
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I don't regret a thing, but I do wish I could have had my twins as singles. While I've reached the point where it's definitely easier to have two the same age, I know there are things they have missed...and that I have missed...in the twin "fog."
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@Torchwood: maybe it was a person who didn't know what to say in that situation? like the people who say, "at least you have fun trying!" when it has taken awhile to get pregnant.
One of our neighbors took their 18 month old for a speech and hearing test because he's not talking yet. When I told DH this (we have a 2 1/2 year old chatter box), he said I should've told them something along the lines of "gift horse." Thankfully that wasn't said, but I feel like guys tend to male jokes like that when people share about kid issues. At least that's what I'm hoping your husband's coworker meant!
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@HabesBabe: It was intended as a joke. It was just horribly inappropriate, and it was right after we'd gone through everything. Thankfully their team lead was standing right there, and he told the coworker, "you need to just walk away right now." And I think he took him aside later and talked to him. But it's still really hard on DH because the guy complains about his kids and how he can't wait to get them out of the house, etc ALL the time. And their cubes are right next to each other (no way to move) so it's something he's dealing with a LOT.
@SweetiePie: @loveisstrange: @ScarletBegonia: @Synchronicity: I don't know how DH managed not to hit him or go off on him. I've threatened to go in there and have it out a few times. But he's just a majorly socially inept a**hole, so there's really nothing to be done about it. The rest of his coworkers have been great.
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