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Elephant in the room: separating children at the border

  1. gotkimchi

    nectarine / 2400 posts

    @Madison43: yes i agree to @mrsjd: comment

    And yes to the rest of the comment

  2. NorthStar

    pear / 1881 posts

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  3. MrsSCB

    pomelo / 5257 posts

    @Madison43: This woman is even asking to be deported with her son, but they've been separated for six weeks. She's also pregnant https://www.newyorker.com/news/dispatch/in-ice-detention-a-honduran-woman-fears-deportation-without-her-son

  4. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @Mrs D: I tried to read the article you linked, but it immediately prescribed motivations to journalists reporting on current events with no facts to back up those assumptions. The article is so clearly biased against the media, that it's hard to parse out any actual facts.

  5. snowjewelz

    wonderful kiwi / 23653 posts

    @Madison43: Agree. I am totally clueless at the intricate workings of this matter, and I know most of the families were trying to escape from horrible things back home, but I'd think that they'd still rather be deported together as a family (or just denied entry all together in the first place), rather then being separated and having NO idea what's going on with your children and having NO idea whether you'd ever see them again

  6. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    While dealing with immigration and border security is a huge issue with no simple solution, there ARE solutions to stop the current travesty occurring at our borders. The simplest being the Administration to stop their new policy of separating families simply for entering the country.

    But there's currently legislation introduced to immediately stop the family separations (with stipulations for abuse, not actually being family members, court orders for separation, etc), but of course it was introduced by a Democrat so no Republican will support it.

  7. Mrs. Lemon-Lime

    wonderful pea / 17279 posts

    @Mrs D: I scanned the article you linked to. In it the author states the solution to the current situation is legislation, but that’s not true. Trump (for the record Obama did too) uses executive orders rather liberally. The same laws that were on the books under Bush and Obama did not result in this outcome.

    Honestly, this is a humanitarian and decency issue. There’s a reason people are risking their lives to come here. To add this trauma on top of it is maddening.

  8. Madison43

    persimmon / 1483 posts

    This is truly amazing.

    https://m.facebook.com/donate/490507544717085/490881588013014/

    Their original fundraising goal was $1,500.

  9. NorthStar

    pear / 1881 posts

    @Madison43: wow!

  10. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @Adira: How about the legislation Ted Cruz introduced? Seems to be an interesting option?

    I'm fully supportive of legislation that keeps a family unit together - assuming that together is in some sort of controlled facility. AND assuming there are no immediate red flags of criminal activity.

    I havent been able to read in depth on the two pieces of legislation offered up - at quick glance it looked like the bill proposed by the democrat was more of an "innocent until proven guilty" approach which I personally do not agree with in regards to someone who illegally crossed the border.

    I'm supportive of assylum seekers, and keeping family units together. I am leery of the consequences rash decisions may have on the well being of innocent bystanders. At any rate, it would be nice to see some concessions on one side or another, to get some middle ground reached.

    @Mrs. Lemon-Lime: I am generally highly opposed to executive order use, no matter who is using it.

  11. BlueWolverine

    pear / 1510 posts

    As a student of history, I thought I knew what civil rights leaders meant when they said that they were so very tired, but had to keep going. I needed some inspiration in this time and wanted to pass this on to those who are horrified by what's happening and need some help to keep resisting.


  12. birdofafeather

    pineapple / 12053 posts

    @NorthStar: @math.nerd: thanks for sharing. i want to look into this more.

  13. Boopers

    pear / 1548 posts

    @Mrs D: So murderers get the benefit of being innocent until proven guilty, but people seeking asylum can’t? Seeking asylum isn’t illegal. These people should not be separated from their children. These children are being ripped away from their parents, placed in cages with not even basic human decency. They aren’t being comforted, shown love and care, etc. This trauma causes irreparable harm that will carry with them their entire lives. You asked for a solution earlier which is simple. Stop separating families. Period.

  14. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @Boopers: I wasnt aware every single person crossing the border illegally was seeking asylum? Is this a new discovery?

    What about the cases where kids are being ripped from their families to be used as pawns in this border crossing game?

    Its not simple, nothing with immigration ever is. So yes, I think every normal human being would agree they'd like to see families stay together...its the HOW that gets difficult. If you take the easiest rate and simply end the practice you are going to open up a whole new can of worms...

  15. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @Mrs D: I don't know the percentage of illegal crossings that asylum seekers, but we do know that SOME of them are, and they are being arrested and separated from their families along with everyone else. This happening to even one family seeking asylum is too many.

    We do know the numbers of adults using children to pose as a family to get into the country fraudulently and it's less than 1%.

  16. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @Adira: Perhaps right now its 1% because of the strict policy enforcement. It could get worse, much worse, if there is a rushed change without contemplation of the consequences.

    Is one child separated from his family worth one child used and abused as a pawn in some human trafficking game?

  17. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @Mrs D: No, all children should be protected and kept safe as much as possible. Torturing children and causing irreparable harm is absolutely NOT worth the chance it MIGHT deter human traffickers. Doing evil to stop evil is still evil. And evil to children is the worst kind.

  18. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @Adira: I'm not familiar with the conditions under which the children are being kept, I will have to do some research. I would imagine their treatment is far better than that of children being used in trafficking...which its stands to good reason if it becomes that they CAN become a trafficking tool they WILL. This is of course just my opinion. I dont have a solution. I'd love to see every child treated as well as I treat my own...I just dont know what the solution is...

    I did like in Senator Cruz's bill called for an increase in judges to expedite these cases, to me it seemed a step in correcting the process - not just alleviating the immediate issue.

  19. BlueWolverine

    pear / 1510 posts

    @Adira: Yes, yes, yes. Thank you. The lengths people will go to defend this policy is truly astounding to me.

  20. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @Mrs D: The condition in which they are kept is actually beside the point. Separating them from their parents in the first place does irreparable harm in the first place.

    But as to the condition they are kept, there are reports that their caregivers aren't allowed to pick up or even hug these kids, many of them toddlers. Can you even imagine your child in a strange place, surrounded by strangers, crying for you, and no one will offer them any comfort??

    I agree that more immigration judges would help at least reunite families sooner or whatever, but Trump has said he's not interested in that solution at all. He doesn't want migrants coming to our country, period, and if torturing children helps him achieve that, then that is what he's going to do...

    Pure evil....

  21. pinkb

    pear / 1599 posts

    @Adira: YES to all of this. There is no way to excuse the treatment of these children. There is no defending it period.
    No one has the answer currently but that doesn't excuse what we as a country are doing.
    To defenders Of these acts I would hope your privileged self and your CHILDREN never have to go through what these people are living through. What we are doing to fellow humans and children who have done nothing wrong is absolutely disgusting.

  22. Mrs. Lemon-Lime

    wonderful pea / 17279 posts

    @Mrs D: whether you agree with executive orders is irrelevant. The fact is Trump has used them before and refuses to do so now. It’s actually his “zero-tolerance” policy that has created this particular inhumane outcome.

  23. Madison43

    persimmon / 1483 posts

    @pinkb: did anyone here defend the policy?

  24. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @Madison43: @Mrs D: appears to be defending it? Unless she's just not articulating her position well...

  25. gotkimchi

    nectarine / 2400 posts

    There might not be an easy answer but there is certainly the right and moral thing to do and this is not it. To me it’s crazy to keep a bad thing just because we don’t have any better ideas??? This is literally what we pay lawmakers for so I am going to continue to call and email, continue to donate and make sure everyone is ready to vote in november

  26. Madison43

    persimmon / 1483 posts

    @Adira: I do not want to put words in anyone’s mouth, but my impression is that she supports keeping families together (and said as much above), but does not support the previous “catch and release” policy, for lack of a better phrase. The debate you two got into above, in my mind, goes well beyond the very discrete issue that gave rise to those crisis.

  27. mrsbubbletea

    nectarine / 2821 posts

    Weird screen shot but this poem,
    💔



  28. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @Madison43: Thank you - I am not defending the policy nor the actions of the current White House in this regard.

    What I am saying is that we are in a situation - how we get out of this situation needs to be given thought and not some knee jerk reaction. Immigration is a serious topic and deserves serious discussions to remedy our currently flawed policies. The ramifications of a knee jerk reaction could put us in a worse place than we are currently are in.

    @pinkb: Yes, I am privileged and I am aware of it and grateful everyday for how fortunate I am. I cant imagine what I would do if I were an asylum seeker. I truly hope YOU are never caught in the unfortunate circumstance to have your life flipped upside down by the act of an illegal border crosser.

  29. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @Adira: Perhaps its my articulation, perhaps its the perception of the reader - I was pretty clear that I supported keeping families together...so I am not sure how one could surmise that I supported the policy that does the exact opposite.

  30. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @Mrs D: Sorry if I misunderstood. It sounded like you were saying that separating families might be worth it if it deters human traffickers or protects the small amount of children being used as pawns. And it also sounded like you were saying reversing this policy (or separating families crossing the border) shouldn't be immediately reversed without more consideration for the possible consequences. Please correct me!

  31. Mrs D

    grapefruit / 4545 posts

    @Adira: Saying we should come to a good solution before just doing, is not the same as supporting a policy. I can both disagree with a policy, and agree that working to find a good solution, not just the fastest solution is best.

    I do believe that coming to a policy solution needs to contemplate the impact it will have if using children at the border becomes a get out of jail free card...

    I think Sen. Feinsteins bill actually makes having a child a get out of jail free card for more than just border crossing...I could be wrong...

  32. gotkimchi

    nectarine / 2400 posts

    How about a little Dietrich Bonhoeffer tonight?

    Silence in the face of evil is evil itself. God will not hold us guiltless. Not to speak is to speak. Not to act is to act.

    If i sit next to a madman as he drives a car into a group of innocent bystanders I can’t as a Christian simply wait for the catastrophe then comfort the wounded and bury the dead. I must try to wrestle the steering wheel out of the hands of the driver.

    Or perhaps some Ronald Reagan

    We must never remain silent in the face of bigotry. We must condemn those who seek to divide us. In all quarter and at all times we must teach tolerance and denounce racism, anti-demotion and all ethnic or religious bigotry wherever they exist as unacceptable evils. We have no place for haters in America - none, whatsoever

  33. Mrsbells

    squash / 13199 posts

    I am always amazed when people try to justify things are obviously despicable.

  34. Mrs Panda

    apricot / 388 posts

    @Mrs D: I think I understand what you are saying, but my point of disagreement with you is this: “What I am saying is that we are in a situation -“ I don’t see child separation as a situation that we, passively, happen to be in. This was something actively implemented by the current administration- a choice to interpret law this way. It wasn’t inevitable. That is what is so evil. Even if you say you support keeping families together, but don’t see the source of the problem as Trump, then we fundamentally disagree.

  35. pinkcupcake

    cantaloupe / 6751 posts

    People need some fucking compassion.

    There, but for the grace of God, go I.

  36. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    @Mrs Panda: Yes, exactly!! If the situation is illegal immigration, then yes, we have a situation and we need to come up with a comprehensive, but compassionate, solution. But tearing apart families is NOT the solution, it's just evil. But that's the "solution" that this Administration has chosen to implement.

  37. AprilFool

    nectarine / 2591 posts

    Once again we have a post speaking of terrible things happening to people and @Mrs D: sits in her ivory tower justifying evil. I don't know why anyone bothers replying to her, since I am fairly certain this is a sport for her. Must be so nice to be so lucky to deny others basic human rights. One day I hope you feel something for someone else, an ounce of compassion and realise we do things for others because we are the lucky ones, not the selfish and unkind ones. Peace out!

  38. thepaperbutterfly

    grape / 98 posts

    @AprilFool: I avoid political discussions almost always because it devolves into personal attacks. Your comment just took things a bit too far by implying Mrs. D has never had any compassion for anyone else in life. It does nothing to prove a point..

  39. AprilFool

    nectarine / 2591 posts

    @thepaperbutterfly: tell someone who cares! After years watching her be a heartless bitch I just had to say my peace. Done with this website anyway so finally can say how I feel!

  40. Adira

    wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts

    Latest reports are talking about how babies & toddlers are being held at "tender age" shelters, and that a congressman who was able to visit one saw a room dedicated to BABIES under 1. BABIES stolen away from their parents! My heart is breaking...

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