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We are a "pot luck" style family so I always expect to cook something and also coordinate for ppl to bring things to my place when I host. My husband's family is the opposite so I always feel strange not contributing! We usually bring wine with is regardless of instructions

I like to cook everything...the reason is that I know what is going into my food and I choose things that pair nicely (at least that's my intention). As some of the hosts have gotten older, they've wanted to do less and less, so if they ask, I will gladly bring part of the meal.

When people ask what they can bring, I always suggest dessert, it's easy for the non bakers to pick something up and it's a chance for the ones that want to make something to try something new.

Both sides of our family are flexible on this--sometimes we do pot luck events, where the "host" only does the décor and mains and drinks and everyone else brings sides and desserts. Sometimes we have events where one family is hosting and provides everything. But even at those events, many people show up with something (bottle of wine, a dessert, something) because in my husband's culture it's rude to accept hospitality without bringing a gift to the host, and usually that gift is more food or drink

I always offer -

In my family host provides everything. Others being hostess gifts but not necessarily sides or desserts.
In DHs family it seems to be different in different events.
Thanksgiving is family only and host provides all.
Christmas Eve is huge with family, friends, colleagues 100+ people. The host provides mains and the rest of the family chips in with everything else. I make six dozen cookies for that party.

We are always staying with whoever we are with for the holidays so I can't bring anything since we fly there. But I always offer to help and usually bake something once I'm there.

With my ILs, everyone is expected to bring something. Even just for a regular non holiday brunch. I find it a bit annoying because we all rotate hosting so I think the host could just make the meal and it would still turn out "fair." With my family, people sometimes bring an appetizer or dessert but nothing is expected.

Growing up, we just had Christmas dinner at home together just the three of us. Occasionally, we would get invited to my godmother's house for a New Year meal and she would provide everything, so I just presumed that this was more. As a grown up, I've hosted many "dinner parties" and I've always provided everything (and tried to make the meal as fancy as possible). Then, when I met my husband and started going to his family for Christmas, his mother provided everything but, then, she treats us like we are still children...... It was only when I asked to host and his mum started planning everything she was going to bring that it was revealed to me that this deemed normal in some families. I'm thinking back to meals I have attended in the past and cringing at how rude I may have appeared!

My dad's side the host provides the main dishes - meat, potatoes, corn, buns and everyone is asked to bring something to go with. With 30+ people it would be a lot of food for one person to provide.
My mom's side is potluck style, everyone brings a dish which they divy up before hand so we know who's bringing what.

My MIL will usually provide everything, but since the family has gotten bigger I'll usually offer to make/bring something.

I always offer and if they say whatever I would like I usually bring a side and/or dessert.

In my family the host cooks the majority of the meal and if others ask they are tasked with bringing an appetizer or dessert. Bringing wine or beer is pretty standard, but the host always has plenty of options as well. My husbands family doesnt really know how to host a holiday meal in my opinion. They only serve the main dish and 2-3 sides. I usually end up bringing an appetizer, a side dish, and a dessert. plus whatever beer my husband is in the mood for. They don't ask us to bring it usually i volunteer to do it, I just know they don't plan for it and I find the meal is lacking otherwise.

We are both from pot luck types of families. The host usually provides the main protein + drinks and the rest of us fill in with the sides/appetizers/desserts.

With my family every holiday/get together we all bring something. DHs family we offer but they tell us we don't need to bring anything since we have a 5 hour drive. I might bring something sweet since if it doesn't need to be kept cold.

We bring something for my husbands family, but not with mine. I think the people in my family would be insulted if we brought a side dish, they all have sour much pride in their family meals.

It took some getting used to for me too, I didn't know it was common before I met DH.

Both sides are potluck-ish. That is, the host always provides enough, but in the spirit of sharing and abundance the guests tend to each bring a little something.

In past years, we hosted and did potluck style. This past year, I told everyone don't bring anything but they still brought... When we go to my Aunty's I didn't bring anything until I was in college.

My side of the family does pot luck style, but also tend to do the majority of the cooking at the same house because we all travel to someone's house. We tend to menu plan together prior to the holiday.

DH's family doesn't really do big special meals for holidays. If we are there visiting, there are usually 15-20 people in the house anyway for the whole week, so every meal is big, but it's usually his mom and sisters cooking.