I just did. With FIL.
How about you?
coconut / 8475 posts
I put other...meaning: I held myself back sooo many times
hostess / wonderful watermelon / 39513 posts
@TurtleDoves: I voted no but I also held back!
coconut / 8305 posts
@irene: Boo that!
This was actually our best Thanksgiving since DH & I started dating 4 years ago. No issues with any family, extended, or IL.
nectarine / 2964 posts
Good for you guys. I was so upset and cried in the bathroom for half an hour. In fact I also held back but I did say what I think. Basically I received comments that made me feel like I am doing a horrible job as his grandson's mom/caretaker.
@irene: Omgosh, no way:( I don't blame you. That'd cause me to cry too to be honest...
@irene: I'm so sorry.
pomelo / 5252 posts
@irene: I'm sorry.
My family was pretty great. I do have teenage special needs cousin that is kind of obsessed with breastfeeding. She always tries to watch me do it and asks me all sorts of questions about it while I do it. Every time. There's no where to go for privacy so I packed my cover specifically for her but she sat down right next to me and stared down the hole. Then she called out things like, "I see her on your nipple." I don't think anyone else apprecited the play by play. It just seems so odd because she pays no attention to LO except when she's feeding. Ah, family.
bananas / 9227 posts
I'm sorry you had to go through that
I didn't vote, but'll see how it is when Christmas is over.
pear / 1946 posts
I was totally exhausted after getting 4 hours of sleep, and have been battling a nasty cold. DD has seemed extra whiney lately and was refusing to go down for a nap at my parents' house. She would sleep on me but then cry when I put her down, which she hasn't done since she was a newborn. I lost it. I started crying. My mom took over and made me lay down to take a nap. When DH got home I broke down and cried to him and later said I needed a vacation from DD. I think we were both just overtired and cranky.
GOLD / cantaloupe / 6581 posts
Just with DH we're just too tired and stressed...every little thing is setting us off
wonderful pea / 17279 posts
Nope, not this year. ILs were in and out in less than 2 hours. All good over here.
honeydew / 7667 posts
No but we didn't see my in laws this year either.
grapefruit / 4136 posts
I voted other because the day itself was really good but my grandma asked to come over this morning and usually when she invites herself over it's to tell me I've gained too much weight, I'm an alcoholic or I'm not bing a good wife and my hub won't want to stay with me...stay tuned
GOLD / coconut / 8266 posts
@babyjmama: bahaha, good luck!
@irene: so sorry...
pomelo / 5678 posts
I voted other. Dh had to work and we were totally exhausted from him not having the prior weekend off either. We had our own thanksgiving and in retrospect am glad we did!
pomegranate / 3225 posts
Well we spent the weekend with my family at my patents vacation home. Mistake #1. As soon as we get there my dad starts talking about how Obama is ruining our country and healthcare reform is making my mom and he lose their health coverage and making us pay for insurance for all these poor people. He Knows I don't agree. So basically I told him I didn't want any more negative talk... Yeah very awkward the rest of the time.
bananas / 9628 posts
well, i had an unpleasant incident, but it wasn't anyone's fault. i thought i was coming down with a UTI wednesday, but it seemed better thursday morning, but then it came back in full force during thanksgiving dinner at my brother's. he offered me pepto 'cause he thought i was running to the bathroom every 5 mins for a different reason... awkward. oh well. no family drama though, which was nice.
hostess / watermelon / 14932 posts
@babyjmama: oh boy. update?!
pear / 1812 posts
I love my mom but she is so negative and obsesses over the stupidest things sometimes. We make homemade gravy from the turkey renderings. Well, this year, somehow there wasn't a ton but there were a bunch of people over. She had some store bought gravy she was trying to get everybody to eat so she could have "the good stuff" but obviously nobody was going for that and she was freaking out because she wanted some and yet refused to get her food until everybody was done and said everybody was taking it all so she couldn't have any... really? I just snapped and told her to stop bitching and eat. She didn't like that.... Oh well. We moved on pretty quick.
nectarine / 2031 posts
@kml636: sounds like my FIL every time we go over to the house. (Which is a lot)
@sorrycharlie: it went REALLY well!!! I even called my dad and asked if she had anything up her sleeve, I guess we caught her on a good day. DH stayed in the basement until she was leaving, just in case lol
GOLD / papaya / 10166 posts
@irene: I'm sorry
I got mad at my brother because he didn't apologize after his dog tore up DD's favorite stuffed animal.
coconut / 8079 posts
@irene: I'm sorry that happened. I voted no, but can I change my vote? FIL has decided he hates my dog (so by extension my preggo self feels like he now hates me) so when he came over today I took my furry friend and didn't come back home until he left!
pomelo / 5093 posts
Yes, with my father in law. He was an awful father, and now has no interest in being a grandfather. Trouble is, my mother in law is the world's best grandmother, and cares for my daughter two days a week. So my toddler was doing some typical toddler stuff (trying to help a little too much with the cooking), and my father in law full on lost his temper and screamed at her. Which is really, really unacceptable to us.
And now it's this huge thing that we have to deal with. I told him that he was never permitted to speak to my daughter that way, but honestly, he has no reason to change. He doesn't especially want a relationship with her or me. I'm really at a loss for how to handle it.
Thanks everyone for sharing, and hugs to my few fellow bees who voted "yes"...!! Here's hoping the next family gathering will be better...
@mrs. bird: Oh no.... UTI is the worst. I hope you are feeling better!
@babyjmama: That's great! hahaha
@Mrs Hedgehog: Your mom is quite a character! hahaha
@sarac: Similar to you, my FIL is the worst and MIL is the best. I am sorry he yelled at your girl. That is not cool at all. Just tell him to stay away if he has no interest in you guys anyway!! grrr
For me, MIL talked to me the next morning and FIL said briefly to me that don't mind/forget what he had said the night before. MIL is the sweetest, but it is very hard to "forget" what FIL said. He always does that - telling me to forget about it after putting a knife through my gut. No thanks. I do remember. I couldn't look at him or talk to him for the rest of the day. Thankfully it was also the day we flew back home.
wonderful pomelo / 30692 posts
@TurtleDoves: Same!! Had to bite my tongue a few times!!! Plus it was so awkward just being around SMIL after her bitchy e-mail a few weeks ago!
bananas / 9229 posts
Yup, my mom. Long story short, she/my parents have decided to start splitting costs when we go out anywhere - them and my sister versus me and DH. And my mom literally counts to every cent. Yeah...
bananas / 9899 posts
Canadian Thanksgiving was back in October, but I did experience a rather unpleasant incident with DH's family.
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