GOLD / pomelo / 5468 posts
@Mrs. Pajamas: Oh I'm actually not worried at all. I just wanted to put out the disclaimer that I was posting the grades but don't know what they mean. He seemed to think the 5AB was great and so we'll start with that and take it from there.
Small update. Third embryo had my unbalanced translocation. Which I expected but glad to know for sure.
Right now based on travel and lab closure it looks like roughly June 28th will be transfer. Not a lot going on between now and then so I guess this thread will be pretty quiet!
apricot / 370 posts
@SweetiePie: omg that's so soon!! How exciting!
Unfortunately my friend who just did her first retrieval ended up with no normal embryos and she is obviously devastated.
@Mrs. Pajamas: Oh I'm so sorry to hear that. And she wasn't even going to do PGD originally, right? May not be the best time to say it but if I were her I'd be so glad I found out via PGD and just knew rather than possibly failed transfers, miscarriages or worse.
Obviously you know my first two rounds didn't have any normals so feel free to wall me to exchange info if she'd like to talk.
@SweetiePie: That's super sweet of you to offer to talk to her. Yeah I'm so glad I convinced her to do pgd. When she was complaining about how hard stimming was, I was like "girl, that is the easy part. Wait until you miscarry or have failed transfers". Those were all so devastating for me! But following everyone's stories on this board has given me such good knowledge about the huge range of possibilities. Thankfully she's on a trip to Mexico this week so she'll be distracted. I gotta convince her to keep trying and that's so hard when you feel it's hopeless. We can all relate to that for sure. Ugh.
kiwi / 512 posts
An update... Went in to get my labs for estrogen and progesterone and an ultrasound to check my lining yesterday. It looks good. Doc prescribed 2mg estrodial 3x a day. We will do more labs and ultrasounds next week and next Friday. If all looks good at that point, then the tentative FET transfer is on 5/25.
Anything I should be eating, taking, or not doing to prepare during this time? I'm nervous and hopeful.
pear / 1595 posts
@Honeydew: good luck!! Just popping in. I had a successful FET last May ️ I drank 8oz POM juice everyday for 5 days before and after transfer (to help w lining), along with an avocado and Brazil nuts daily before and after transfer. I also had McDonald's fries after my transfer Some people swear it works. lol I took it easy after the transfer for one day, but otherwise kept my activities as normal. Starting now, I would also limit dairy and gluten since they can be inflammatory. I don't have any specific intolerance, but figured that anything helps!! Good luck!!!
@Honeydew: awesome update, good luck!
@Northstar and @sweetiepie. Thank you!
BTW. since the transfer isn't for another 2 weeks. We are celebrating our anniversary this weekend. Do you think having a drink is a problem? Or nix the alcohol?
@Honeydew: You are welcome! I am sure it would be fine! My birthday was a few weeks before my transfer and I had a few glasses of wine with one of my girl friends
@Honeydew: enjoy it while you can girl! Good luck!
@Honeydew: I never restricted anything or went on special diets before my transfer. I now have a 2.5yo. I think it'll be fine
apricot / 353 posts
@Honeydew: i think a couple drinks should be fine! if you have blood flow issues, I'd cut out all caffeine (including chocolate)
So I've had a really strange turn of events.
As you know, I have to do PGD because I have a balanced translocation. So really we should never try to conceive naturally because it's risky. Well, we've been really good about that for almost 4 years when we first found out.
I think my natural cycle is off from IVF or something because I miscalculated when I would ovulate - and LO and behold I got a very faint BFP last week. Like so faint it wasn't there until it dried and I looked again hours later before I tossed it. I didn't feel any symptoms and I was seriously maybe 8-10dpo but I just looked at a calendar and panicked that maybe I was overly confident with my ovulation estimate. So for a couple days I continued to test and freak out and it got slightly darker but barely. I finally worked up the courage to tell my husband because I was just freaking out. I knew this would not be a viable pregnancy and felt so foolish for messing up and putting off our transfer. We'd have to wait till 10-ish weeks to get nipt done and confirm it was abnormal and then figure out what to do from there.
Well, I told him and it went fine. Better than fine. So we agreed to just hope for the best but prepare for the worst.
Lines stopped getting darker and I just kinda knew they wouldn't get any darker. My last 3 pregnancies (2 natural ended in MC and 1 FET who is now my son) I was blazing positive by now (today is my missed period). Today the line is barely there. Like almost no color.
So now I'm 99.9% it's a chemical but it's mixed feelings. Mostly relieved because I was afraid of so may other possible outcomes (another D&C, later term miscarriage/stillborn, poor quality of life or being faced with a decision of termination for medical reasons).
But there's still that very small part of me that was hoping it was our insanely crazy miracle "normal" baby.
But I swear I'm really fine with it and glad we aren't too deraield from our FET.
Now waiting for my period. I'm hoping it's soon!
I called my RE today to find out what (if anything) to do and haven't heard back yet. But I'm leaving in about an hour to visit my family. So, not much I can do from there anyway! I imagine he'll just want to see me Monday when I'm back for a blood draw.
Annnnyhow. Just another "adventure" to add to the list. Lol.
Swear I'm not looking for sympathy, I just thought it was crazy and felt like sharing. Sort of cathartic. Also, if it messes up our plans I figured I'd explain what happened to you all anyway.
@SweetiePie: Oh my goodness! what a roller coaster! I hope the RE is able to get back to you soon. Thinking of you as you figure out what is going on and what needs to be done
@SweetiePie: um that is some crazy s--t girl. We can't swear here right? I always hoped we would be able to conceive naturally and still have those crazy thoughts but isn't it funny how the controlled aspect of ivf/pgd is oddly comforting for us veterans? Hope everything goes back to normal and you're still on track for your transfer!
have a friend who is trying for #2 that just found out she has incredibly low AMH (she thought she'd just go get things checked out, not expecting anything). she is overwhelmed and heartbroken. Would like to send her a little care package--any suggestions for things to include ?
@endymion4: Awww, shes probably so nervous.
Hmmmm if it were me getting a package from my friend I would like:
- favorite candy
- some fun magazines (People StyleWatch and InStyle)
- a bottle of wine
- a face mask of some sort (something pretty neutral like hydrating - don't want to be like "here's an anti aging mask because you look old!")
- cozy slippers or cute PJ shorts set for summer
- a short note saying she's thinking of me
@SweetiePie: thanks for the suggestions!!
@endymion4: Oh, also if you want to add something fun to make her smile, there are cute wine tumblers on etsy. A mom friend of mine got me this one and every time I go to pour myself a glass of wine it makes me smile. I ended up getting one for my sister just because.
And they have lots of funny ones if you want to find a better one to suit her personality. And coffee mugs if she's not a drinker. Fast shipping too.
Which makes me also want to add that if she's not a drinker maybe a nice bag of coffee beans instead of wine.
@SweetiePie: those are cute!! thank you!
hope things are going okay with you!!
@endymion4: Thanks Nothing new. Still just waiting. Still barely there squinters that only I can see because I know it's there. My coordinator just said to let them know if I don't have my period by next Weds and they'll have me come in for bloods Thursday to see what's up.
@Mrs. Pajamas: I mean...maybe we're not supposed to swear. But...meh.
I am so jealous all. The. Time. of people who can just do it all naturally. And not even be afraid to do it. After this scare I'm getting my tubes tied as soon as it makes sense.
@SweetiePie: i'm so sorry you're just in the holding pattern for now!! Hopefully there will be resolution one way or another soon so you can plan next steps!
@endymion4: Holding pattern over! Got my period this afternoon. Only a day or so later than originally expected. So I'll still have approx a June 28 transfer!
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