I have had issues with my in laws with DS. I know they border on irrational, but I try to keep myself in check and not let it impact their relationship with DS, because they are good, loving, well-meaning parents and grandparents. My issues are mostly due to comments they've made that have been hurtful to me or seem like passive aggressive attacks on my parenting. There have also been a few occasions where they have done things that I don't like - waking DS from a nap when he was a newborn, keeping him up late in the evenings when we come for the weekend to get more time with him, etc...

Anyway... DS is 9 months now and DH and I haven't left him with anyone other than daycare. One of us has always been around. But I know that DH and I need some time together and was thinking about planning a lunch date on New Years to go out to eat and see a movie. We'll be at my in laws for the weekend and I'm trying to be okay with leaving him with them. I know he'll be fine and they will be so happy to have him to themselves. Plus it's a daytime thing, so I won't miss bedtime (which I'm just not ready for yet!)

It just feels a lot different with both of us leaving him when we don't *have* to. Add in my MIL issues and I'm having a tough time. BUT this is the first I've even seriously considered it, and gone as far as to look at movie times, so I'm making progress.

Any words of wisdom or encouragement?