My 4.5 years old DS has been day time trained since a zillion years ago... but night time is still a huge problem. For some reason the "night time potty fairy" has never visited us, and he still pretty much has a wet diaper every morning.
Recently I have asked him if he actually wakes up and knows that he needs to go at night, but just pee his pants instead - and he said yes.... together with some excuses in the lines of he is too tired, and he'd not get enough sleep if he goes to the potty. So I really wanted to up the game, We bought cool looking 3D stickers, and he will get one if he wakes up with a dry diaper. School teacher also talk his ear off. Last week he was waking up with a dry diaper every other night as he got up and go pee.
Then somewhere along the line, I don't know what happened, he just gave up. The past two nights he woke up with a wet diaper again.
What would you do? I even bribe him and said if he can remain dry 7 nights in a row we'll take him to the toy store where he will get a toy that he selects as celebration. We'll see what happens. I am very tempted to say you'll get. say. a quarter if you wake up dry (He gets 25 cents a day if he collects enough stars for good behavior. $1.5 if he folds his laundry all by himself, which seldom happens). but i am not sure if this is something I want to to tie money to...
Any advice?????? Anyone struggle with the same thing ? When do they realize naturally that it is disgusting just peeing inside your pants even though you are very sleepy?
pomegranate / 3437 posts
Our pediatrician said you can't night train. Their body has to be ready for it (physically and emotionally) and for boys they could be 5 or 6 before waking up dry every morning. I honestly wouldn't worry about it at this point. My son is almost 4.5 and wakes up with a wet pull up every day.
nectarine / 2964 posts
@KT326: ahh.... yes our ped said the same thing too.... but I just feel so bad! I saw a poll on here before and everyone is already night trained around the same time they were day trained. It makes me wonder too when he seem to know full well that he needs to get up and go, yet somehow he choose to lay there and relief himself... ack! Your case makes me feel better (that I am not alone!). OK I guess I wont stress about it for a bit then....
pomegranate / 3437 posts
@irene: you definitely aren't alone! I think there might be a couple other bees whose boys didn't night train right away. I also know so many people IRL who had boys that took awhile to night train.
pomelo / 5619 posts
ive heard the same things. DS is just over 3 and once in a blue moon wakes up dry.
I'd encourage him to stay dry but not worry about it.
grapefruit / 4291 posts
According to our local child health service night time wetting isn't a problem till age seven but you could just try taking away the nappies...
pomegranate / 3595 posts
@irene: my LO is 4 1/2 (5 in December) and we are in the exact same situation. Day trained over 2 years ago and no progress at night. I am trying to just follow her lead and I do really think it is a developmental thing. It is hard to be patient and not compare though. I am sure they will figure it out when they are ready!
hostess / wonderful grape / 20803 posts
From everything I know about night training, you can't night train. Their bodies do it when they are ready. My 4 year old has been trained for a long time and sometimes he wakes up dry, sometimes he goes pee in the middle of the night, and other times he wakes up sopping wet. He goes to bed in a pull up and when he wakes up on his own dry for a week, we'll pull the pull up.
GOLD / wonderful coconut / 33402 posts
@winniebee: R will go a 1-2 weeks dry, and then we try panties with a pull up it. and then that night she goes in the pull up. So we are just sticking with the pull ups for now.
pomelo / 5298 posts
We went through this with my girl (not to the same age), but from day training to full night training was nearly a year for us. She's never been one to wake at night to use the restroom (ever!). She's almost 5 and here's what we do (still) to help. She finishes with drinks by 7pm. She is reminded to use the rest room before bed (8-8:30). She gets a small drink of water (sips) when she brushes her teeth before bed. She's sent to the rest room when she wakes around 7:00. She's not a frequent user of the rest room in general. Without being specifically told to go on a normal day she will use the rest room 4 times? Wake, lunch time, after rest time, bed time. Maybe one other time in there through out the day.
watermelon / 14467 posts
Mine is 2.5, day trained and sometimes she wakes up dry, sometimes she doesn't. I'm not worried about it. We do try to limit her fluid intake right before bed which helps some, but it's not the end of the world. She'll do it when she's ready.
persimmon / 1165 posts
@Smurfette: K is the same way. Weeks dry and then when we switch back to panties she'll be fine for a night and then wet the bed 3 nights in a row.
It's frustrating, but I'm going to let it go. She's ready when she's ready!
clementine / 778 posts
Once we stuck a little potty in DS's room, he was staying dry through the night/getting up in the middle to night. We gave him an M&M if he woke up dry. After a month, we weened him off the M&Ms. Not sure if the potty in the room/reward really helped or if his body was ready.
Also, he has his last drink with dinner at 5:30. Occasionally, he'll ask for a drink later, and those are the nights he wakes up in the middle to pee.
wonderful pear / 26210 posts
I don't actually know when my son was night trained because we did pull-ups at night. All I can say is that it was not at the same time as day.