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What time is her bed time? Maybe she is considering the 3am feed morning?

My LO won't settle at night wakings without having her nappy changed, even if it's just wet so maybe try that? We change then feed so she's drowsy.

What are her total sleep hours during the day? You won't want to hear this, but some babies just don't need as much sleep as others and maybe there is too much day time napping going on.

I feel for you, my son is one of those that needs less sleep and at first I was struggling with how to deal with it, but once I accepted it and started manipulating day time sleep, the nights got better.

What do her naps look like during the day? Is it possible she's been getting too much daytime sleep and getting her days and nights mixed up?

Also, do you nurse her at 3:00 a.m.? You could try changing her diaper before you nurse her since she's fairly awake at that point anyway. Then you know she has a clean diaper on when you're done nursing so that won't be bothering her!

agree with others- she might be getting too much day sleep? how are her naps? i would be uncomfortable sleep training that young too, it is probably a fluke or might be a phase, baby sleep is constantly changing!! you could also try co bedding and side lying nursing so she falls asleep next to you?

@JoJoGirl: Hmm... sleep does beget sleep, but I know babies can get their days and nights confused. But if she's not sleeping during the day for longer than an hour at a time, I don't think that's the case. Try to figure out how much total sleep she's getting during the day - maybe she's actually not getting enough? With Xander, I always woke him if he slept longer than 2-2.5 hours during the day (especially at that age - now I leave him alone), but it doesn't sound like that's what's happening?

Although you mention she took 3 1-hour naps and then slept 7 hours - that seems decent. But after those 7 hours, she was up and ready to play? I don't have a ton of advice... when Xander's like that, I usually just put him back in his crib and ignore him, but he doesn't usually get too hysterical, so I'm not sure what to do with all the crying.

@JoJoGirl: hmmm maybe it's the change in room that signals wake time. What time do you usually go to bed? Maybe moving her in there while she is asleep just before you go to bed, so she is not in there by herself for the whole night but wakes up in there so it's not strange to go back to sleep there.

@JoJoGirl: woohooo! that's awesome! I would try to stick to similar schedule today, if possible, and see if it works
With DS, he would get into patterns and then teething would happen or we would go away for a weekend and everything would get crazy again, lol

@JoJoGirl: That is awesome! She slept better then R did last night. Definitely keep the same nap schedule and see if you get the same results tonight.

@JoJoGirl: I would let her sleep. Just let her nap the same amount of time today. Doesn't have to be the same exact time.

@JoJoGirl: haha sounds complicated! Am crazy jealous of that 9 hours. That looks like a good schedule, very similar to my LO who is just a bit older.

I'm sorry I know exactly what that's like. Are you putting her down while she's still awake, after her night feedings? I know a lot of people recommend that, but it just NEVER worked for us. We had to rock our DD back completely to sleep before putting her back down, until she was about 9 months old (although she was waking much less often by that age). I read something that said babies need to be parented to sleep at that young of an age, and it helped me feel less frustrated that she was "unwilling" to fall asleep, and realized I just needed to help her get there.

Another thought is she may not be getting enough sleep total. Check the total number of hours in a 24 hour period--for 3 months old, she should be getting 3-4 naps per day and sleeping a total of approximately 15 hours for every 24 hour period, with only 90-120 mins of wake time between naps (a catnap or two is OK!). When babies get overtired, they wind up, and wake more often/ earlier. It's definitely true for our DD.

Good luck, mama! Glad that with the update she slept well!

I think you're making progress, it might seem like you arent, but you have to look at the long term. One night isn't a trend!

Hang in there mama!

Ugh. Same problem here and with a baby about the same age. She is so fussy without her daytime naps...but with them, she wants to wake up and stay up at 3 am!!

@JoJoGirl: so it's like, ok, do I have a really shitty day just to get 5 hours of sleep at night? Sigh, babies.

@JoJoGirl: I am sorry!! Babies are so hard. R was sleeping till 5 and has been waking up 30 mins earlier every night. Last night she woke at 1130 and 5. So much for sleeping through the night. I am not sure what is going on with her. She isn't going down for naps easily either too. We might have to resleep train

@JoJoGirl: She did redeem herself by sleeping till 8 this morning. But she just took 23 mins of full on crying to finally lose out to her morning nap. Getting her to sleep last night was rough too. Maybe she is teething and that is what is going on. Who knows. I feel like I have no clue what I am doing these days.