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@Tippy0707: We were supposed to be team green again and dropped out. It's a great surprise at birth! I had a doula with my first and am not using her or another doula again. I've talked to a couple of people since who have said my experience was atypical so please take it with a grain of salt. I know a lot of people loved their doulas. I couldn't get in with the doula I 'clicked' with so I settled for another and then I ended up being induced due to maternal high blood pressure and she absolutely did not believe that was the right decision and although she never told me she let me know it through her actions. Because I was induced I went to the hospital at 9pm and she said to just call her when things got moving, well I was having slight contractions then and they continued. I finally got the pit at 9 am and my labor progressed rather quickly so by the time the doula got there (10 or 11?)I had gotten into a rhythm of just sinking into myself and the bed to get through them, it was working I was dealing with the pain (I went without pain meds). She thought I shouldn't be laying on my back and continuously tried to get me to move. I started pushing by noon and my son was born at 2. To me she was just an extra person and she didn't provide anything my husband and midwife already hadn't

@jetsa: I'm sorry you had a bad experience but thank you for sharing your story with me. We haven't decided for sure if we are going to have one or not, it just depends how we are feeling about the whole thing after we meet with them next week. We are going to be very upfront about how we feel re: induction, pain meds, etc. (Ideally, we would like to try for a med free birth and if I happen to go past my due date, I would like to try and not be induced as long as everything is ok with me and the baby. But if I decide that I want an epidural, I don't want to be frowned upon! ) So hopefully we will be able to get a feel for what their opinions are before going ahead and hiring them. The nice thing about the doulas we are talking to is that they work as partners (there are only two of them) so we would have a chance to get to know both of them before hand and make sure we like them both. They were my sisters doulas (they came highly recommended by her) and the one doula is my prenatal massage therapist so I have gotten to know her over the past few months. Also, on a side note, I am very jealous you had a midwife. We really wanted one but they are really hard to get where I live. There is an extreme shortage! Our city even built this beautiful new Birthing Centre but only midwives can deliver there and it seems next to impossible to get a midwife, so the Birthing Centre isn't doing nearly as many births as it was expected.

@SeptMomma12: Congrats on your !!! And thanks for adding my Team Green to the list. That little green ? looks pretty lonely. lol DH is feeling a little unsure about the doulas as well. I think he's worried that she will be taking over his role as well. I think it will be good for him (and I) to speak to them face to face so he can ask all his questions. He's also worried that its a big expense that we don't necessarily need. Are you going to hire a doula for this birth? If so, will it be the same doula?

Another question for all you bees. How many of you are taking/took during your first pregnancy a prenatal class (or hypnobirthing)? Did you find it beneficial? Do you think it would be worth taking if we did end up hiring a doula? Thanks!

We had our ultrasound yesterday and we found out we are having a girl! We are so thrilled! Everything looked good although the tech went super fast through the images so we didn't get a chance to see/understand everything. Baby was active during the ultrasound, which made it easy to see everything. What a cool experience it was!

@SeptMomma12 - when you update my gender on the list, can you please update my due date to 5/27? Although they wrote 5/28 on a paper they gave me, they confirmed my original estimated date of 5/27 is accurate. Thanks much!!

On a side note, I just found out I should not be taking Mucinex DM which I have been taking for 4 days so I hope I didn't cause my baby girl any harm. The meds are so confusing - the list of safe meds I had included Dextromethorphan and Guaifenesin, which are the ingredients, but I read (and the doc confirmed) I should not take anything with "D" because apparently Mucinex D has Guaifenesin and Pseudophedrine. I knew Pseudophedrine was not safe but it's not listed as an ingredient in Mucinex DM. Anyway, I am going to stop medicine altogether but I don't know why it has to be so confusing!

Congrats to all the May mama's out there - happy to be part of the girl club!

@FSUAliss: actually if it helps you feel better, I think Pseudophedrine IS considered ok--it's the active ingredient in Sudafed which is on the list of OK meds! I've been taking them, too

What my dr told me about Allegra-D at the time was that the only sort of issue they possibly found with it is that it can reduce amniotic fluid amounts (which...they would know when they look at your ultrasound if the baby has no water around it)

@Mrs squirreld: LOVE Violet:) I suggested it to DH and he nixed it and just said he wasn't feeling it with DD1's name...I was bummed:(

@Tippy0707: Awww thank you! With my first pregnancy, I didn't have a nice round bump until at least 24 or 25 weeks. Before that it just looked kind of bulgy and pudgy...I'm sure your little basketball belly is just around the corner!

@SeptMomma12, @Blackbird, @PrincessBaby: Thanks for making me feel better about the meds! I am going to try to survive without them to be safe, so we'll see how it goes. I sure do feel her moving around a lot which hopefully means she is okay!

Just popping in to say that I'm not sure how I managed for so long without the Jcrew Pixie mat pant. Holy crap do I love them! Wore them for the first time today to work and I now have to buy the other 2 colors.

And they are 40% off through the end of today!

@PrincessBaby: I should have scrolled up. I LOVE the name Sawyer! and I think I remember DD1's name. They go perfectly together!

We are really wrestling with boy names. I don't know why it's so hard for us! We really love the name Teddy as a nickname (DH doesn't like Theo :/). But, DH isn't sold on Theodore as his formal name. I love it, so we'll see. Other than that, we don't have a lot of good backup options.

@FSUAliss: I totally took that last pregnancy! My midwife's office (the receptionist who was looking at the OK'd meds list) told me to take it. I didn't find out until much later that I wasn't supposed to, and all was fine!

@Mrs. Lovejoy: PS maybe you can get DH to agree to "trying out" Theodore on the baby for a few days to see if it grows on him? My DH always liked Sawyer but wasn't totally sold until we tried it out and then it just stuck

@Mrs. Lovejoy: @PrincessBaby: I love both those names! I agree with "trying it out." That's what we did with our first (Connor) and it made it almost instantly clear that was the name we wanted.

We haven't even discussed names. My son says "baby Charlotte" so much we are having a hard time even thinking of anything else at this point.

I feel my size has been stable over the last week or two but it is definitely a firmer belly.

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@MsHangry: You look great!

@PrincessBaby: I use a tactical backpack-a north face recon. I find a backpack easier for babywearing, too, and the pockets are more easily accessible IMO

@jetsa: we used one because E had reflux. It was awesome! Except when I found her trying to climb out of it around 4.5 months....the crib transition was hard, though. They're all snuggly in the RnP and cozy and its incline is nice...

@jetsa: We didn't have one for my son, but I already got one for this LO. I hear amazing things!

@blackbird: That is a good point about baby wearing and backpacks!

Are we the only ones that pretty much go straight to the crib? With H, we used her UBV bassinet on a rocking holder thing I bought. She could not have hated it more, like would only sleep 5 mins before she was screaming. For a couple of weeks we did various mixes of her sleeping on us and her sleeping in the snugabunny swing - which she loved. But then DH was like, this is madness - she's going in the crib. So we did it and she was fine.

The only thing, that I really didn't think about before now, was that in the house we were in, she was right across the hall upstairs. We built a one-story house with a pretty large footprint, and the kids' bedrooms are alllllllll the way on the opposite side of the house from the master. That is going to suck so hard for MOTN wakeups and feedings! But it's nice for keeping them out of the way of noise and activity when they're sleeping. But I'll be journeying to the other side of the planet a whole lot:(

Oh and our crappy movers lost the UBV bassinet somehow, so we don't even have that as an option.

@PrincessBaby: that's cute! We also got a PBK one for LO1. I think it would work for two and since she is home during the day (sitter and DH), I probably won't get a second. BUT, I am strongly considering looking for a backpack to haul everyone around town. I'm for some reason really nervous about taking two kids out on my own and needing a bag too. So, I might get the longchamp one if it's big enough. Then my hands will be free.

Oh and for babes and sleeping, we went from bassinet to crib in about 6 weeks. It was around that time that I was freaking about going back to work and wanted to make sure she was ok in her crib. But I've heard such good things about the RnP, I'm considering it!

@PrincessBaby: we didn't because it's downstairs and won't this time bc lo1 is still in the crib so dd isn't getting it until he climbs out. I can't handle traveling that far in the motn. We started naps at 3ish weeks and that was great

Guess I'd better hope that rocker we're ordering is really comfy! Looks like I'll be passing out there a lot bc it's too far to go climb back in the bed in our bedroom!

@BabyPenguinXO: Sorry you had a crappy week! Your belly is adorable, so that's a win:)