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I think it's very normal! Miscarriages run in my family so it's been a thought in the back of my mind especially on the days that I don't feel pregnant. If I could, I might take a test everyday to make sure! Lol. My thoughts are though that I will just work hard on my part to do things right for my baby like eating healthy, drinking plenty of water and exercising and hope and pray every day that the baby stays healthy and grows. In the end, that's all we can truly do.

Completely normal, especially for the first pregnancy. I'm pregnant with my 2nd and I just had a dream last night that I miscarried. It's hard not to worry, but it gets much better once you can feel the baby move.

I'm glad you posted this because I've been feeling the same way.

We had a loss earlier this year. I am so scared it will happen again. I know there is nothing I can do. I've had a healthy pregnancy but am still so worried. I really haven't gotten too excited yet.

My first appointment can't come soon enough.

15 weeks and that fear is still there. Everyday that turns in to a new week is one more blessing that can be counted. Accepting that you are pregnant and embracing that is the best thing you can do for you and your baby. It's something I have to remind myself about everyday and it helps.

Oh I did that too. Checked TP for bleeding every time. Was terrified of a missed miscarriage and I'd go for an ultrasound and there'd be no heartbeat. Made myself a bit crazy (and honestly - was terrified of having to TTC again after it taking so long in the first place, if I did miscarry). Lessened up when I started feeling movement (which was at 20 weeks for me). One thing that helped was to repeat to myself (whenever I felt myself getting crazy): "today I am pregnant". Over and over and over.

I'm really excited for you. I hope you have a great, healthy pregnancy!

I was extremely worried during my first pregnancy. I think it's normal- everything is so new and changing rapidly, and you hear about sad things happening to lots of pregnancies, so it sticks in the back of your mind. I ended up purchasing a doppler for home use, so on days I felt more worried, before there was a lot of movement I could feel, I could listen to that little heartbeat.

Oh honey I am so sorry! I was so nervous my entire pregnancy! I bought a Doppler to help my peace of mind because literally till the very end I was nervous.

@chibee: You and I can be worried together since you are my due date twin

I worry about it every time. Yesterday I had the tinest, little speck of blood when I wiped (and nothing since. I panicked. This morning I had nausea and some upper belly cramping, and I panicked.

My mom has a history of miscarriages (but that was because of endo), and it has just always scared me. I guess the only thing keeping me going is the fact that I am already showing and my boobs hurt. Otherwise, I wouldn't believe I was pregnant. Very anxious for my appointment at the end of the month and so blessed I work at a clinic.

@SupernovaJ: Why were you upset about the u/s? I had one done early before to check to make sure it wasn't ectopic.

@T.H.O.U.: i felt the u/s was a little pre-mature. of course if there are pre-existing concerns or high-risk, it's reassuring to rule out an ectopic pregnancy, but at 4 weeks and a few days, i wasn't able to see anything on the ultrasound which actually made me worry for no reason (saw it today on a follow up appointment). i'm an "ignorance is bliss" kind of person, at least in the beginning. i had read online that some people were able to see the sac at 4 weeks, so i began questioning why i couldn't. my gyno then started using language like "well let's make sure you're pregnant first, and if you are, that it's in the right place". it planted that seed of doubt - things i would have preferred not to think about until later.

I am here, too! I have no idea how I would handle a third loss. And you would think that the u/s would have allayed my fears, but it was so hard to think, now we have seen this little bean, and we still might lose it. Yeah.

I just keep reminding myself that every day with this baby is a gift, and I want to appreciate it as much as possible!

@SupernovaJ: fake it till you make it?? Seriously, though, thank you. I still have huge worries, but I've got some optimism that has come out of nowhere this time...I'm scared out of my mind, but I'm trying to go with it.

I think it's completely normal. With DS, I had two very close friends who suffered multiple miscarriages at the time we conceived and I couldn't help but fear the worst because it seemed to be so "common" around/near me and that I couldn't be the lucky one.

I was a total wreck last night about this. I think I came to the conclusion that the last few months were far more traumatic than I have wanted to admit, and I am not dealing well with it. I believe that I am pregnant, but last night I realized that I don't think that I believe that means that I will have a baby I think it is time for me to get some help, because the constant waiting for the bad news to come is not good for me or for baby.

@sweetkeight: I love this. Hugs, chica.

@SupernovaJ: I am so with you on the "this was too easy" so it must be too good to be true. Especially since it took us even less effort last time, and it didn't end well. I agree too that an u/s that early would not be good. I'm glad my doctor didn't offer it, because I'm not sure I would have turned it down and I'd have done exactly what you did and gotten worried if I didn't see anything, even though I was exactly 4 weeks on the day I had my appointment.

I'm almost regretting the 48 hour blood draw too. I know it will help me feel a lot better when I get the results (or not, but we're not focusing on that!), but it's really making me more stressed now. Knowing that tomorrow (or gods forbid, monday if the results are late) I may find out that something is wrong is making me more upset. Also, last time my m/c wasn't until 9.5 weeks, so getting through this and even seeing the heartbeat won't really mean much to me, since I saw the heartbeat last time.

So all that to say, here's what I'm going to do to help get through the fears. Right now I'm basically operating on the assumption that it will be fine. I'm pinning nursery ideas and discussing baby names and all that. But I need to do more than that. One of the blogger bees (I'm afraid I don't know which one without digging through to figure it out) did a post about her fears that their adoption won't go through. She said that when she got really worried, she'd go work on something for him. It may have been a quilt? It was her way of saying that she had faith that everything was going to be fine. I really loved the idea, so I'm going to start an afghan for the baby. I'll admit, I'm not confident enough to say it's for *this* baby. But I do believe that we WILL have a baby, sooner than later, and this will be my way of staying positive about it.

I'm thinking something like this, but with white instead of black, and just standard rainbow colors (not so much blue). I already have all the yarn except green and purple, so it won't even be an expensive one to start. What do ya'll think?

@Torchwood: I love it. I think it's beautiful and I love the white instead of black. *hug* for your wait for the blood draw. It's wwaaayyy over anyone's head how to deal with that truly... just gotta hang in there *HUG*

@chibee: I'm good thanks. Having a baby is really, really hard work (which I expected but... yeah...) but it really is worth it (most of the time!). I'm glad you are well. How far along are you now?

@chibee: Oh blimey, yes! Every day felt like a week! Especially in the beginning, when you are so worried. You wake up and the first thibg you think is "Im 5+3 today".... it does get easier but the worry never goes away. Even now she's here I worry about SIDS etc. It is much easier being home and every day Im growing in confidence.... postpartum anxiety hit me hard but Im well on the mend now! So have you told anyone yet?