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  1. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @travelgirl1: How are things going? When's your first appointment?

    @theotherstark: Have you had your NT scan yet?

    @MaryM: Will be thinking of you during your scan tomorrow

    I'm starting to get more nervous about my anatomy scan (next Monday). I don't think I've cried once this pregnancy, but tonight burst into tears at the random thought of something being really wrong. I also had a weird and way too vivid dream last night about loss. I think nerves about it are making me get stressed about random work stuff that's really not worth stressing about, but it's putting me in a high strung mood.

  2. travelgirl1

    cantaloupe / 6607 posts

    @periwinklebee: I'm sorry you're feeling so anxious 💜 Thinking of you and hoping for a fabulous anatomy scan!

    I'm doing okay, thanks. Today is the point where I miscarried last time. In contrast, today I was awake most of the night feeling nauseous and dry heaving the minute I got out of bed. I'll be 6 weeks tomorrow. So much more in line with my two healthy pregnancies. Just trying to take it a day at a time but not as negative as I was!

  3. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @travelgirl1: Thank you! I'm sure feeling anxious is just par for the course for me...I'm trying to focus more on being excited about getting to see our little guy again. I'm sorry you're feeling sick, but glad that it feels more like your viable pregnancies. I think for me MS was in some ways a blessing in disguise, because I felt so yuck that I just didn't have much energy left to worry about how things were going.

  4. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    Hi baby boy!



  5. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @MaryM: what a cutie!!!

  6. theotherstark

    GOLD / nectarine / 2803 posts

    @ks@periwinklebee: thanks for checking in! It was actually today, and everything looked great! Definitely a sigh of relief. I'm sorry you're feeling anxious; hopefully this next week goes quickly for you

  7. theotherstark

    GOLD / nectarine / 2803 posts

    @MaryM: cutie!

  8. azjax

    kiwi / 548 posts

    @MaryM: congratulations on that great looking baby!!!

    Have my next follow up on Tuesday, but spent some time in the ER because I was having periods where I was so short of breath my heart was racing and I felt dizzy. My OB wanted me checked for an embolism, but luckily I am just a little anemic. It was stressful, especially because I was alone since DH needed to be at home with DS. We realized we need to firm up our care plans for DS for when DD comes!

    In other news, I successfully defended my dissertation yesterday and am now a "doctor". I feel weird about it, and in all reality, nothing about my work or pay is going to change until I get a real job starting next year, but I'm glad the bulk of the work is done. Now I just have to make edits and push all of the paperwork through.

  9. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @theotherstark: Congrats on a great scan - so happy to see this!

    @azjax: Congratulations on defending your dissertation - that's amazing! I'm sorry to hear about the anemia and hope the iron kicks in soon.

  10. travelgirl1

    cantaloupe / 6607 posts

    @MaryM: Ahhhh what a fabulous picture!!!

  11. travelgirl1

    cantaloupe / 6607 posts

    @azjax: Congratulations on defending your dissertation! Sorry you've had a tough time lately, hope the anemia gets better soon.

  12. delight

    pomelo / 5246 posts

    @MaryM: so adorable!! ❤

  13. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    Anatomy scan today went great - everything looks normal. Feeling so relieved



  14. travelgirl1

    cantaloupe / 6607 posts

    @periwinklebee: beautiful 💜

  15. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @travelgirl1: Thank you I hope that your week is going well!

  16. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    @periwinklebee: adorable!

    Do you know if it's a boy or girl?

  17. bhbee

    nectarine / 2648 posts

    @periwinklebee: thread crashing to say so happy for you! With my first I broke down in tears after my anatomy scan I was so relieved after IF and loss. The tech thought I was crazy

  18. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @MaryM: A !!! Boy mamas unite

    @bhbee: Aw, thank you Knock on wood, I can't get over how different so far this pregnancy has been from my first. I know it could be so, so much worse but with that pregnancy it seemed like every time there was a chance for something to go wrong, it did: bleeding, then bed rest, then loss, and finding out that it was most likely partial molar and posed some additional health risks... This time when every time I go in they say "everything looks great", I have to pinch myself and ask if it's really real. I was so nervous during the scan and so relieved when they came in and said everything looked normal.

  19. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    @periwinklebee: YAY Boys!

    I totally get the doubts. I'm constantly wondering if the nurse or doctor is seeing something they aren't telling us about. I'm hoping it might ease up a bit after the NT scan (since that started our hell last year).

  20. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @MaryM: I'm pretty sure if they saw anything of concern they'd be upfront about it, as otherwise it would violate their code of ethics. I'll be thinking of you and hoping the time flies by until the NT scan, and in general sending lots of good thoughts for getting through the next few weeks.

  21. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    @periwinklebee: The scan's Friday. So it's not too long to wait

  22. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @MaryM: So soon! I know everyone's different, but for me I felt like time started going by a bit faster after the NT scan as well. I think a combination of first tri symptoms getting better and the mental relief of things looking good on the scan. Hoping the week flies by!

  23. azjax

    kiwi / 548 posts

    @periwinklebee: congratulations! Enjoy your healthy pregnancy, you've certainly earned it!!!
    @MaryM: best wishes for the NT scan. We're all supporting you!

  24. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    Update on my "why can't people get excited" comment from earlier in this pregnancy... (cross posted from my due date group)

    I told most of my managers individually today.

    My pre-appraisal was due to my executive director. Where it asked what could be done to help me do my job, I pointed out how I have no back up and when I'm out, things just don't get done.

    In the email it was attached to, I told her I was due in February, so we should probably figure that out sooner rather than later.

    When she got back from a meeting she was in she rushed into my office, threw the door closed and hugged me (we're SO not a hugging office!)

    I told my direct boss in an email because she has no empathy and that would just be an awkward conversation.

    Then I told another manager in person. I went to visit their team since I'd been out for a while, and asked if he wanted to see a picture from my vacation. I showed him the last ultrasound and said "It's a boy!" and his jaw literally dropped while he processed what he was seeing. And another team member down there jumped up to hug me.

    That together with my old roommate calling me crying last night when I texted her the news has me feeling SO much better. I guess sometimes it's the last people you expect to get really excited who do get really excited!

  25. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @MaryM: This is *awesome*! I am so, so glad that everyone was excited!

  26. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    @periwinklebee: My boss literally scared me! I wasn't expecting it at all and had headphones in

  27. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @MaryM: Hah, hah I would have definitely jumped

    I also found telling work a relief, the people I work with directly were really supportive and it's such a relief to not have to hide the bump (I was definitely getting hot wearing a scarf and cardigan in the middle of summer!)

  28. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    @periwinklebee: I wear cardigans all the time anyway...but I'm pretty solidly in low panel maternity pants and dresses now. And for a person who normally doesn't wear dresses... it was only a matter of time!

  29. Ajsmommy

    nectarine / 2008 posts

    @MaryM: heartfelt congrats mama!!!

  30. periwinklebee

    GOLD / pear / 1892 posts

    @MaryM: Ugh, maternity clothes I'm tall and have sort of a weird shape pre-preg, so I haven't even tried to find pants yet. Thank goodness for inexpensive maxi skirts that easily stretch over the bump and are so soft and comfty. I've got to go shopping this weekend though, as my wardrobe is really minimal at the moment...

  31. MaryM

    GOLD / grapefruit / 4442 posts

    @periwinklebee: I have the opposite problem. I'm really short and hippy. So to get things to fit in the hips, I have to be REALLY pregnant for the belly bands to actually hold the pants up.

    I lucked out with the demi panel girlfriend chinos at gap. I think they're supposed to be ankle length, but on me, they're just normal pants.

  32. winniebee

    hostess / wonderful grape / 20665 posts

    @periwinklebee: so glad things are going well!

    @MaryM: congratulations! 💙

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