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Following. Sounds like a great idea.

Following also! Our intimacy lately has been centered on TTC. Often times we're watching TV together but DH is playing game apps on his phone.

My husband and I are going to couples counseling and I can't recommend it enough. It has really helped us, especially in the communication department. Right now we are using the 10 Lessons to Transform You Marriage by John Gottman and Julie Schwartz and it is a really great book. There are some chapters that I thought wouldn't apply to us but I have learned something from every chapter we have read so far. They use couples from real life that have real issue and help them get through whatever they are working on. At the end of each chapter there are exercises for you and your spouse to do together. This books has really helped us. We each got our own copy.

Additionally we have also fallen into a rut where we zone out to the TV after work + are on our phones. It is so hard when you work a ton but we are really trying to break that habit. We have started playing games, doing puzzles, going on walks, riding our bikes, and in general trying to find other things to do. We are definitely trying to put our phones away once we get home from work.

Our therapist is also encouraging us to date each other. My husband was in charge of planning a surprise date which is something he's never done. It was so much fun. He remembered this random little restaurant I've really wanted to try and then we hit up some farmers stands to stock up on fresh fruits and veggies. It was super simple but very thoughtful. I'm so excited to go bowling when it is my turn to plan a date. I know that's harder + more expensive when you have kids but it will be worth it.

Not sure if this is what you mean but this is a pretty good list of interesting questions:
https://mobile.nytimes.com/2015/01/11/fashion/no-37-big-wedding-or-small.html

We have the same issues and frankly one of us is always sick and we are avoiding close contact to stop the constant spread of germs. (Daycare illnesses are killing us right now.) It's easy to get into this rut. We are kind of in the thick of the tough years with a 4 year old and 18 month old so I know it will get better. We get along great and partner well together, we just don't spend enough quality alone time together.
@travelingnanny: Going to a couples therapist sounds helpful in theory but getting a babysitter so we can go together sounds both expensive and stressful. glad it's working for y'all, though!