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Our love life is a hard thing for us to discuss as well. Like you, my libido just isn't what it used to be. When I am in the mood things are amazing but he gets really upset with me when I'm not. It's hard to put into words why I'm not in the mood as often or what needs to align for it to happen and he takes it as me not finding him attractive or not loving him. So then I feel a loss for words as to how to explain it to him or talk it through because he gets hurt regardless. It's hard!

Family is a big one, although getting better. We both have great relationships with both our families, however anytime something "negative" comes up we both get defensive.

I'd say intimacy is another that is "hard" for us to talk about. I need more romance, he needs sexual relationship more...it's such a weird thing to talk about.

Like other people, family can be really awkward-- I really try not to complain first about his family. Lately he's been upset with them as well so it's a little easier, and he's trying to set former boundaries, but still it's really sensitive

Sort of related, his father passed away last winter and it's really hard to talk about. The most recent iteration is that I'm pregnant and want to talk about names so badly but dh needs to decide whether he wants to name our baby after his dad and he keeps going back and forth... It drives me crazy that it's hard for us to talk about names right now!! But I'm trying hard not to push... Too much at least... I love talking about names lol

Things that upset me but have nothing to do with us personally. DH says that it's stupid to get upset about other people's problems. Maybe it is but really... I'm supposed to just not care about the state of the world because I personally am not starving?

Only intimacy. Everything else is so easy for us to talk about. But sex.... Interestingly, we used to find it easier to talk about.

I think his demanding travel schedule/career. It's such a paradox. He's great at his job and loves to work and does so to support us but I solo parent a lot. It's hard to be at home and know he is enjoying fluffy hotels and fancy dinners- I know he would truly rather be here but it's a topic we both get defensive about. It's just the season of our lives right now. I quit working last year to SAH. It's all just difficult sometimes. Ultimately I'm really proud of him, and I know he appreciates me.

@futuremama: I think we'll end up doing something similar-- fil's name (Eliot) would actually work well for either sex (just adding an l/t to feminize) but I think we'll prob go with variations (Eli or Eleanor) so that we're honoring him but not using the exact name bc it's still too fresh for dh. Plus my due date is right around fil's bday...

For all of those saying talking about sex is hard-- dh and I recently found a fun app that's a good ice breaker called "pls pls me"-- you both download it on your phone, and it asks you a series of qs and then you can compare answers (some "decks" of question cards are free and then you have to buy more). Some of the decks are about actual sex, others are date ideas. Definitely a conversation starter and fun!

@MUI831: This. All of it. I go through this with my husband. He's not content at all with his job but he's terrified of being poor or having a job that brings in less money. I think he'd do great in an academic role and honestly, getting a PhD would just be 4-5 rough years for us that could make everything better. But he's stubborn and feels that it would be unfair to me and the kids (even though I'm the one that says, "I'd rather you be happy than for us to be rich) and he's not going to do anything about it until he decides to.

@avivoca: we're struggling with the same. Exact. Thing. DH is very talented as a teacher and had a side job as an adjunct lecturer until recently. He'd be so much happier in that career but he has to get a Ph D to have a shot at being a full time professor. And he won't walk away from his horrible job because it pays money (not that it even pays a lot). I mean, he did put himself through school twice and worked his way up from minimum wage dead end jobs, and he feels like he's paid his dues and doesn't want to go back to being entry level anything... but what can you do when life hands you lemons?

For a long time it was money. Growing up my parents were very open and honest with us kids about what they make, what things cost, making a budget, saving for rainy days, comparison shopping. My husbands family on the other hand always had money, but were very frugal and never discussed money management in their household. My husband always seemed like the saver and I was the spender until i got a hold of his credit card statement and realized he had absolutely no handle on his finances. He always would help me pay the bills but would then put everything else on credit with no way of paying anything but the minimum. We had lots of hard conversations, I took over as CFO, revamped our budget, worked a few career moves and after 3 years were finally able to pay off his debt. I remember saying to him many times - its just numbers, its like a puzzle you have to let the emotions of it go and work to a solution.

Right now it probably more family... his family is a little salty that we're moving from 10 minutes to 45-60 minutes away. We're living with my parents until we make settlement so thats been rough.

Family issues and mental health for both of us (anxiety issues for me and depression for him). These are just topics we tend to avoid unless we are really struggling.