After our daughter was born both DH and I agreed we did not want anymore kids and with my health having another pregnancy would be risky. We have 4 kids in all and 3 with special needs. I've been bugging him to get a vasectomy for awhile but he did not want to because the procedure freaked him out so I decided to get a tubal ligation. I'm still nursing our 18 month old and leading up to my surgery my DH agreed to help me night wean her. He never ended up helping me so she is still nursing at night. Before my surgery yesterday we agreed he would take off 2 days of work and help me the first 2 nights after surgery. Yesterday he did a decent job helping me until 11pm when he brought our daughter into me to nurse. He never came back to get her and I was in to much pain to get out of bed so she laid with me nursing all night and I didn't get any sleep. DH came in at 6:30am to see how I was feeling and I told him I didn't get any sleep and was feeling crappy. He said he wanted to go into work to help his friend get his tractor done(DH owns his own business and works for himself). I agreed he could go for a little while and requested he take our 5 year old to school. DH left at 7:45 and I didn't hear anything from him until 20 minutes before our 5 year old needed picked up from school. At this point I'm annoyed and mad. I just had surgery and here I am home alone running around after our extremely busy 18 month old. DH asked if he should pick DS up from school but intended to go back to work immediately after. I told him I would just do it. I picked up DS and spend the remainder of my day running after our extremely busy kids. DH did not get home until 5pm! Come to find out his friend's tractor parts didn't even come in today so he wasn't even working on the damn tractor! I'm so disappointed in my husbands lack of empathy and his lack of effort to take care of me. I had this surgery for both of us and I feel like he doesn't care. Here I am in pain running around after kids and he doesn't seem to see anything wrong with leaving me. He's just going about his night as if nothing is wrong with his actions. I don't even know what to say to him because I'm just so hurt by how everything has played out since last night.