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Like a lot of moms - going back to work at 12 weeks.

Breastfeeding. Not as much anymore, but it made me majorly ragey when she was little.

oooo people whose LOs have awesome grandparents. My MIL is great, but my parents...give me the sads. My mom had plastic surgery around E's birth....

For me, it was having to go back to work full time and also my PPA. I was so sick with undiagnosed PPA and getting physical symptoms that I was hospitalized several times. I thought I was a terrible mom cause I couldn't be there 100% like I wanted to be.

1) Going back to work at 12 weeks. I feel immense guilt that I need to work outside the home.

Working. I wish I could spend 24/7 with dd but we would both struggle financially and emotionally. I'm not cut out for it.

I feel extremely sensitive about Blake having been born so small. I wonder constantly what went wrong. Did I not eat enough protein? Was I not taking enough vitamins? Is it because I went through IVF. I just feel like something wasn't right and I'm mad that MFM didn't catch it. I look back at photos and he is sooo skinny that it is alarming. I'm just grateful that he is big and healthy now!

The further out from L&D that I get the more I struggle with some of things that happened after delivery in the name of hospital policy (we were separated for several hours, after being with my kids for 45 minutes they took me to have X-rays done!! I still can't believe that). Frankly I get very emotional when I hear about other's delivery experiences that seemed to have gone so well (getting to breastfeed right by away, never having to be separated even if they had a c section).

Her head.

Also weight issues. In the 6 weeks between her 2 week check up and 2 month visit she barely gained any weight and I feel so much guilt that I didn't notice she was soooo skinny but umm hello, ftm, I had no idea and all I learned in baby prep classes was to watch her diapers and she had plenty!! We've had to supplement since and now she's thriving but I still feel so horrible that my body failed to feed her and I didn't notice

Breastfeeding for sure.

My C-section issues for LO 1. Gross motor milestones for LO 2.

Breastfeeding. I exclusively pump because we couldn't get DD to latch.

I wish I had taken her to a LC other than the one at her pediatrician - maybe I'd feel less guilty then? IDK.

Working. I don't necessarily feel guilty because I know it's what's right for our family right now, but I really with I could be SAHM. It's just not possible these days.

@jhd: Totally agree with the holding thing.

Not being conscious for DS's birth. I carry so much guilt that DH wasn't able to witness the birth of his son, it's something you take for granted until you are in a position where you don't get to experience that. Hearing that first cry, seeing your baby take it's first few breaths, I still tear up thinking about it.

I've never heard this term! I struggled when we found out my daughter needed glasses at 11 months. When we got them she made such big leaps in her development that it took me a while to get over the guilt of not knowing she needed them earlier. It's still kind of a sore spot for me.

Sleep and how challenging it is to deal with a kid who has low sleep needs and needs a very consistent routine. I felt very judged by people around me for being a zombie or not being able to get things done because she would either not nap or only nap on me

J's jaundice and the subsequent NICU stay. He was discharged a slightly jaundiced but healthy 2-day old newborn. He spent one night at home, basically crying the whole time, and my milk wasn't in yet but I didn't know/realize he was very hungry and dehydrated. Just kept trying to nurse and assumed the colostrum would be enough to hold him over. The next day at the ped appointment, his bilirubin was 17. By the time we got him to the NICU, it was 21. They then spent over an hour trying to insert an IV, but his veins were so small (both from being 3 days old and dehydrated) that they couldn't get one and eventually had to put one in his head. The only nurse who could get it was from the NICU, but about 8 others tried first (including students and temp workers, not exactly specialists) and I bitterly regret listening to him scream and feeling totally helpless instead of putting my foot down and insisting they bring a NICU team right away.

I'm going to be a lot bossier (a nicer way of saying it would be "a better advocate") with my second LO.

@Mama Bird: If it helps at all, our LO gets ridiculously excited to throw rocks in water too! I think it's a 2-year old thing