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DH handles drop off and I do pick up because I start working at 6am. I don't envy him at all....my LOs are not morning people!

Our daycare is near our home, so it's not out of the way for either of us. Hubs handles drop-off and I do pick-up. It would be next to impossible for me to do both because I wouldn't be able to get in all my hours. I usually leave for work before either of them are even awake.

This week (and next), I'm handling drop-off and Hubs is doing pick-up because I have a late afternoon class that makes it impossible for me to do pick-up. Xander is definitely more fussy for me when I drop him off than he is for Hubs. I don't know if this is because he's in the Mama stage at the moment or just because he's not used to seeing me in the mornings, so parting with me is rougher on him, whereas he's used to it with Hubs.

Either way, Xander is in daycare from 7:00/7:30 - 4:30/5:00 and goes to bed around 6:00/6:30. We have very little time with him in the evenings either, but this is what makes sense for him and our family.

Is it possible for you guys to find a daycare closer to your home? It seems a little bizarre for your husband to go 40-50 minutes out of his way just to do drop-off when it's right by your work.

We both do both. It really varies from week to week. My schedule is fairly regular, but DH's is not. Today I dropped off in the AM, and he will likely pick up in the PM. Some days I do both. He rarely does both because his days are usually longer than mine.

I do both since it's closer to my work. I work 7:45-4:15 so LO is in daycare from 7:35-4:25. DH works 8-4:30. Both of our workplaces have flexible hours, but it just doesn't make sense for DH to go out of his way to do either drop off or pickup.

We both leave at the same time though, so no one really has to deal with LO alone. That would be tough. Dealing with a cranky baby all alone is hard!

@BlueWolverine: How old is your LO? Is this issue that your husband is waking her up to take her to daycare and so she's fussy? Or is she maybe teething/sick/etc and that's why she's been fussy in the morning?

ETA: Just saw that you posted her age. Do you think she could just have breakfast at daycare? With Xander, we just get him up and dressed and take him to daycare and he has breakfast there with his friends.

We both do both.

We pack L's breakfast to go and we both drop him off and then my husband drops me off at the train station.

At the end of the day, my husband picks me up from the station and we both pick up L from our parents. Although, they live right across the street from the daycare I want to get him into so nothing will change when that happens.

I tend to do both since DH has to take a train to the city and my commute takes me right by school. But if I had to work late like I do for a about a week every month (corporate account and month end close), DH will get on the earlier train to pick up DS.

We actually have a very similar situation to yours, it sounds like. Daycare is where I work (same campus, different building – a literal 2 minute drive away) and my husband has a very flexible schedule and is home working a lot; which is 25 minutes away from daycare. He never has to be at work before 10 or 11 either.

I do all drop-offs and pickups because it makes sense for us to do it that way because I’m already going to where work/daycare is and it’s just an extra 10-15 minutes total to do drop-off vs. me not doing it, whereas my husband would lose almost an hour of work time driving 20-25 minutes each way (plus the additional gas expense).

When my office wasn’t as close (it was about 10-15 minutes away from daycare) we split the duties: DH did drop-off and I did pickup.

LO's not here yet but this would be our set up if everything goes according to plan where both DH & I do it.

Two days a week he drops her off at my parents since it's on the way to his destination

Two days a week I drop her off daycare; any one we pick from our list is on my way to/from work

We both drop off, and DH does pickup. We only have one car, so we take H to daycare, he brings me to work, and then he goes to work. Daycare is literally in the same parking complex, so it's really easy. We both do drop-off just because I like saying goodbye to LO and talking to her teachers about when she last ate, any weird rashes, etc.

@BlueWolverine: We didn’t really adjust her sleep routine at all; when my husband did drop-offs LO could sleep in until whenever, but of course being a toddler she is always gets pretty early; LO is 25 months BTW, and we’ve had this schedule since she was 16 months.

She sleeps from 8-6:30ish and we leave by 7:45, which gets me to work by 8:30 after dropping off LO. I try to leave earlier, but it doesn’t usually happen. I get out by 5:30 and we’re home by 6, or just after. We don’t do a bath every night, which means most nights she has 2 hours to pay, read, eat dinner, and get down to bed.

@BlueWolverine: This sounds similar to our situation too!

DH works from home and daycare is near my work. DH has always done drop-off because I work 7:30am-4:30pm and daycare doesn't even OPEN until 8:30am, so me taking her means arriving 90 mins late to work - not an option other than every once in a while.

It's a pain for DH because he has to drive 25-30 mins each direction to get LO to daycare, then turns around and drives home if he doesn't have a meeting. But we love our daycare and it's less expensive than those closer to our new house, so right now we are rolling with it.

LO is almost 15 months and DH manages pretty well in the morning, other than this morning when I had to leave work to go home and intervene because he was physically unable to parent her (she's on day #5 of getting up at 4:30am and we're both at a breaking point). Usually he just deals with doing mornings alone. I leave work around 4:15pm and get home with LO around 5pm and she goes to bed around 7pm.

E's daycare is 15 minutes from my office, and 30 minutes from home. D never works before 12, but most days I do both drop-off/pick-up. If I'm heading in this way anyway it doesn't make sense for D to waste the gas driving to the daycare, then 45 minutes to work (he works in the opposite direction) when I drive that way anyway (it's a little bit out of my way, but not obnxiously).

We both do. DH works from home too but he gets up early and goes with me to drop off DD at grandma-care. Super awesome of him. If it were me, I would sleep in!

I do both because school is open 6:30-6 and DH is typically gone from the house 5:30-6:15. That means I do the whole morning myself. It is a pain trying to get LO up and out but we have a good routine now. When DH was off a few months and did most of the pick up and drop off, it took a little adjusting but then she did fine.

What time does she wake up to get there at 9? My LO now gets up at 6:45 to leave the house at 8, which gets us to school around 8:15 and me to work by 8:30 or so. When LO was that age, it was more like getting up at 6 to leave at 8. I don't know what we did all morning but it took a while!

DH does both because daycare is right next to his office, a 10 min walk from home. I work a 45 min commute away, and leave well before daycare opens. If DH has a meeting or something else that interferes with drop off/pick up, then I work from home and do it, but it's usually him.

ETA - I work 7:30-4:30, and he works 8-4:30.

DH drops off, and I pick up. Sometimes we'll switch it up if something comes up... but someone almost always does one or the other.