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My doctor actually told me to wait 9 months before trying again (which would be 18 months at birth of second). He said it's ideal to give your body that long to heal, especially if you have a csection.

Yeah, i thought this was common knowledge (particularly premature or difficult births), that your body needs time to heal and replenish its stores. Pregnancy isn't always the kindest thing to your body

My dr advised I wait at least a year. My kids will be 2 years apart. And if my dr advised I wait longer for whatever reason, I'd heed it, because she went to medical school, not me

@Anagram: I've heard prematurity but not the behavioral disorders!

Could be lots of things factoring in...someone who wants back to back kids may be older, so they could be more at risk for those things, anyways!

We started trying when my son was 16 months old and I got my BFP when he was 22 moths old. It seemed agonizing at the time even though it seems nursing may have been the culprit but I did read not long after that that likelihood of autism was higher in women who delivered before 18 months, particularly older women like myself.

We were told to wait at least 12 months before trying for baby #2 (post C-section.) We waited until LO was about 18 months old before starting to try.

@Anagram: yes! It did actually. My OB office tells everyone to wait at least 12 months.

My body didn't make it with the first baby to full term and my doctors stressed that I wait at least a year to try for another. My body definitely needed time to heal. We're still on the fence about #2 but we're already past the 12 month mark. I think it varies by person but it is definitely something people should consider.

I wonder if our situation is different at all since I only went to 33 weeks last time. They just told us to wait at least 3 cycles after AF came back. And this was from a MFM specialist. Interesting. But hey, I'm terrified of needing an induction, so maybe it'll work out that I'm less likely to go past term and need one for that.

I read this (http://www.thealphaparent.com/2012/07/what-no-one-tells-you-about-child.html) a while back and thought it was really interesting. It highlights many of the medical and non-medical things that affect different age gaps. But the summary I got from it was that it does take some time to replenish stores and heal. Realistically though "an increased chance of X" is probably just slight enough to be significant and doesn't impact most people. But it's an interesting read for sure!

My OB told me to wait at least 6 months (after c-section).

Interestingly, the county I live in has PSA posters in the office where we pick up birth certificates encouraging mothers to wait at least 2 years before having another child --"Just us for 2 years" is the slogan.

Bear with me as I nerd out a bit: I remember in college reading a study about birth spacing and nursing frequency in the !Kung tribe of hunter-gathers. The frequent nursing (something like every 15 minutes) was one of the reasons researchers thought there was such a long spacing between births (something like 3 years). I thought it was really interesting. Of course there is a lot of variation among cultures of their birth spacing. This example just stuck with me over the many many years since college

My OB told me it was best to wait 6 months to 1 year.

@sandy: @Torchwood: You both make a very good point. It's quite different, I would think, in the case of a loss.

I thought the bit about prematurity was common knowledge...

Interesting. I originally wanted to start TTC #2 at around 14 months or so... But right now we're already NTNP. I doubt I'll be getting pregnant anytime soon considering the issues I had conceiving DD. I probably won't get pregnant until I wean, I doubt I'll get AF before that.

I had my first LO at 34 weeks and waited 18 months as OB suggested. I still had DD at 37 weeks and they only thing that kept her in there that long was progesterone. Considering I already struggle staying pregnant regardless of how long inbetween pregnancies, a bigger concern for me is age, I'm 36.

My doctor has never brought up waiting to TTC before. I had my children 17 months apart. I don't think I would have another so close to my youngest because of my extremely precipitous birth. I do think in my case if I had another and did not space the next one out further that it would be a more premature delivery with possible complications.

Mine are 15 months apart, and my on didn't seem to blink an eye. He said at 6 months pp I should be healed and have no issues, and this after the first was a csection. I didn't go into labor with either baby, and our daughter is perfectly fine

My mom had my brother 12 months after me and my other brother 17 months after him. I was the only one that she didn't go to term with(4 weeks early), and both my brothers were late. Neither of them have issues.

@sandy: I concieved this pregnancy at 37. Thinking of you my dear. Xo

I think these things are good to keep in mind but its also nota given that you will have issues, just a higher chance.

@MrsMccarthy: exactly, it is just a risk factor amongst lots of other things