So my in-laws live in England, and since my son was born we've seen them four times - we went there twice, and they came to us twice.

Important back story - my husband and I have been together for 12 years, and in that time they have never sent us birthday presents, and for Christmas they usually send a package of....junk, honestly. Novelty socks, decorative tea towels, one year I got a pair of rubber gloves with a fake diamond ring and pearl bracelet. Every year we make an effort to find things that we genuinely think they'll like. It's not that they don't celebrate with gifts - my husband has two brothers, 19 and 23, who get lots of big presents - game systems, an SLR camera, a new tv.

Last year for my son's first Christmas (he's also the first grandchild), they sent him a $10 toy remote control that we already owned (and had owned when they visited a few months earlier) and a small Fozzie doll. For his first birthday they sent nothing - they said they were going to get him something when they came to visit in the summer. They didn't. This year for Christmas I wanted him to have a decent present from his grandparents so I suggested that we buy the present from him and they buy presents for the brothers from us, and they agreed (although we never got a thanks or any indication of what we got them, so I suspect they didn't get anything). For his birthday they sent a card.

A few months ago we were talking to them and FIL was talking about how they'd seen an electric car in the shop and he had thought about getting it but "you probably aren't coming this year and next year hell have outgrown it". Sure, so buy it for him here! It would be stupid to buy something like that for a one week visit anyway! Am I being oversensitive? It bothers me so much that they don't make any effort to send him gifts on major holidays! I know that it doesn't reflect how much they love him but....it kind of feels like it does. I get that they spoil their kids and not my husband because he's an adult (he's 13/17 years older than his younger brothers) but Bennett is a baby, and before too long he's going to start to notice, I think, who gave him what thing and that his grandparents don't give him anything.