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I'm so sorry.
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I don't have experience, but just wanted to say how sorry I am. Is it possible to record a special video for your kids? I would be taking lots of photos also and spending as much time together as possible.
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I'm having trouble responding individually but I truly appreciate all the words you have written.
I'm going to be with my parents when the hospice nurse and social worker come over this morning. Send me some strength. I need to pull it together and go to work right after, and I've been up since 4 am
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@cmomma17: Thinking about you
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thinking of you and sending much strength and hugs.
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Thinking of you and your family.
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Thinking of you and your family.
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I'm so sorry about your father
My FIL recently passed this summer and hospice was absolutely amazing. Like others have said before, they are truly the warmest, kindest nurses out there. I urged my husband to spend as much time with his father as he possibly could. Hospice helped to make my father in law as comfortable as possible and those last few days with the family all together were very special. Sending big hugs.
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I'm so sorry to hear this
I have no experience in this, but I just wanted to send you hugs and -
@cmomma17: We had a hospice nurse come to the house when my dad passed. I would say they were extremely helpful--just to tell my mom that things that were going on with my dad were "normal" and to coach my mom a little to know what to do as his situation deteriorated. I think for my mom, she just needed the emotional support of someone else being there to reassure her choices.
I am so, so sorry....the hardest thing in the world is to watch a loved one pass away. All you can do is try to ease their passage a little. And THIS is the hardest part, I can tell you that at least. The whole time my dad was ill, I thought the worst part would be having him finally gone--I couldn't imagine our lives without him. But once it was all over, I realized that the worst part were the weeks leading up to his passing, seeing him suffer and grapple with knowing what was happening to him, but being powerless to stop it.
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@cmomma17: Sending you strength.
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I am so sorry
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Hi everyone. Just wanted to update, as I haven't posted on hellobee in months (though I have been lurking)
My dad passed away on December 21st. He was only in hospice care for about 6 weeks. He rapidly declined and became unresponsive just a few days before passing. I spent pretty much all day every day with him and my mom (while my sister took the overnight shifts) because we didn't want her to be home alone when he died. This of course was especially hard, since it was also Christmas time, and my step kids were with us for Christmas for the first time ever. My parents 43rd wedding anniversary was December 18th.
It all happened so fast and I am honestly still in shock. My dad was only 64. Watching Cancer destroy him was really tough.
We finally had his service on Saturday (Jan 31st - my mom needed some time so we didn't do it right away).
During the time of my dad being ill we also moved in with my in-laws so that has been a pretty big life change. I was very depressed/anxious about my dad (while also pregnant, WOH, and parenting a toddler) and my DH works a lot of evenings and didn't want me being alone. Plus it's a good choice for us financially.
I'm rambling now so I'll stop, but I just wanted to provide an update. If you're a beer drinker - have one for my dad! He made that request when he wrote his own obit. -
@cmomma17: I have been thinking of you and it is nice to hear from you, but I am very sorry for your loss. Feel free to wall me!
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@cmomma17: I'm so sorry for your loss. I can tell you from experience that it becomes less raw eventually.
I knew I was finally getting to a better place when I started dreaming about my dad as he was before cancer--I think it took a couple of years before I got to that point; before that, in every dream, it would be "sick dad", and I would just wake up feeling so sad and depressed.
Now days, sometimes my dad will pop up in my dreams, and it's just regular dad, cracking a funny joke or playing his violin.
Hang in there.
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@cmomma17: I was literally just thinking of you and wondering how you were. I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your dad, but I am sure he and your mom appreciated your presence so much in those last months. I hope that as things settle down you are able to find peace.
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@cmomma17: Oh my goodness, it has been a rough few months for you and your family! I'm so sorry for your loss.
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I am so so sorry for your family's loss.
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Thank you all.
@Anagram: ugh, your reply made me cry at my desk
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So sorry for your loss, I have been thinking of you.
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@cmomma17: You have my deepest condolences.
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i am so sorry about your father. you have been going through so much. we're all thinking about you and your family.
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I'm sorry
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My condolences, I am so sorry for your loss.
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I'm so sorry for your loss.
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@cmomma17: I am so sorry for your loss.
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@cmomma17: I've been thinking about you a lot.
I am so so sorry. Sending so much love your way!
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@cmomma17: so sorry about your loss.
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I'm so sorry
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Im glad you were able to spend time with him before he passed. Sending lots of
to you and your family
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I'm so sorry for your loss. DH and I will have a beer in honor of your father tonight. May I ask what his name is?
I agree with Anagram. It has taken me over 10 years to finally see/remember my mother healthy and happy. My DD saw a picture of my mom and pointed to it and said its grandma, I never showed her a picture but she knew it was grandma. I totally cried and that was when I started to see her as her happy fun loving self. It is not easy to loose a parent, time only makes it a little easier to bear. My thoughts and love go out to you and your family.
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I am really sorry for your loss.
I lost my dad 6 years ago. Thankfully, hospice wasn't called in until the day before died (but he'd had cancer for 10 months at that point)
I do agree with @Anagram: that eventually memories go back to the "old dad" that wasn't sick. Now when I see photos of him without hair, it's shocking to me again. For the most part I only think of him now as the person I knew for most of my life - the strong person
My next beer will be for your dad. My dad loved irish whiskey, and when he died, you couldn't get his favorite in the states. But my brother had a bottle so we toasted with it at dad's wake. I never liked whiskey before my dad died, but it's one of my favorite things now.
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@bunnylove08: his name was Mike
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@cmomma17: Thanks! Cheers to Mike!
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So sorry for your loss. Glad you were able to spend time with him.
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@cmomma17: As soon as this baby is out I will be having a beer for my mom, and for your dad
Sounds like they would have had a lot in common. I am so sorry for your loss
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@cmomma17: I'm so sorry
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I am so sorry for your loss, thinking of you.
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