My due date was May 21st (this Sunday) and i had a miscarriage back in October. We've been trying ever since then and have done 6 cycles including 4 IUIs. Just took a test this morning on 10dpo and it's negative. So I'm officially not pregnant again by my due date.
Has anyone else gone through this? I'm really struggling with this milestone.
pomegranate / 3231 posts
This happened to me. Then I got pregnant at around the 1yr mark from my mc, and that turned into another mc. It sucks. I have a consult in a few weeks to decide if we should do more IUI or go straight to IVF.
pomegranate / 3809 posts
Yes and no. I got pregnant in March, then m/c'ed in May. I was lucky enough to get pregnant with my next FET in Sept, but m/c'ed again in Oct. So by my first due date, I'd lost 2 babies. My second due date is coming up in 3 weeks and I'm not pregnant, we still haven't been able to even transfer, and have done 2 retrievals since. And we're doing another cycle the week after my second due date. In my mind, I do kinda compare everything to my due dates, but it doesn't change anything. Everything is a could've or should've.
I really dreaded by first due date, but honestly, I think the anticipation of the date is much worse than the actually day itself. The day came and went like any other, any other shitty day of still not having a baby after all these years.
persimmon / 1114 posts
That happened to me. I had miraculously gotten pregnant naturally and miscarried. I had a failed Ivf and a blighted ovum again before the due date came around. I totally agree with @purplepumps that the anticipation was worse than the actual day for me - to be honest, by that point everyday was clouded with a general funk that I was still not pregnant and who knew if/when I would ever be.
So no good advice, just hugs. It's a sh*tty club to be in, but know you have company and I hope your rainbow is coming soon.
nectarine / 2813 posts
This is me. My due date was May 26. Unfortunately we have been trying since I lost that pregnancy in October and have suffered two more losses and a few failed medicated cycles.
No advice, it just sucks. Hugs 
pomelo / 5573 posts
Yes - I got pregnant in August 2013, my due date was May 4. I kept thinking to myself that I needed to be pregnant again by then and I wasn't, and it was heartbreaking. It took just over another year - the next May 4 fell between retrieval and transfer for what would be a successful IVF. It's really hard and I'm sorry.
cherry / 187 posts
This was me last year. My due date was October 12 2016 and I miscarried last March. We were trying that whole time in between my m/c and my due date, and was still not pregnant by the time the date came. It was sad, but I agree with purplepumps, I think the build was worse.
I actually ended up ovulating on that date and found out I was pregnant 2 weeks later. I know it's just coincidence but I like to feel like there was some kind of connection there
pear / 1767 posts
This happened to me in February 2016. I had gotten pregnant in June 2015 after trying for 6 months and then had a loss. I went on to have another loss in December 2015. My due date with the first loss was in February 2016 and it was definitely difficult. My husband and I actually planned a weekend away so we wouldn't sit around wallowing. We had a great weekend and I actually started experiencing implantation cramping that weekend and now she is 6 months old. I know it is easier said that done but try to remain positive. 
apricot / 334 posts
milestones like this are so difficult, just want you to know that you are not alone...big hugs
apricot / 360 posts
I'm currently going through this as well. I lost my first baby in November 2016 at 19.5 weeks. I didn't miscarry, but I had a termination for medical reasons due to a chromosome abnormality that was missed in the first trimester.
We started officially trying again in January and I was so hoping to be pregnant before my due date in April, but that didn't happen. I knew it wasn't too likely since that only gave us 3 months of trying, but it was still hard to not be pregnant by then.
I was dreading the due date, but on the actual day it wasn't too bad and getting past it actually made me feel better and a bit more relaxed about trying to conceive.
I'm sorry you're going through this.
pomelo / 5524 posts
This has happened to me. I found trying to keep myself busy leading up to the date helped. On the actual day, treat yourself to something special...a pedicure or a massage. It's incredibly difficult to deal with, and I felt like everyone around me was announcing their pregnancies. It's so hard and want to send you some love
clementine / 880 posts
Thanks ladies. It's good to know I'm not alone. Everyone else around me seems pregnant and there are so many constant reminders of what I'm going through that i can't seem to distract my mind.
We're going to an ivf orientation next week to learn more about ivf and will do one more iui before moving on to ivf. I feel like I'm going to put a lot of pressure on the next iui because of that, but i guess it's good to have a plan
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