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I think it would help if you included DH in on the process? We were lucky to get pregnant quickly so I did not have to stress out too much but DH was in on my stresses so that definitely helped. If he doesn't want to know ALL the details then that is fine, but at least you can clue him. Parenting is such a joint process that I think it should start from TTC.

Ladyfingers, I know exactly what you mean about feeling like you're going crazy already. My first cycle TTC (and we're on our second cycle right now) I drove myself to the brink of insanity. I went through so many emotions: hopefulness, excitement when I swore everything I was feeling was a symptom, despair when I swore that I was doing all this for nothing because I'll never get pregnant, ever... you name it. There is no grounds whatsoever right now for me to have felt that way. It's just my nature of freaking-out and being a pessimist when it comes to good things happening to me I guess. Who knows. I decided I really needed to step away mentally from it all, unhealthy! They say that stress inhibits the process and maybe if all of the charting, temping, etc is stressing you out, like the PP said maybe step away for a few months. You may not even need to do that, yaknow?
I'm not sure what made me stop freaking out about it. I guess I thought, it'll happen when it happens and all the freaking out in the world won't change it. Also, the fact that our cat passed away last week really made freaking out over the TTC process less a priority in my mind right now, coping with that grief.

We are on our 5th cycle and I was the same way you are. I felt a ton of pressure for it to happen that first month, I'm not sure why. It actually has gotten a little better for me each month. I just ASSUMED we'd get pregnant the first month so just remember, and I know it sucks, but it can take any where from 6-12 months so don't stress about this first month. I think it's great you're charting. For me, at least it helped me to know that I was in fact ovulating bc I was the same as you, convinced it wouldn't happen for us. Hang in there!!

We're in cycle 2 and I know how you feel. We're just recently married and I feel like every minute that went in to planning the wedding is now being spent thinking about getting pregnant.
I charted and used OPKs the first month and decided that I'm not going to do that again for a couple months.

It's hard, but I do feel less pressure this month than I did last month. If you make a goal not to chart or temp or anything try to stick with it- then reward yourself with something when you make it!

Last, remember to have fun! DH is much happier this month now that I'm not all "its time, its time" and we're going with the flow more.

@MrsLMA: I personally thought OPKs made me MORE crazy! I guess if I did use them in the future it would be the expensive digital ones. The strips just leave WAY too much to the imagination

Having my husband involved really helps keep me sane. When AF shows up he keeps me from getting too upset by reminding me that it will happen when it is meant to and stuff like that. After a few months we started charting and this month I started OPKs. I feel better doing those things because I don't stress about missing the fertile window.