Lovely article on a v lucky little boy. Will/did you insist on being allowed to cuddle your baby/ies skin-to-skin before heel pricks, weighing etc?
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I did! So glad I did too. Glad that I got to have my bonding time before all the family and visitors came and scooped up lo. I had her all to myself for over an hour (hubby was there too of course ) before we let people in.
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LO and I didn't get much skin to skin time .. definitely will be insisting on it for baby #2. I was in such a daze the first time around. :T
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@chopsuey119: I'm probably having a section, so I'm kind of afraid of that, not being aware enough to insist! I have DH drilled on it though, so hopefully he'll speak up.
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@aunt pol: Definitely have DH speak up! Haha. I think my DH actually had more skin to skin with our LO than I did! It's ALL he wanted to do during the first few weeks of her life..
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men... dh is convinced he'll have loads of lovely naps on the couch with a baba on his chest. Eh, no. His laptop has hit the floor more than once from that position!
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@aunt pol: I made sure my husband knew to tell them too. I didn't have a birth plan, but that's the one thing I really wanted. I also told the nurse multiple times that I wanted it, that was probably one of the first things I said when I was admitted.
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Yes! We both want to experience this time badly! DH and I also have an enormous family (this baby has 8 grandparents and 12 living great grandparents) that we've been worried we won't get time with her ourselves before the madness of visitors begins. We have begun discussing taking at least 1 hour post delivery just the 3 of us. Is this something you request? Or communicate with family before birth?
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@Nskillet: I think your best bet if you want the 1 hour post birth to yourself, is to wait to call people until you are ready for them to come. Communicate with your families, that you will not be calling until you are ready for visitors. Leaving it all on the nurses is a huge pain in the butt, we have way too much to do (like actually taking care of patients) to be playing prison guard against your family members.
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@Nskillet: Definitely talk to family beforehand. You can't have them all trooping in so soon after, what's wrong with the next day when you, DH and the baba have all had a little rest and something to eat?!
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@Nskillet: We told our parents first. I thought they'd be more dissapointed than they were, they understood why we were doing it. Of course they were anxious when the baby was here, but they waited 9 months they could wait one more hour.
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@aunt pol: my mother is insane that's why lol! She wants to be at the hospital when I'm in labor and has repeatedly said she "fears" I won't call her.
I love my family and DHs but we do want alone time so I'm going to have a chat with our families when we see them next about expectations. They will all get to see/hold/ love her but not before Daddy and Mom do!
@artbee sounds perfect to me. I think we will take a similar route! Were they all waiting at the hospital?
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@Nskillet: What did I do about what? Talking to our parents or the actual skin on skin after LO was born?
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Sorry edited my post you're too quick!
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@Nskillet: They were. They came up to visit when I was in labor, but they didn't stay long. They all hung out downstairs together waiting for updates. There was a screen that keeps them updated on how far along I was, plus my husband was texting different updates. Then when she came out he snapped a picture and sent it to them so they could at least see her. Also, our hospital plays Brahm's lullaby every time a baby is born so they got to hear that.
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@Nskillet: Also, the nurses are on your side. Make them be the bad guy, they'll be happy to tell your family that they aren't allowed in.
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We had lots of cuddle time. She was wrapped up for some of it though. I did get to hold her right away and she pooped on me some, but it was the cutest poop. They wiped her up briefly and brought her back quickly to nurse and then me and my husband took turns holding her. We got about an hour before they took her to be weighed and bathed and my husband went along with her for that. I got to eat during that time and take a shower myself .
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@Maysprout: My LO pooped on me too! Twice... and then they finally diapered her.
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@Nskillet: best way to deal with your mums 'fears' is to tell her you'll make her a promise if she makes you one. You'll call, as long as she promises to do what she's told and come in when you're ready!
Thankfully that bit won't be an issue for us- the hospitals are super strict on visitors here- its DH/birth partner only for labour, and outside visiting hours the same. Also I think it's a cultural thing- I (HOPE I) don't know anyone rude enough to just barge on in, if I'm a few days in hosp the only visitors I'd expect are DH's parents. People will come to admire the babas when we're home. -
@aunt pol: you're lucky! American hospitals operate much much differetly. I'm also assuming the worst cause I'm so excited at this point I can barely stand it lol
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I definitely want to have some alone time with me, hubs, and baby before the family descends. Our family is all about 1.5 hours away, so I think we'll call/text to let them know when we go in, then call/text when baby's born and that'll be their cue to head on down. That will give us at least 2 hours for it to be just our new family.
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I don't see any problem with you letting them know you're in labor, going through labor and then having the baby. Then, when you're comfortable with them knowing, have your hubby go out and tell them that the baby is here. They don't have to know that you have spent the last hour or two snuggling with your new little baby, not huffing and puffing to get him/her out. Seriously, are they going to be sitting outside your room, listening to you holler as you give birth?
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oh gosh..these comments are killing me, because I'm reading this! http://community.babycenter.com/post/a25798437/the_best_of_delivery_room_dramas?cpg=15&csi=2274466521&pd=1
I'm on a high page, but you can go back to page one. someone posted it on WB..it's hilarious(ly sad). some stories make you really wonder!
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@Nskillet: we told everyone to come the next day. We sent pictures that night though. I was in no shape to deal with my nutty, granola family until the next day... if that
We did have skin to skin for a 5-10 minutes after he was born, but I was in a complete daze, it took me a while to process what just happened.
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