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No. We're estranged. Even when we weren't she hated the holiday. We will be sending flowers and cards from the boys to MIL and my stepmom.
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No
She's a 4-5 hour flight away.
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@2PeasinaPod: it's Mother's Day. You need to make the men do all the cooking!
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@Smurfette: The issue is that my mom is a bully and dictates what is being cooked. My husband unfortunately doesn't know how to cook a turkey. It's what my mom wants for Mother's Day. I wanted to grill out so my husband could cook instead of me and was overruled by my not at all manipulative mother
My husband is wonderful and helps out as much as he can, but Mother's Day is 200% about my mother.
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@2PeasinaPod:
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Nope, we are going to a baseball game with my MIL but will be spending Saturday with my mom.
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Typically we don't because she lives in NJ and we live in FL, but her and her best friend are having a girls weekend at Disney to see us and spend time together, so we'll be with her Friday, Saturday, and Sunday.
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@Smurfette: LOL...I just re-read my response. I don't resentful or bitter
DH almost always surprises me with something on Saturday, so that's when we try to celebrate. I swear to him every year that when the boys grow up, I will not make a big deal about not being able to spend Mother's Day with them on the actual day. As long as we get to spend time together at some point, that's ok with me!
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@2PeasinaPod: well it is sad that you Mom is like that.
Although I do wish I could pick the menu on Mother's Day. The men cook so they plan it. But I get to pick where DH, LO, and I go to dinner to celebrate on Sat at least. -
Nope- she lives out of town.
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My parents are coming to visit us on Saturday because of how late in my pregnancy I am.
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@Smurfette: DH and I talk about that all the time and my brothers and SILs know too...they all really try to pitch in and help, but we all think the same. It would be really nice to spend it with each other and plan the way we'd like it to be! Same goes for Father's Day! My brother hosts, and he usually ends up grilling the millions of things my mom wants to have.
It also doesn't help that my mom hates my MIL, and my MIl doesn't tolerate her BS. Oh family drama....
How will you be spending your day??
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@2PeasinaPod: Frustrating!
We will spend the morning at home. Then around nap time (car nap for LO) we leave for my Aunt's. The whole family will be there and we spend the afternoon together and then have an early dinner. The guys are doing pulled pork this year. Yum! -
@2PeasinaPod: thanks! I'm not usually a sentimental/holiday person but Mother's Day really means a lot to me this year. Last year, on Mother's Day weekend, we accepted our referral and spent the weekend shopping for things for my son and spending time together watching videos of him. To be with him this year is just amazing.
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@Smurfette: I'm sorry but what is your problem?! Who do you think you are to say what is ok or not ok to do and under what circumstances?!
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Nope. We just saw my parents this past weekend, so I think that will be considered our Mother's Day get-together. And we don't celebrate with MIL for Mother's Day, though I'll try to get Hubs to call her.
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We don't live near either side of the family, but I just saw my MIL this past weekend and will see my mom next weekend so that'll do.
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No. I'll see her the next weekend, though.
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I hope to see my mom and sister either Sat or Sun but I live about two hours from them so it's difficult to get together sometimes. Plus, I am on call this weekend which makes it doubly hard.
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@hotchildinthecity: I love this...I secretly stalked your adoption journey and it makes me excited that your DH planned something special for you as a family!
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possibly! not sure as we had a change of plans last minute so i don't even know where we're sleeping Friday and Saturday night as we're going to visit family, but haven't figured anything out for sure. DH is making mother's day plans and i'm trying not to have expectations. i imagine we'll see my mom and MIL as they live close to each other.
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Nope, she passed away in 2010
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No, and I'm pretty sad about it actually
My family just lives too far away -- it's not affordable for me to fly there more than a few times a year. I am going Memorial Day Weekend, though, which isn't too far away.
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Yes, of course. My mom had to put up with me for 26 years, I love any day I get to celebrate her. She's a gem. I wouldn't have it any other way. Celebrate being a mom and having the best mom with my mom.
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No, all our family live overseas. Plus, British Mother's Day was over a month ago, so we already did the appreciating my mum and MIL thing with cards etc back then. It means that for us, the North American Mother's Day literally is all about me
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No, my mom lives a few hours away and I'll see her around Memorial Day. Honestly it was never a big deal in my family, both as a kid and as an adult. Growing up we probably went out to eat, but I don't have strong memories of it.
As a mom now, I look at it as "my day" to celebrate having my son and as a thank you for all the work I do as a mom. That's not to say my mom does nothing, but it's a totally different ballgame to be the mom of an adult than it is to be the mom of a toddler. I'll call my mom and I sent her a card and we'll call it a day. If we lived closer I'd make more of an effort, but it's not like I'd ever feel like I need to go visit them for mother's day.
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We are going to be visiting my ILs and also my brother, SIL, and family. It's a 12 plus hour road trip for us but we'll be visiting for a week. I brought my mom flowers a few weeks ago and am taking her a card tomorrow. She's in declining health so she doesn't like to eat any more or go out or visit outside of her room so I kept it simple with flowers and a card this year.
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Nope. She doesn't live nearby.
MIL lives nearby but will be out of town.
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Mothers day was a few weeks back here. This year and lasy, we visited my mum and MIL on the Saturday - we took cards and flowers - then the Sunday was a lovely family day.
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Yep, my in laws are coming up for the weekend and my mom lives next door. We are going to see a play Saturday with the whole family and all going to brunch on Sunday.
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I'll see her at church. We won't be doing lunch because H always falls asleep in the car after 5 minutes (church is right during her normal lunch/naptime). Then we will be going out to dinner as a family.
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Sort of. We'll see her saturday. But not really for mother's day. She asked if she could come down and hang out with my kid for a few hours because she was missing her and said DH and I could leave and go to a movie if we wanted to. (<-- hell yes).
The only problem is that we already had plans to see her the next weekend so I thought I had until then to get her a mother's day gift but now I've got 3 days to figure it out lol.
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Nope - my mother's in Canada and I'm in Australia! We'll probably FaceTime or something. But in general we aren't really celebrators of many holidays - we routinely forget mother's day, father's day, easter, you name it. We all spent so much time away from each other while my sister and I were growing up, we just enjoy the time we get together and don't worry about making it about a holiday (last year we had turkey and presents on January 11th cause no one could be bothered to cook on Christmas and we mostly forgot to buy things for each other).
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Yes but trying to please everyone has taken some effort this year.
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No, but only because she lives a couple hours away and we have plans with MIL (I'd much rather see my mom). But I'll see her the next week when she comes up for my graduation.
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Yes. We all live near each other and I want to see her to celebrate. ..we had a rough patch a few years ago when sibling work schedules got crazy and we had to change lunch to an afternoon dessert get together - my mom isn't thrilled with the change and sulked but seems to have come around.
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Yep
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It's the first Mother's Day since my grandma died, so I'm going to the cemetery with her while DH takes his mom out for breakfast with the boys. The majority of the day will be about what I want to do though - luckily both of our moms totally agree that Mother's Day is mainly about those who are in the active mothering years. Not that you stop being a mom when your kids move out, but it's just a very different role when they're still little.
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I'm one of the horrible selfish people that wants my first Mother's Day to be about me and our little family. Just spent a week with MIL and my mom already has her gift, so I don't feel the least bit guilty.
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No, she lives across country. We spent last Mother's Day together!
I will see my MiL though. DH has a work thing in the town they live in the night before so we are going to stay the weekend up there. Definitely not what I had pictured, but that's life as a mom, haha! I don't think anyone should feel bad about wanting a day to be about them. I feel like we always push moms down and make them feel guilty about working/not doing everything "right"/being selfish if they do anything for themselves. And then the one day a year you are supposed to be thanked, it's selfish to want that??
On the other hand, I do think we should go see MIL. I would be sad if my boys lived an hour away and I never got to see them on Mother's Day when they are grown.
My husband is wonderful and helps out as much as he can, but Mother's Day is 200% about my mother.
DH almost always surprises me with something on Saturday, so that's when we try to celebrate. I swear to him every year that when the boys grow up, I will not make a big deal about not being able to spend Mother's Day with them on the actual day. As long as we get to spend time together at some point, that's ok with me!
My family just lives too far away -- it's not affordable for me to fly there more than a few times a year. I am going Memorial Day Weekend, though, which isn't too far away.
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